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Do you feel "Socially Isolated"?

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by Aspie_With_Attitude, Jun 30, 2018.

  1. Aspie_With_Attitude

    Aspie_With_Attitude Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I had just finished my next video called "Social Isolation".



    This time, I had created Blues as the background music for this one and kept away from flickering lighting effects.

    Do you feel socially isolated right now? Have you ever been socially isolated in the past?

    Being socially isolated in the long haul is very dangerous, this caused depression and whatever follows after depression. I thought making a report for this Youtube would open my eyes on the subject which is a big issue that effect a lot of people with Autism at all ages.
     
  2. OlLiE

    OlLiE Well-Known Member

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    yes i do, and i love every second of it

    i tend consider that socialising with the vast majority of people a burden with much more cost than benefit, so i am eager to left alone
     
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  3. Progster

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    Yes, and yes. In the past, when I was a lot younger, I wished I had more friends, but now I enjoy my own company and generally prefer it that way.
     
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    I feel it and I don't think it's entirely ASD. The culture around me is so polarized, aggressive, youth oriented, superficial and faddish, violent, "fancy" and "glamorous", and selfish that I hope I don't fit in, but it gets lonely sometimes.
     
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  5. Shamar

    Shamar Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Yes, I feel socially isolated right now. I have felt socially isolated all my life. I would like very much, if even for a short while, to experience what not being socially isolated feels like. I have never in my life felt this.

    Agreed, this is VERY dangerous. I was in a depression before the age of six, and suicidal by nine. This lasted for the next twenty+ years. I am sometimes amazed that I am still alive.
     
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  6. SplendidSnail

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    Yes. I'm a member of a few groups whose activities I participate in regularly, but I wouldn't call any person in any of these groups a "friend". I have lots of acquaintances and get along with them reasonably well, but nobody that I think I can really call a friend.

    Going to these activities feels like a chore, and I usually spend most of the time at the activities eagerly waiting for the activity to be over. But if I go through a full weekend without any social contact at all, I come out of it feeling depressed.

    It's a catch 22. If I do something social, I don't enjoy it and look forward to it being over. But if I don't do anything social, I get depressed.
     
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  7. Mr Allen

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    I've made friends with some of the folks at my Taekwondo classes.

    On the whole I would like more friends my own age, in Junior school I had a wide circle of friends, some of whom used to come home with me for tea sometimes, or I'd go to theirs for tea, but that was 30 odd years ago, early to mid 80's.
     
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    Have always been. Overall, I'm not exactly a people person anyway.
     
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    Yes! And it does cause a great deal of depression in me.

    I do role-playing games. I've been with the same group for close to 20 years. Its only recently that I stopped feeling like the 3rd wheel on a unicycle.
     
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  10. Mary Anne

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    I was extremely social when I engaged daily in alcoholism. Without that, I have always enjoyed being alone, and cannot understand why people want to be around people so much. I can find so much to occupy my time and I enjoy doing it all alone. I enjoy dining out alone, and shopping alone, and seeing movies alone. I often say “No,’ to invites from others. My cats are plenty of company, though I do remember fondly times with live-in boyfriends over a span of 45 years. Since I stopped drinking, being alone is desirable.

    My jobs force me to deal with people all day. When I have no jobs, I can spend weeks alone and completely enjoy it.
     
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    I could have written this about myself. I have not, in my entire life, had a friend, at least as I understand the concept. Social interaction, as you said, is something of a chore and usually unpleasant. Much of the unpleasantness stems from the fact that I can never be a participant, but at best only an observer, despite an intense desire to be part of things.

    The phrase "as I understand the concept" probably says a lot about me and how my autism affects me.
     
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  12. Dillon Campbell

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    Do I feel socially isolated at the moment? Yes and all the time. Even though I don’t like being isolated from a group it’s better than hanging around people who are arrogant, selfish, and self absorbed.
     
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    I've always been isolated even when with a group of people.
    There have been two people in my life I called friend. That I was comfortable with and had like interests.
    Beyond that there have been a few "boyfriends." With that a romantic theme was involved.
    But, at the end of the day we always went our seperate ways.
    My parents were the only people that I felt truly connected with.
    Just the three of us in a bubble. Now I'm alone in the bubble.

    I've felt lost without them, but, if you can't feel close to the people you interact with on a daily basis,
    then there is the isolation. There are only a few things that I do wish I had someone to share with,
    but, not if I can't feel comfortable and close. That feels more like a masquerade act than enjoyment.
     
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    Besides my husband and brother yeah I am pretty socially isolated but it’s always been hard for me to make friends so it’s a vicious cycle.
     
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    For me isolation is practically a "lifestyle". A choice. Living a life with a reduced amount of stress from unnecessary social interactions.

    NTs claim isolation is inherently toxic. I beg to differ.
     
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