One of the key aspects in my life as an adult on the spectrum is that of black and white thinking. Having such a rigid style of thinking about things has caused much stress and arguments for me during my teenage and now adult life. I've just turned 40.
Black and white thinking makes perfect common sense to me yet NT's always seem to think they know best and proceed to spend lots and lots of time studying the grey areas in between whilst in the meantime nothing ever gets done or is addressed.
Some examples.
When the London Olympics were held back in 2012 at a cost of approximately 8.77 BILLION pounds I must have been the only person in the country who thought that it was a disgrace.
If I was the Prime Minister at the time and someone asked me whether I wanted to spend 8.77 billion pounds of taxpayers money so we could all watch a few men and women chucking a few javelins for a few weeks or alternatively spend that money on where it is most needed as a matter of priority then surely it's black and white isn't it?
There is no debate to be had. You have homeless people, people accessing food banks, people in hospital corridors etc etc and the prime minister at the time David Cameron, with all his public schoolboy education and Oxford education decided that it was better to spend that money on some blokes in leotards running about a bit.
I cannot understand how this decision was humanly possible to reach.
Another example.
Mitigating circumstances in crimes. IMO there are none. If I had a drugs problem and get caught burgling a house to get money to buy drugs then obviously it's a sad state of affairs and help is needed but I broke in and therefore I must accept the penalty. The reason why I committed a crime shouldn't matter but only that the crime was committed and that I must accept the penalty for committing that crime. It's black and white. Commit the crime and do the time is an old phrase but it's common sense.
You can't turn up to court crying your eyes out and blaming the fact that you burnt someone's house down due to being distressed by the recent death of a pet rabbit. Grey areas are just excuses.
Other examples are people who park in places they aren't supposed to that are clearly signposted with warnings and when they return 5 minutes later and realise they have a parking ticket they start kicking off at the traffic warden saying, "I was only a few minutes guv - give me a break!". What do these people expect?! If it says don't park there then don't do it!
Just a few examples of black and white thinking there but my life is dominated by it. Every view I have on just about everything is black and white and to me logical but to others I come across as extreme or stubborn. I just think if the world was full of black and white thinkers then things would get done that are fair to all, everyone would know the rules and know there is no leniency and the world would be a much more fairer and more accountable place.
Just another thing. I have had CBT and read through plenty of books on the subject and although I am much more aware of how thinking patterns and styles can leave you trapped and stuck, I don't think it's helpful for mental health professionals to dismiss black and white thinking as maladaptive and of no benefit.
I live my life by it and everyone knows where they stand with me. The problem is that others don't and that causes conflict and disputes. Why does it have to be the minority, the autistic view that is seen as the wrong one? What if we are right with some of our views and the NT's are wrong?
I get all this advice from professionals usually trying to change my behaviour and patterns of thinking so I am able to fit in better but what if I am right all long and they are wrong? Where is the proof? Is it just because their views make more sense to more people (who are all NT anyway) and by that logic that if you are in the minority and hold patterns of thinking that harm nobody and seek to solve issues fairly and quickly based on a rigid moral code then you will be considered wrong and have to change.
Black and white thinking makes perfect common sense to me yet NT's always seem to think they know best and proceed to spend lots and lots of time studying the grey areas in between whilst in the meantime nothing ever gets done or is addressed.
Some examples.
When the London Olympics were held back in 2012 at a cost of approximately 8.77 BILLION pounds I must have been the only person in the country who thought that it was a disgrace.
If I was the Prime Minister at the time and someone asked me whether I wanted to spend 8.77 billion pounds of taxpayers money so we could all watch a few men and women chucking a few javelins for a few weeks or alternatively spend that money on where it is most needed as a matter of priority then surely it's black and white isn't it?
There is no debate to be had. You have homeless people, people accessing food banks, people in hospital corridors etc etc and the prime minister at the time David Cameron, with all his public schoolboy education and Oxford education decided that it was better to spend that money on some blokes in leotards running about a bit.
I cannot understand how this decision was humanly possible to reach.
Another example.
Mitigating circumstances in crimes. IMO there are none. If I had a drugs problem and get caught burgling a house to get money to buy drugs then obviously it's a sad state of affairs and help is needed but I broke in and therefore I must accept the penalty. The reason why I committed a crime shouldn't matter but only that the crime was committed and that I must accept the penalty for committing that crime. It's black and white. Commit the crime and do the time is an old phrase but it's common sense.
You can't turn up to court crying your eyes out and blaming the fact that you burnt someone's house down due to being distressed by the recent death of a pet rabbit. Grey areas are just excuses.
Other examples are people who park in places they aren't supposed to that are clearly signposted with warnings and when they return 5 minutes later and realise they have a parking ticket they start kicking off at the traffic warden saying, "I was only a few minutes guv - give me a break!". What do these people expect?! If it says don't park there then don't do it!
Just a few examples of black and white thinking there but my life is dominated by it. Every view I have on just about everything is black and white and to me logical but to others I come across as extreme or stubborn. I just think if the world was full of black and white thinkers then things would get done that are fair to all, everyone would know the rules and know there is no leniency and the world would be a much more fairer and more accountable place.
Just another thing. I have had CBT and read through plenty of books on the subject and although I am much more aware of how thinking patterns and styles can leave you trapped and stuck, I don't think it's helpful for mental health professionals to dismiss black and white thinking as maladaptive and of no benefit.
I live my life by it and everyone knows where they stand with me. The problem is that others don't and that causes conflict and disputes. Why does it have to be the minority, the autistic view that is seen as the wrong one? What if we are right with some of our views and the NT's are wrong?
I get all this advice from professionals usually trying to change my behaviour and patterns of thinking so I am able to fit in better but what if I am right all long and they are wrong? Where is the proof? Is it just because their views make more sense to more people (who are all NT anyway) and by that logic that if you are in the minority and hold patterns of thinking that harm nobody and seek to solve issues fairly and quickly based on a rigid moral code then you will be considered wrong and have to change.