1. Welcome to Autism Forums, a friendly forum to discuss Aspergers Syndrome, Autism, High Functioning Autism and related conditions.

    Your voice is missing! You will need to register to get access to the following site features:
    • Reply to discussions and create your own threads.
    • Our modern chat room. No add-ons or extensions required, just login and start chatting!
    • Private Member only forums for more serious discussions that you may wish to not have guests or search engines access to.
    • Your very own blog. Write about anything you like on your own individual blog.

    We hope to see you as a part of our community soon! Please also check us out @ https://www.twitter.com/aspiescentral

Dealing with Meltdowns/Shutdowns

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by shinobi, Aug 13, 2019.

  1. shinobi

    shinobi New Member

    Messages:
    12
    Joined:
    Aug 13, 2019
    Karma:
    +11
    My question is, how do you cope?

    I still struggle even to this very day when everything overwhelms me. I've had grown adults making fun of me in public, labeling me as a "spoiled brat" and demanding me to be taken to hospital to be "drugged and locked up".

    Usually when people approach me slowly in a quiet tone and just talk to me, I start to calm down. Ear defenders really help as well. I keep a colouring book with me as well, some retailers sell colouring books for adults, I find it very therapeutic.
     
    • Like Like x 2
  2. Wolf Prince

    Wolf Prince My future job title.

    Messages:
    1,166
    Joined:
    Jul 23, 2019
    Karma:
    +1,879
    I try and stay away from things like that will cause that. If i cant then i build myself up until I can face it.
     
    • Agree Agree x 1
  3. dragonfire42

    dragonfire42 Perpetual outsider

    Messages:
    165
    Joined:
    Aug 7, 2019
    Karma:
    +196
    I'm more prone to "shutdowns" these days, but I'm pretty good at telling when it's going to happen with enough warning that I can at least get myself outside so it at least isn't happening in the middle of a crowded public space. I've found that playing time-waster games that don't require much thought on my phone really helps keep me distracted and grounded enough to avoid a lot of "meltdowns"/"shutdowns".
     
    • Agree Agree x 2
  4. Autistamatic

    Autistamatic He's just this guy, you know? V.I.P Member

    Messages:
    2,870
    Joined:
    Sep 2, 2018
    Karma:
    +7,662
    Avoiding situations that trigger me is the only defence that has ever worked for me. I'm more of a shutdowner but the principle's the same. I have structured my life and routine to minimise my exposure to things that get to me. Work was a major source of such stress for many years and one I could do little about, but even that is under control now.

    Think of the old joke...

    "Doctor, Doctor - it hurts when I do this..."
    "Well don't do it then!"
     
    • Like Like x 2
    • Winner Winner x 1
  5. Southern Discomfort

    Southern Discomfort Smarter than the Average Bear V.I.P Member

    Messages:
    2,161
    Joined:
    Oct 12, 2015
    Karma:
    +2,981
    I don't have meltdowns. Never have. So I have nothing to add to this thread but since I'm here do yourself a favour: what sounds offensive and what is offensive is different. My major gripe with the autism community is that a lot of people get too upset over the words used instead of having discussion and challenging views on matters that really do make a difference.

    Being careful with words is good but make sure you don't over do it.
     
    Last edited: Aug 14, 2019
    • Agree Agree x 3
    • Like Like x 1
  6. Shamar

    Shamar Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

    Messages:
    429
    Joined:
    Apr 11, 2018
    Karma:
    +1,142
    You will find there are nearly as many ways to deal with these things as there are members here. Everyone is different and needs to deal with it in their own way. When I feel it getting to be too much, I deal with it by going into the woods, finding a decent size stick, and beating rocks with it while screaming until exhausted. I don't let it get to the point where I lose control, I do something about it before it gets that far.
     
    • Agree Agree x 1
  7. Fino

    Fino Alex V.I.P Member

    Messages:
    4,087
    Joined:
    Sep 22, 2018
    Karma:
    +8,479
    I've never heard of the idea that "meltdown" is offensive. Does anyone know why?
     
