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Have you been bullied at school/work?


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In high school (secondary school), I was physically bullied. Please reply to this thread.

1. Have you ever been bullied at school or work?

2. Why do bullies target us autistics?

3. Why are we autistics often bullied at school and at work?
 

Aspychata

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The funny thing l realized being at this site for awhile, all kinds of people are bullied at school and work for all kinds of different reasons.

But our stims, our strange remarks, being non-conformist, avoiding people's eyes, black and white thinking probably works against us. However, l think quirky people are finding more acceptance due to movies, tv shows. But l am sure there are others with more indept thoughts than this.
 

Forest Cat

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Yeah I had some problems. Bullying is just a human thing, people go after those who are differerent or weaker or stands out in some way. Especially kids, kids are very good at it. Some people torment others because their own life sucks.
 
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VictorR

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1. Yes to both.

2/3. As @Aspychata and @Forest Cat state, why people engage in bullying and other forms of discrimination and othering can be varied, but the more different one is, the more likely they are to stand out and potentially be targeted.
 

Thinx

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I was fine at school, but I got bullied a few times at work. I would add I think I offered significant and well thought out responses to any such behaviours, which did leave a number of workplace bullies wishing they hadn't.

At least we often have great thinking skills, and are prepared to be persevering in unmasking bad behaviours. I wasn't underhand, just effective at calling out their behaviours.
 

Knower of nothing

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I think it's an old social filtration system to maintain a status quo and weed out unwanted behavior through shame, abuse or exile. We all share the capacity for partaking in it, though there are obvious patterns in who ends up being the victim most often just through majority rule.
On a personal level the system is expressed through the incentive of satisfying egoism, sadism and gaining social status. Which I think is all tied to physiological triggers.
 

Tony Ramirez

Agnostic Christian with Asperger's Syndrome
I was bullied in high school buy guys and ignored mostly by girls which is why I don't like to hang out with guys and I am told I am obsessed with girls.
 

Au Naturel

Au Naturel
The "why" is because we don't have a social support structure and are often unathletic. Bullies target the weak. That is about all there is to it.
 

Alexej

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In high school (secondary school), I was physically bullied. Please reply to this thread.
1. Have you ever been bullied at school or work?
2. Why do bullies target us autistics?
3. Why are we autistics often bullied at school and at work?

1. not bullied, but have been harassed.
2. we are different, and if you are different you get picked on
3. we have a lack of guile, tend to take people at face value and so are suitable for their "sport"
 

Captain Jigglypuff

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In high school I was and the worst part is that the administration knew about it and how bad it truly was but refused to help me and chose to blame me and even told my family that it was all my fault. The principal only admitted to my dad that it was actually as bad as I had said it was and was never my fault and that he (the principal) should have done more to help me right before he died. The man died from cancer and after hearing what he told my dad, I hope his death was slow and painful as a way to make him suffer and force him to regret not helping me and causing me to have this massive mental health meltdown less than a month after graduating high school. I just snapped inside my head and just started to act crazy and I purposely walked out of a store with unpaid merchandise and allowed myself to be caught because I had nothing else to live for. It was the only way I could think of to get someone to actually listen to how miserable I was and make it clear that something was horribly wrong with me and this was a cry for help. I actually thought going to jail was better than going home. That is what years of bullying did to me and my dad still doesn’t quite get it. No matter where I was, someone was bullying me and I had to escape from everything.
 

frederic

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In high school (secondary school), I was physically bullied. Please reply to this thread.

1. Have you ever been bullied at school or work?
Absolutely. Interestingly, not in elementary/early high school. Because I was athletic I could interact on a physical level. As I progressed into senior high, things became more social and I just couldn't relate on that level and started to show signs of anxiety/depression. And I realise now that my A/D was/is a result of my sense of alienation.
 

Magna

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The worst bullying I experienced was in grade school and middle school aka "Junior High School". There was a bit in high school as well, but it tapered off mostly by then. That could have been because I was accepted into and befriended by the punk and new wave group and some of my comrades were pretty menacing and definitely shocking looking.

In grade school I not only experienced bullying by some fellow students, but I also experienced systemic discrimination based on practices and rules dictated by the teachers themselves.

The systemic issues centered around how recess and group play were structured. Prior to recess, the teacher would select two "captains" who would then stand up in front of the class. Generally the captains were students with advanced athletic ability. The captains would take turns selecting classmates they wanted on their respective team for recess games such as kickball, etc. Each student selected would stand up in front of the rest of the class next to their captain until all students were selected.

I was very uncoordinated as a child and walked with an abnormal "pigeon-toed" gait (of which I was regularly teased about and made fun of through imitation). In most cases I was the last student picked for group play. For a boy in the 1970s it was crushing and humiliating since back then there was much more of a traditional view of boys and girls; my self-esteem suffered greatly as a result. Not completely however since I excelled academically which a good number of my fellow classmates did not.
 

Nick12

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i was very verry verry lucky only one kid bullyed me at caldwell school her name was april and when she was not nice to me i went to tell a teacher and the teacher took care of it i was well liked at caldwell school by every on expect april it was the best school ever that i went to
 
i was very verry verry lucky only one kid bullyed me at caldwell school her name was april and when she was not nice to me i went to tell a teacher and the teacher took care of it i was well liked at caldwell school by every on expect april it was the best school ever that i went to

i can't imagine that being me by girls in school being teased,it occured less often than it did.
 

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