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I'm self-diagnosed AS.
My most recent relationship ended on my terms. He did not know I was on the spectrum and neither did I. He has made some efforts to reconnect but in my mind it is over. I have revisited all my previous relationships (not a long list) and I have either cut them out of my life completely, or never really invested in them so when they left I didn't care.
Personally, when my mind is made up I find it near impossible to imagine what anyone can say to change my mind. If I can think of something they could say or do, I would find a way for them to do it, as I really do want to believe the best in people and make love not war.
My view is that unless the breakup was due to fundamental differences then a level of friendship can be maintained. I prefer to keep what works and put aside what doesn't. Say, sex was not compatible. Then take that out and keep what does work. Tailor the relationship to suit the parties not society.Thank you, Lady Penelope. Your response is really helpful.
But did you miss the good times you shared with them and wished those times never ended? I know this is personal but I really would like to have an insight from you.
Further, do you like to stay friends with your exes?
Thanks
Thank you, Lady Penelope. Your response is really helpful.
But did you miss the good times you shared with them and wished those times never ended? I know this is personal but I really would like to have an insight from you.
Further, do you like to stay friends with your exes?
Thanks
Thanks, OcarinaMy autistic ex came back after I broke up with him - we'd been together 3 years and I was finding myself increasingly becoming harmed by having to shoe horn myself into a role (that ironically I'd created for myself!) I realised what was happening and that he wasn't able to change and ended the relationship for my own sanity.
Fast forward 18 months during which time I assumed he just didn't care and tried to move on, we reconnected - I was extremely hesitant, I love him to the end of the earth but had been really hurt and didn't want more of the same. He had made some profound changes and assured me he would to anything to prove things would be different and they were for a while - but a year down the line when some stressors hit him, he couldn't cope and retreated - not just for a few days, but for months. Didn't want to discuss what was going on with him, just became effectively unavailable - working 24/7 and drinking alot.
I was tolerant and accepting but eventually I realised this was all he was going to be able to offer - that I needed to put my life on hold in order fit myself into his and I wasn't prepared to martyr myself in this way and the rest is history. Sadly.
Thanks, Ocarina
Are you still friends with him?
Did he come back?Thank you all of you.
My aspie husband took a very harsh decision to divorce me within couple of months of marriage without assigning any reason. He went into his shell. I tried to reconcile using best possible ways but in vain. He avoided me, cut off all contact with me and put all blame on me. All this while, he hid the fact of his aspergers. I came to know of his aspergers from some other source which broke me down. This break down on my part was not due to the fact that he has aspergers but because of the fact that he cheated by not disclosing. All the while he kept on saying that he is very practical, logical and realistic (which he hardly is !!!). I still love him but I am unable to convince him that we can work out our marriage. Therefore, I have agreed to go ahead with divorce proceedings. But somewhere deep inside I feel he will come back and realise his love for me. Will this ever happen? I really love him....