Throughout my life, though not as much as I’ve gotten older, people say to me, “You take everything personally.” After being here for a number of years and interacting with those on the spectrum from all over the world, different cultures and lifestyles, etc, it has made me wonder. Allow me to try to explain and open the door for some dialogue.
I have seen a simple post here go from just that to a heated debate quickly because it was taken personally by someone. In my own life, I encounter people on a daily basis that say or do things that strike me as being personal and therefore require an immediate response even though one is not necessary . . . or useful. Over the years I have worked to discipline myself to not react quickly realizing that what was said or done may have been superficial and not a personal affront.
For me personally, when I was younger I felt as though I constantly had to defend myself and set the record straight. As I got older, I realized that in most cases the situation really didn't matter. As it turned out, idle discussions like at work were superficial and had no bearing on anything. Unfortunately, I didn't catch on for many years and would try to correct something only to come across as a jerk even though that wasn't my intention.
Nowadays I tend to let such things pass even if I know for a fact that what was said or done was incorrect unless it affects me personally or what I am trying to do.
So, are aspies more inclined to take everything personally? Do we like to debate for the sake of debating or do we feel it necessary to set the record straight? If so, why do we feel it necessary?
I have seen a simple post here go from just that to a heated debate quickly because it was taken personally by someone. In my own life, I encounter people on a daily basis that say or do things that strike me as being personal and therefore require an immediate response even though one is not necessary . . . or useful. Over the years I have worked to discipline myself to not react quickly realizing that what was said or done may have been superficial and not a personal affront.
For me personally, when I was younger I felt as though I constantly had to defend myself and set the record straight. As I got older, I realized that in most cases the situation really didn't matter. As it turned out, idle discussions like at work were superficial and had no bearing on anything. Unfortunately, I didn't catch on for many years and would try to correct something only to come across as a jerk even though that wasn't my intention.
Nowadays I tend to let such things pass even if I know for a fact that what was said or done was incorrect unless it affects me personally or what I am trying to do.
So, are aspies more inclined to take everything personally? Do we like to debate for the sake of debating or do we feel it necessary to set the record straight? If so, why do we feel it necessary?
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