PrinceOfFreaks
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I am 29 years old, and didnt suspect I was on the spectrum until just this year, and after 6 months, I still have trouble understanding and accepting it. I am top notch at "acting human", so much so that most people would probably refuse to believe I'm on the spectrum
The people I worry most about are my parents; they both have PhDs in psychology, and one of them has even made a career out of early childhood autism. I can almost guarantee they have wiped any subtle clues of my disorder from their memory. They have a weird type of denial, even when it comes to blindingly obvious things, like when my arms were covered top to bottom in needle tracks, for years, they "didnt notice". They are good hearted people, and smart, but I believe they are blinded by their own anxieties/mental issues. Plus, like I said, I learned to mimic and parrot other humans, and intuitively understood certain behaviors drew attention, and I hated attention, so signs/symptoms would be easy to miss.
The parent who does not practice on ASD is the one I'm closer to, and the one I believe would be more open to accepting this, but I'm still very scared. The other one, I would bet all my toes on the fact that the response would be "No way you're ASD! Those kids have obvious symptoms you never once displayed." and trying to convince someone of this is exactly what I want to avoid. I want to share this with the sympathetic parent, but how do you tell someone "Hey, you know how you say you're an expert at noticing this thing... well... you missed it for 20+ years... just trust me, I'm an expert too". Seems ... weird. What does a fella do? I dont want them to feel bad for (another) mental issue of mine they completely ignored, but they will never understand me until they hear and accept this.
And then we come to my friends, and the rest of the humans. That's going to be a tough one to navigate, too, but just because I'm incapable of expressing intimate things to anyone other than my girlfriend.
The people I worry most about are my parents; they both have PhDs in psychology, and one of them has even made a career out of early childhood autism. I can almost guarantee they have wiped any subtle clues of my disorder from their memory. They have a weird type of denial, even when it comes to blindingly obvious things, like when my arms were covered top to bottom in needle tracks, for years, they "didnt notice". They are good hearted people, and smart, but I believe they are blinded by their own anxieties/mental issues. Plus, like I said, I learned to mimic and parrot other humans, and intuitively understood certain behaviors drew attention, and I hated attention, so signs/symptoms would be easy to miss.
The parent who does not practice on ASD is the one I'm closer to, and the one I believe would be more open to accepting this, but I'm still very scared. The other one, I would bet all my toes on the fact that the response would be "No way you're ASD! Those kids have obvious symptoms you never once displayed." and trying to convince someone of this is exactly what I want to avoid. I want to share this with the sympathetic parent, but how do you tell someone "Hey, you know how you say you're an expert at noticing this thing... well... you missed it for 20+ years... just trust me, I'm an expert too". Seems ... weird. What does a fella do? I dont want them to feel bad for (another) mental issue of mine they completely ignored, but they will never understand me until they hear and accept this.
And then we come to my friends, and the rest of the humans. That's going to be a tough one to navigate, too, but just because I'm incapable of expressing intimate things to anyone other than my girlfriend.
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