kenaij
AQ score: 38, Aspie Score: asp 142/200 nt 58/200
Hi Everyone,
In advance. I am not a native speaker so any errors in grammer are due to that.
I have been walking around with a question for some time now. And I have not been able to find any good answers.
About a year back my father was diagnosed with autism (56y). Before I found out he had I had a strong feeling my son (5y) might be autistic due to several key factors. While discussing this with his school doctor they told me it was very possible but they feel it is too early to test him. I know autism can be passed down. But I was wondering what the chances are for me having autism. Because of my son I have been researching a lot about autism lately, especially because now I know my father is on the spectrum. However, more and more I come across examples that are very reletable to me personally. I have always joked about being autistic but have always simply put it aside and explained it away as being introvert and shy because of the bad skin I had as a teen. But lately I am struggling with social situations and personal situations aswell. One video explained the difference between autistic and introvert as. "An introvert understands the game, but does not like to play it." "Someone with autism does not get the game." This got me confused a little. Because I feel I am somewhere inbetween. I understand HOW the game is played. I simply do not understand why everyone is expected to play the same game. I can act very well in casual situations but shut down in unique situations. If we take poker as an example, I understand I need to form a set of cards, I know what the sets and values are. But have no clue what my chances are of getting the sets I want when looking at the cards in my hand and the cards on the table. So I make choices other players find very weird. If that makes sense?
Looking back this has always been a thing, but my 'save space' always got me out of stressful situations pretty quickly. Because of private reasons it no longer does, because my 'save space' has changed beyond my control and no longer really works for me. I want to keep the reason for this private.
So more and more I wonder if I should get tested. Just so I can give my struggles an explanation, and not 'hate' myself so much for having certain thoughts and feelings, or the lack of having them for that matter. And not being able to be social like other people.
Since diagnosis is very expensive in my country I do want to wait untill my son is tested eventually.
TLDR:
But very very long story short. What are the chances of a person being autistic (that does have a considerable amount of traits but seems 'high functioning') if his father and son are diagnosed with being on the spectrum?
Thank you.
In advance. I am not a native speaker so any errors in grammer are due to that.
I have been walking around with a question for some time now. And I have not been able to find any good answers.
About a year back my father was diagnosed with autism (56y). Before I found out he had I had a strong feeling my son (5y) might be autistic due to several key factors. While discussing this with his school doctor they told me it was very possible but they feel it is too early to test him. I know autism can be passed down. But I was wondering what the chances are for me having autism. Because of my son I have been researching a lot about autism lately, especially because now I know my father is on the spectrum. However, more and more I come across examples that are very reletable to me personally. I have always joked about being autistic but have always simply put it aside and explained it away as being introvert and shy because of the bad skin I had as a teen. But lately I am struggling with social situations and personal situations aswell. One video explained the difference between autistic and introvert as. "An introvert understands the game, but does not like to play it." "Someone with autism does not get the game." This got me confused a little. Because I feel I am somewhere inbetween. I understand HOW the game is played. I simply do not understand why everyone is expected to play the same game. I can act very well in casual situations but shut down in unique situations. If we take poker as an example, I understand I need to form a set of cards, I know what the sets and values are. But have no clue what my chances are of getting the sets I want when looking at the cards in my hand and the cards on the table. So I make choices other players find very weird. If that makes sense?
Looking back this has always been a thing, but my 'save space' always got me out of stressful situations pretty quickly. Because of private reasons it no longer does, because my 'save space' has changed beyond my control and no longer really works for me. I want to keep the reason for this private.
So more and more I wonder if I should get tested. Just so I can give my struggles an explanation, and not 'hate' myself so much for having certain thoughts and feelings, or the lack of having them for that matter. And not being able to be social like other people.
Since diagnosis is very expensive in my country I do want to wait untill my son is tested eventually.
TLDR:
But very very long story short. What are the chances of a person being autistic (that does have a considerable amount of traits but seems 'high functioning') if his father and son are diagnosed with being on the spectrum?
Thank you.