RainbowStar
Active Member
Going on the assumption I do, in fact, have Aspergers (at this point I'm 99% sure I do), I'm wondering if others here have a reputation for being "brutally" honest. I don't mean to be, but I have a VERY hard time lying, even white lies to make people feel better. Plus, I see no reason to - if something is undeniably true, what's the point of pretending it's not? And I have a hard time judging what situations call for honesty and which ones I'm expected to just make people feel good. So I'm curious if this is a thing in the autistic spectrum. Some examples:
When people say "I'm fat." I can't bring myself to do what others tend to do, which is outright deny it: "No, you're not fat!" Well, the fact is, most of the time, the person in question IS fat. I won't point it out, but if it's the truth and they said it, I'll usually just shrug - yeah, you are, whatever. That apparently comes across as rude or even cruel to others.
Besides that very specific scenario (which happens fairly often), what tends to happen is that a thought will occur to me about someone, I'll say it out loud, and others interpret it as kind of mean (and usually snarky or a "burn.") That's never how I intend it; I either mean to be helpful or simply can't figure out why I shouldn't say it.
So...anyone else have that "brutally honest" reputation unintentionally?
When people say "I'm fat." I can't bring myself to do what others tend to do, which is outright deny it: "No, you're not fat!" Well, the fact is, most of the time, the person in question IS fat. I won't point it out, but if it's the truth and they said it, I'll usually just shrug - yeah, you are, whatever. That apparently comes across as rude or even cruel to others.
Besides that very specific scenario (which happens fairly often), what tends to happen is that a thought will occur to me about someone, I'll say it out loud, and others interpret it as kind of mean (and usually snarky or a "burn.") That's never how I intend it; I either mean to be helpful or simply can't figure out why I shouldn't say it.
So...anyone else have that "brutally honest" reputation unintentionally?