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Featured Do you actively try to prevent yourself from getting angry at the slightest thing?

Discussion in 'Friends, Family & Social Skills' started by BlueSky Aozora, Jan 11, 2020.

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  1. BlueSky Aozora

    BlueSky Aozora Well-Known Member

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    Do you feel angry at the 'slightest' thing? Sometimes (or many times?) the anger is irrational. Do you actively try to overcome it, to prevent your anger? Like going to anger management class or something. Do you make it your ultimate goal to overcome it?

    I think this is important because it's detrimental to the partner who got to bear the explosion of the anger.
     
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    You're right. Does my ex think it had no effect on me when he'd get mad at his laptop and throw it across the room? I've never understood why someone would destroy something they're going to have to replace. Like throwing the tv when your team loses.
    I like the way my mom did it. She'd be furious enough to want to knock everything off the shelf or whatever, but she didn't want to break anything so she'd set it on the floor gently. LOL
     
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  3. Bolletje

    Bolletje Potato chip wizard V.I.P Member

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    I’m not easily angered. I do get annoyed often. Outside I maintain a facade of friendliness and professionalism, but at home I allow myself to take off the mask and complain to my boyfriend about the annoyances of my day.
     
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  4. clg114

    clg114 Still crazy, after all these years. Staff Member V.I.P Member

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    My wife and I always watch all of the Boise State football games on TV. She gets upset at the referees when they make calls that she doesn't like. We have a bunch of small, foam BSU footballs that she throws at the TV. They are very small and very soft, so they do not hurt anything and they make her feel better.
     
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  5. Wolf Prince

    Wolf Prince My future job title.

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    Yep. Comedy helps.
     
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    Tom Well-Known Member V.I.P Member It's My Birthday!

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    Yes, definately. Habitually projecting negativity makes for an unpleasant atmosphere and I think is mentally unhealthy for themselves and those around them. My mood seems to naturally drift and I find at times I can get annoyed easily (over little things) and since realizing it have combated and suppressed it in daily life as much as possible with very positive results. I have regressions sometimes, but always try to get myself back on the horse, not so much for my sake as those around me.
     
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    GrownupGirl Tempermental Artist

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    I used to get angry really easily but I don't as much now since I'm living in an environment where there aren't people and things making me angry every single day.
     
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    Misery Photo-Negative V.I.P Member

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    I lose it pretty easily. Usually at machines that have Windows on them- er, I mean, that arent working right. Well, same thing.

    That, and micro-USB cables, which I'm pretty sure were created when Satan fished them out of his toilet.

    I keep a pair of scissors downstairs by the computer. Why? To chop those cables up into a million pieces when they fail. No, that's not a joke, I actually do that.

    The scissors get frequent use.


    As for dealing with those around me, well.... eh, they can tell when I'm feeling moody and will usually just keep away.
     
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  9. Aspychata

    Aspychata My Art Work

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    Nerf ball anger management, good technique..

    I am being mindful of sudden explosions of emotional feelings, which is helping regulate everything...
     
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    GadAbout Well-Known Member

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    I always say, it's not worth getting angry over ... or, when you allow that much anger, it punishes yourself and those around you. I do often say these things to loved ones who need a bit of calming down.
     
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    Fridgemagnetman I only have one V.I.P Member

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    Go BANANAS

    Acronym
    Breathe a new attitude, nice and slow.
     
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    Kinda like how I throw a balled up sock at my cat when he’s being a jerk. It doesn’t hurt him and due to being startled he generally forgets what he was doing, or he attacks the sock. Win-win situation.
     
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    Wolf Prince My future job title.

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    That horse sounds tastey. May i nibble?
     
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    Aspychata My Art Work

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    Too bad we can't walk around with rolled up balls of socks in life, there would be way less stressed out people. Lol Just clean socks only!! I think l am learning to dial down all my emotions
     
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    Cats prefer smelly socks. And no heavyweight socks thanks our craniums are delicate. Also, karma says that you'll be GETTING THE SMELLY SOCKS BACK THREEFOLD.
    Aw, did I catterwaul that too loud? Like I care...
     
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    Aspychata My Art Work

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    SMELLY SOCK AREA Enter at your own risk.
     
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    This actually works :)


    I often Go Bananas.

    Altogether a much kinder, more humorous way to deal with those smouldering embers of frustration.

    Quite difficult to get frustrated at the same time as being amused.
    Allows a pause to breathe and think.
    -rather than react.

    Good stuff :)
     
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    Wow, I saw this and read it as: "Allows a mouse to throw a sink" and was quite confused.

    Perhaps I should go get my glasses.
     
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    I had irrationally angry parental units so I know the bad effect it has on people around them, more like abuse. So I try to hold it together even when I'm annoyed, and just scream in my car, take a nap at home, or have a few drinks. Works most of the time.
     
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    BlueSky Aozora Well-Known Member

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    I expected no answer at all, or serious answers, but you all are so funny! :tearsofjoy: Thanks for the laugh and useful answers.
     
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