Hi there,
About a year and a half ago my boyfriend was diagnosed with mild Asperger's, which is what he told me. He is 24 and I am 25 years old. We have been together for 6 years and we have had ups and downs in our relationship, of course.
During the rough times he has done detrimental things like lying about his whereabouts, getting really drunk and staying out till 4 am multiple times, talking suggestively to girls behind my back via text, and secretly hanging out with his ex behind my back even though we are still together. He would lash out and call me derogatory names, etc. He lies a LOT about things big and small, and he recently owned up to being a compulsive liar. He apologizes about his behavior but it is worrisome for me because he has a history of repeating these negative behaviors. Its caused me horrible paranoia and trust issues, depression as well.
He tends to be emotionally turbulent and irrational during the worst of times, but I have always been pretty patient with him and remained with him despite all that because I love him, but I do lose my patience when he does hurtful things. He swore that he would change all this negative behavior, but when he is faced with having to change, he feels its overwhelming pressure to change and breaks up with me.
He has broken up with me twice in the past three months, most recent time was a week ago, and both times he broke up with me he said he is definitely not getting back into a relationship with me. But then he changes his mind within a day or two and wants to be with me again. We are together currently
Every time he breaks up with me he says his Asperger's doesn’t allow him to be in a relationship and that people with Asperger's are not ever good in relationships. He says he can’t be with me because of his Asperger's, his condition makes it near impossible and its the reason he behaves the way he does.
Now, I don’t really know much about Asperger's but is there truth in that? I really would like to understand, can anyone shed some light?
Thank you for any advice.
About a year and a half ago my boyfriend was diagnosed with mild Asperger's, which is what he told me. He is 24 and I am 25 years old. We have been together for 6 years and we have had ups and downs in our relationship, of course.
During the rough times he has done detrimental things like lying about his whereabouts, getting really drunk and staying out till 4 am multiple times, talking suggestively to girls behind my back via text, and secretly hanging out with his ex behind my back even though we are still together. He would lash out and call me derogatory names, etc. He lies a LOT about things big and small, and he recently owned up to being a compulsive liar. He apologizes about his behavior but it is worrisome for me because he has a history of repeating these negative behaviors. Its caused me horrible paranoia and trust issues, depression as well.
He tends to be emotionally turbulent and irrational during the worst of times, but I have always been pretty patient with him and remained with him despite all that because I love him, but I do lose my patience when he does hurtful things. He swore that he would change all this negative behavior, but when he is faced with having to change, he feels its overwhelming pressure to change and breaks up with me.
He has broken up with me twice in the past three months, most recent time was a week ago, and both times he broke up with me he said he is definitely not getting back into a relationship with me. But then he changes his mind within a day or two and wants to be with me again. We are together currently
Every time he breaks up with me he says his Asperger's doesn’t allow him to be in a relationship and that people with Asperger's are not ever good in relationships. He says he can’t be with me because of his Asperger's, his condition makes it near impossible and its the reason he behaves the way he does.
Now, I don’t really know much about Asperger's but is there truth in that? I really would like to understand, can anyone shed some light?
Thank you for any advice.