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Honestly, judging by what you’ve typed on here, I think you don’t know yourself as well as you think; I think you stopped getting to know yourself after your diagnosis, and just gave up on it.How come a lot of people feel relieved when they finally get a diagnosis and know what's wrong with them? I always used to think i could work on myself, i could learn social skills, pick up more hobbies, make more friends and try harder etc. But when i found out I was autistic it felt like everything was set in stone, i could never change. Getting diagnosed was awful for me, it all went down hill from then on.
I have been trying to get my life back together but it's hard, i have bouts of motivation but they never last, negative thoughts always come crawling back into my mind. Some people here have told i could suffer from depression, but my mood is all over the place honestly, it's not a consistent low, it goes from happy and motivated to suicidal ideation in a matter of hours. I can't say I don't miss being in a bubble unaware of autism, i don't even know who I am anymore.
How come a lot of people feel relieved when they finally get a diagnosis and know what's wrong with them? I always used to think i could work on myself, i could learn social skills, pick up more hobbies, make more friends and try harder etc. But when i found out I was autistic it felt like everything was set in stone, i could never change. Getting diagnosed was awful for me, it all went down hill from then on.
I have been trying to get my life back together but it's hard, i have bouts of motivation but they never last, negative thoughts always come crawling back into my mind. Some people here have told i could suffer from depression, but my mood is all over the place honestly, it's not a consistent low, it goes from happy and motivated to suicidal ideation in a matter of hours. I can't say I don't miss being in a bubble unaware of autism, i don't even know who I am anymore.
Why did I feel relieved? Because I too tried to do all these things, and failed. My diagnosis gave me a reason for this, closure, and a reason not to be too hard on myself. Before, I thought I must be a bad person, worthless and with low self-esteem. I never understood why I was different, and why people treated me different. I didn't understand why other people could socialise so easily without problems, but I never could. Now, I know that I'm not bad or defective, and that there is a reason for my differences, and most crucially, that it's not my fault.I always used to think i could work on myself, i could learn social skills, pick up more hobbies, make more friends and try harder etc.
Exactly. I feel one with the world when paddling a boat on a lovely river.Exercise is great at stabilizing moods,
What you have to try to understand and accept is NOTHING has changed . You're STILL EXATLY the same person you were prior to you're diagnose. The only difference is you now know you have this and so do the medical field so they now can hopefully give you the help and support you need & above all YOU now have an explanation on why you have certain problems in life.
You can now with the knowledge of you're diagnose start to learn about what this diagnose is and how it works (on YOU as all NP diagnosis are individual ) & from this knowledge you can learn how to cope and adapt to all this.
How come a lot of people feel relieved when they finally get a diagnosis and know what's wrong with them? I always used to think i could work on myself, i could learn social skills, pick up more hobbies, make more friends and try harder etc. But when i found out I was autistic it felt like everything was set in stone, i could never change. Getting diagnosed was awful for me, it all went down hill from then on.
I have been trying to get my life back together but it's hard, i have bouts of motivation but they never last, negative thoughts always come crawling back into my mind. Some people here have told i could suffer from depression, but my mood is all over the place honestly, it's not a consistent low, it goes from happy and motivated to suicidal ideation in a matter of hours. I can't say I don't miss being in a bubble unaware of autism, i don't even know who I am anymore.
I suspect the difference may be the age difference at diagnosis. It seems that the older someone is at diagnosis, the longer they have had - the more life they have experienced as autistic without knowing why they were so different. This builds piles of questions about why is my life like this. Then, decades later, all those questions are answered by learning they are autistic. At that point, it is a great feeling of relief. I think everyone knows that the diagnosis and knowledge doesn't fix anything, but the mystery is solved. While nothing is actually "fixed" with a diagnosis, things can be much better. For example, I never knew that there were triggers to my anxiety, lockups, meltdowns, and stifling depression. Learning about autism has helped me learn what those triggers are and I'm learning how to avoid them. That has made my life profoundly better. I wish I had know that a long time ago.How come a lot of people feel relieved when they finally get a diagnosis and know what's wrong with them? I always used to think i could work on myself, i could learn social skills, pick up more hobbies, make more friends and try harder etc. But when i found out I was autistic it felt like everything was set in stone, i could never change. Getting diagnosed was awful for me, it all went down hill from then on.
Thats exactly what i have been doing for years before i got my diagnosis.
I don't have friends, i don't really talk to anyone in my family except for my father and little sister. I want to continue studying math, electrical engineering and comp science, i don't have any other goals in life.
I was reading trough some chat logs of me talking to people today, its really clear how i am trapped inside my own emotions and don't seek to be on the same wavelength as the person i am talking to, i just can't read people in the moment, only after the whole conversation has happened i can see what i did wrong. I am never going to be able to intuitively tune into other peoples moods, i don't think an autistic person can't learn or grow at all, but there are core deficits in autism that will never change. I feel so severely trapped inside my own head.
Couple days ago i went to school for the first time this year, i tried talking a bit with someone but i felt like a total alien like i always do.
Im tired of it all to be honest, just feels like not having a broken deformed brain is the only solution to my problems.
Im not sure how to respond to all the replies i have gotten but i have read them all, i might write another reply tomorrow if i have energy.