Hi. I just registered to this forum, I hope I am posting in the right place.
Today is quite a difficult day, as I am struggling to find meaning and to understand myself.
I fight a lot with the fact that I don't have a clear diagnosis yet, and that my therapist doesn't seem to understand why it is so important to me to have a "label". I am a very anti-label person in other areas of my life, but I want a label in this one, so I can imagine it is confusing to them.
Currently, I have an "official" diagnosis of "Mood disorder not otherwise specified (MD-NOS)", and it bothers me A LOT.
MD-NOS "is a mood disorder that is impairing but does not fit in with any of the other officially specified diagnoses", or as I say "we don't know what is happening to you, but we need to put something on your file so insurance will cover your treatment". Or, as I also define it "the kitchen sink of diagnosis where we put all the misfits".
In the past I have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and then borderline personality disorder (not anymore); I've been tested for ADHD (negative); I've gone through anxiety, panic attacks, OCD, psychosis, chronic insomnia; I have a great deal of trauma for sure because of my abusive childhood.
So why I am in an Autism forum?
When I was a child I started thinking I could be autistic, from what I read about autism at the time, and I finally asked my first psychiatrist if that could be possible, and he said that I don't look autistic, and that I am too "functional and well integrated" to be autistic. He is also the doctor who said I had bipolar disorder and treated me for it, so I am not sure I trust his judgment.
I am indeed very functional (whatever it means) and from the outside I have a great life, with a partner who loves me, my kids, many friends, I work and are apparently able to do anything.
But inside it is a constant struggle.
At the moment, the only thing my therapist is sure of is that I have recurring depression, and I have unhealthy ways to cope when my emotions are too strong (eating, working, self-harming, isolating).
I am pissed at the fact that they don't seem to grasp why is important to me to have a proper diagnosis, and that I am so tired of struggling after years of self-analysis, different kinds of therapy, medications, while I don't seem to get to the core of the problem.
So now I am convinced I could be on the spectrum, and that this caused part of my issues with social interactions, relationships, my constant feeling of not belonging, not fitting in, not getting how the world goes, and so on.
Sure I had a bad childhood with an emotionally and psychologically abusive family of narcissists, but this doesn't explain everything.
I tried some online tests (I know, I know) and it looks like I "could" be on the spectrum.
I am so tired and stressed by not knowing and constantly missing a piece.
My therapist thinks I shouldn't worry about "labels" and just focus on changing my harming behaviors and make healthy choices (I am doing schema therapy).
I desperately want to know WHY I am recurrently depressed and why it is always a struggle.
If you read so far thanks! I am confused so this probably came out confused as well.
Thanks for listening.
Today is quite a difficult day, as I am struggling to find meaning and to understand myself.
I fight a lot with the fact that I don't have a clear diagnosis yet, and that my therapist doesn't seem to understand why it is so important to me to have a "label". I am a very anti-label person in other areas of my life, but I want a label in this one, so I can imagine it is confusing to them.
Currently, I have an "official" diagnosis of "Mood disorder not otherwise specified (MD-NOS)", and it bothers me A LOT.
MD-NOS "is a mood disorder that is impairing but does not fit in with any of the other officially specified diagnoses", or as I say "we don't know what is happening to you, but we need to put something on your file so insurance will cover your treatment". Or, as I also define it "the kitchen sink of diagnosis where we put all the misfits".
In the past I have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and then borderline personality disorder (not anymore); I've been tested for ADHD (negative); I've gone through anxiety, panic attacks, OCD, psychosis, chronic insomnia; I have a great deal of trauma for sure because of my abusive childhood.
So why I am in an Autism forum?
When I was a child I started thinking I could be autistic, from what I read about autism at the time, and I finally asked my first psychiatrist if that could be possible, and he said that I don't look autistic, and that I am too "functional and well integrated" to be autistic. He is also the doctor who said I had bipolar disorder and treated me for it, so I am not sure I trust his judgment.
I am indeed very functional (whatever it means) and from the outside I have a great life, with a partner who loves me, my kids, many friends, I work and are apparently able to do anything.
But inside it is a constant struggle.
At the moment, the only thing my therapist is sure of is that I have recurring depression, and I have unhealthy ways to cope when my emotions are too strong (eating, working, self-harming, isolating).
I am pissed at the fact that they don't seem to grasp why is important to me to have a proper diagnosis, and that I am so tired of struggling after years of self-analysis, different kinds of therapy, medications, while I don't seem to get to the core of the problem.
So now I am convinced I could be on the spectrum, and that this caused part of my issues with social interactions, relationships, my constant feeling of not belonging, not fitting in, not getting how the world goes, and so on.
Sure I had a bad childhood with an emotionally and psychologically abusive family of narcissists, but this doesn't explain everything.
I tried some online tests (I know, I know) and it looks like I "could" be on the spectrum.
I am so tired and stressed by not knowing and constantly missing a piece.
My therapist thinks I shouldn't worry about "labels" and just focus on changing my harming behaviors and make healthy choices (I am doing schema therapy).
I desperately want to know WHY I am recurrently depressed and why it is always a struggle.
If you read so far thanks! I am confused so this probably came out confused as well.
Thanks for listening.