    • Agree Agree x 5
    • Like Like x 1
  8. Suzanne

    Suzanne Well-Known Member

    Messages:
    4,257
    Joined:
    Nov 24, 2014
    Karma:
    +7,047
    Having chronic agoraphobia and social phobia, stops me from meltdowns in public.

    At home, I have to be alone, but taking medicine for anger issues and that does calm me down a lot.
     
    • Agree Agree x 1
    • Friendly Friendly x 1
  9. Progster

    Progster Gone sideways to the sun V.I.P Member

    Messages:
    5,911
    Joined:
    Nov 23, 2014
    Karma:
    +12,638
    This. I avoid known triggers, and if I can't deal with something at that point, or am upset, I give it time; I wait until I feel I can face it. Unfortunately, it's not always possible to avoid problems as some incidents can crop up suddenly, and these are hard to deal with. I often engage in a discreet stim, such as biting the inside of my cheek, or rubbing a key in my pocket, to distract myself and dissipate the surge of negative emotion.
     
  10. Wolf Prince

    Wolf Prince My future job title.

    Messages:
    1,166
    Joined:
    Jul 23, 2019
    Karma:
    +1,879
    Or get a lava lamp background for your cell phone.
     
    • Like Like x 2
    • Agree Agree x 1
  11. shinobi

    shinobi New Member

    Messages:
    12
    Joined:
    Aug 13, 2019
    Karma:
    +11
    I don't have a fear of leaving the house, but I am an introvert and I agree being indoors away from large crowds helps avoid me from having one of my episodes.

    I have to take medication to calm me down too, my doctor has prescribed me with antidepressants and tranquillizers.
     
  12. Bolletje

    Bolletje Overly complicated potato V.I.P Member

    Messages:
    3,881
    Joined:
    Jan 3, 2017
    Karma:
    +10,445
    Depending on the type of meltdown I either go for a walk in the park or lying in bed in fetal position.
     
    • Friendly Friendly x 1
  13. Aspychata

    Aspychata My Art Work

    Messages:
    2,698
    Joined:
    Feb 12, 2019
    Karma:
    +4,852
    Trigger warning. So you have gone into full meltdown mode, everyone is exiting around you.

    How do you handle it?? Food, medication, mindless amusement, crank phone calls, carton of Ben & Jerry's Brownie Truffle. Onsie pajamas? Share your answer for quick-term sanity for the rest of us......
     
    • Like Like x 1
  14. Kyou Nukui

    Kyou Nukui music is amazing

    Messages:
    483
    Joined:
    Oct 18, 2018
    Karma:
    +786
    Loud music.
     
    • Winner Winner x 1
  15. randomasd

    randomasd Active Member

    Messages:
    14
    Joined:
    May 30, 2019
    Karma:
    +11
    Hello,
    Do any of you find that you go through meltdowns for periods of time. What I mean is, I had one one day, then another 2 days later and then would be much better for a while before starting the cycle again?
    At the moment I have no reason for them (often the case with me) bit they seem to be happening in various forms as stated above.

    Confusing I know. Thought I would reach out.
    Thanks
     
  16. Intensate

    Intensate New Member

    Messages:
    19
    Joined:
    Nov 10, 2019
    Karma:
    +32
    Hi
    Does anyone else have meltdowns that cause them to freeze in a catatonic way that leaves them unable to speak.
    I freeze up and cant move and cant move my eyes and speak .
    I have been lucky that most of the time I am with someone that knows me.I normally get a 10 min window that enables me to put my self some where safe.
    The worse one I had was in a busy Moroccan market with heaps of noise,bikes and mopeds and box trailers that run through the walkways.
    I felt it happen and found a gap in a stall so I could sit and learn against a wall ,my friends saw me in distress and helped me . It took 30 mins before I could make basic one word senstances and a hour to recover.
    The next day I was burned out.
    It does scare when it happens and I am alone and no one understands