I have been thinking a lot about why therapy hasn't been much help to me. Every time I try therapy I get the same suggestions, generally vague and lots of CBT. The usual body relaxation and breathing techniques. None of it has worked at all, though the Prozac makes some difference.
Today, actually right now, I am dealing with a phone call to Bank of America trying to get them to understand that my aunt has died (they have been sent 4 copies of the death certificate so far) and did not request a home loan. Staying calm in such situations has been pretty much impossible for me in the past but I am determined to learn to be a calmer person. Right now I am sweaty but have not freaked out and yelled or hung up. Not even with the automated voice person. I'm crediting singing the song Hurt by Nine Inch Nails, (covered beautifully by Johnny Cash), before I made the phone call. I am continuing to sing it as needed in a barely audible way while on hold. No, of course no therapist ever suggested singing a slow, sad song to calm me but it seems to have helped. So that leads me to the idea of chanting but all I find online is stuff about new age type mantras and stuff. Anyhoo, sorry to ramble, but I was wondering if this sort of thing works for anyone else? has a therapist ever suggested it to you? know of anything else similar?
The other new technique I am working on is turning things into sort of a game. A self dare. Call BOA and see how long I can take it. That bank is by far the worst with customer service and not freaking out is a real challenge to pretty much anyone.
Curious about other unusual calming techniques that work. What are you guys figuring out on your own or have you found therapist with odd suggestions? Does therapy not work well just because it doesn't work well or is it because it's developed for NTs?
Today, actually right now, I am dealing with a phone call to Bank of America trying to get them to understand that my aunt has died (they have been sent 4 copies of the death certificate so far) and did not request a home loan. Staying calm in such situations has been pretty much impossible for me in the past but I am determined to learn to be a calmer person. Right now I am sweaty but have not freaked out and yelled or hung up. Not even with the automated voice person. I'm crediting singing the song Hurt by Nine Inch Nails, (covered beautifully by Johnny Cash), before I made the phone call. I am continuing to sing it as needed in a barely audible way while on hold. No, of course no therapist ever suggested singing a slow, sad song to calm me but it seems to have helped. So that leads me to the idea of chanting but all I find online is stuff about new age type mantras and stuff. Anyhoo, sorry to ramble, but I was wondering if this sort of thing works for anyone else? has a therapist ever suggested it to you? know of anything else similar?
The other new technique I am working on is turning things into sort of a game. A self dare. Call BOA and see how long I can take it. That bank is by far the worst with customer service and not freaking out is a real challenge to pretty much anyone.
Curious about other unusual calming techniques that work. What are you guys figuring out on your own or have you found therapist with odd suggestions? Does therapy not work well just because it doesn't work well or is it because it's developed for NTs?