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Lisa 123

Lisa 123

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Hi everyone. I just wanted to say hello. I am Lisa from the West Coast of Ireland. I have 3 kids aged 7, 8 and 10. The little fella has level 1 asd and my older son and daughter have level 1 and 2 asd. My husband and I have just been diagnosed today. That's all 5 of us. We are all very happy together living at home in our little bubble. The children love school so that's great. Its just when we have to deal with the rest of the world that we all struggle. I am wondering if my family is rare or if there are other autistic families out there. I am not sure how people will react when they find out that we are an autistic family. Any feedback would be appreciated. Thank you x
 
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Hi and welcome to the forums. In hindsight my entire family is also autistic. Especially so my father but pity the poor soul that ever tries to tell him so.

I'm ASD2, never married or had children.
 
Welcome Lisa 123.
I am self identified as ASD. I am 57 and women / girls were not diagnosed in my generation.

Any way, I don't think it is all that uncommon for spouses to both be ASD. After all we are better attuned to those who think most like ourselves. We do know there is a genetic component to autisim so whole families and generations seem likely.
 
My dad definitely had autistic traits. My mom might have the mildest case of autism ever. She has 1 symptom I have observed. I suspect she's NT. The older of my 2 sisters could be autistic, but she definitely has no socialization impairment.
 
Hi @Lisa 123
Welcome to the Forums.

Although many folk here are in the US there is a good representation of folks in the UK and other countries in Europe and further afield. Australia is represented here too.

Do hang around a bit and get to know who is who, and get a feel for the topics that come up
 
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Hi and welcome to the forums. In hindsight my entire family is also autistic. Especially so my father but pity the poor soul that ever tries to tell him so.

I'm ASD2, never married or had children.
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Thank you for the reply. In hindsight both of our fathers are autistic. We gently explained autism to each of them and they are both interested in learning more.
 
Suzette said:
Welcome Lisa 123.
I am self identified as ASD. I am 57 and women / girls were not diagnosed in my generation.

Any way, I don't think it is all that uncommon for spouses to both be ASD. After all we are better attuned to those who think most like ourselves. We do know there is a genetic component to autisim so whole families and generations seem likely.
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Thank you for your reply. When my husband and I met we couldn't believe how easy it was with each other. We both really struggled with other people. We both recognised that the other one was a bit strange and we just clicked. We feel very lucky to have each other. When the children came along and we understood more about autism we realised fairly quickly that we were autistic. Like I said, our family is very happy left to ourselves.
 
Jumpinbare said:
My dad definitely had autistic traits. My mom might have the mildest case of autism ever. She has 1 symptom I have observed. I suspect she's NT. The older of my 2 sisters could be autistic, but she definitely has no socialization impairment.
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Thank you for your reply. People describe me as very chatty, friendly and outgoing. They don't realise that it has taken me decades to perfect the mask. It takes days to come back to myself after a social event. Now that I am older (46) I avoid everyone as much as possible. I just don't have it in me anymore. Maybe your sister is good at masking or maybe she is like my husband. He likes to socialise unfortunately he is just really bad at it.
 
Alexej said:
Hi @Lisa 123
Welcome to the Forums.

Although many folk here are in the US there is a good representation of folks in the UK and other countries in Europe and further afield. Australia is represented here too.

Do hang around a bit and get to know who is who, and get a feel for the topics that come up
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Thank you for your reply. I have never joined a forum before so this is all new to me. I tried to find something a bit more local but I couldn't see anything. It's nice to know there are lots of nationalities here. I guess at the core we are dealing with similar things.
 
I come from a family of six appears four of the six may be ASD, none diagnosed one woman. A Few things we have in common share blood type, all science geeks. One strange family. We all got married have, kids and grand kids.
 
Ronald Zeeman said:
I come from a family of six appears four of the six may be ASD, none diagnosed one woman. A Few things we have in common share blood type, all science geeks. One strange family. We all got married have, kids and grand kids.
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Very interesting. My husband and daughter are O positive and very alike and the boys and I are O negative and also very alike. We have lots of fun interests. My girl loves piano and maths, my youngest boy loves art and maths, my eldest and I are science geeks and my husband loves all things mechanical. We all really enjoy learning from each other. Being autistic makes parenting autistic children much easier. I love to imagine having grand kids one day and bonding with them over special interests. Your family sounds lovely.
 
Us on the spectrum are AB positive, physics is a common interest I have a chemistry background, two brothers into electronics, sister geologist, and economist, like getting together debating. All of use were hyperlexic when younger. Oldest passed away a few years ago.
 
Ronald Zeeman said:
Us on the spectrum are AB positive, physics is a common interest I have a chemistry background, two brothers into electronics, sister geologist, and economist, like getting together debating. All of use were hyperlexic when younger. Oldest passed away a few years ago.
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I am very sorry for your loss. Your family sound so interesting. I can imagine the fun conversations you have had. I am wondering if you let people know that you were all autistic and if so what kind of reaction did you get. I tend to be very open about everything but my husband is more concerned about how he will be seen by potential customers (he is a HGV mechanic) and teachers and parents in our kids school.
 
I found out in my fifties self diagnosed brothers wife a teacher let my know she strongly suspects her husband is based on her training. My sister and her husband I Suspect are just observing them. My older brother was a genius very similar to Sheldon from big bang theory. My sons joke seeing use together is like attending a Mensa meeting. intellectual ability runs strongly in the family. Most of us did not really care what others think, through we were considered strange. School system did not know what to do with us rules did not apply.
 
Ronald Zeeman said:
I found out in my fifties self diagnosed brothers wife a teacher let my know she strongly suspects her husband is based on her training. My sister and her husband I Suspect are just observing them. My older brother was a genius very similar to Sheldon from big bang theory. My sons joke seeing use together is like attending a Mensa meeting. intellectual ability runs strongly in the family. Most of us did not really care what others think, through we were considered strange. School system did not know what to do with us rules did not apply.
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My husband and I never cared what others thought either. Having kids has dragged us into the social world. We need to try to seem different to how we are so that our kids are accepted. All 3 of them want friends which is a surprise to me and my husband we just aren't built that way. We also need to keep the business going so people need to feel they can trust us. Having a diagnosis can help in some settings but we will just have to figure out what's best as we move forward. I really appreciate your input. Thank you for your time. Your family sound wonderful.
 
Ronald Zeeman said:
I would be willing to help raised two non Aspie sons, one now appears to have an Aspie stepson 9
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There are a lot of us out there. I have found raising kids to be the toughest job there is and I am only halfway through yet. I wouldn't change it though. One of the unexpected pleasures of having aspie kids is that I finally have someone to talk to about stuff that interests me. I have always been surrounded by people who love fashion, and pop culture, sports etc. The conversation always died when I brought up the latest news I had heard about the physics world. Now I have my kids hungry to know more. For me it's a dream come true.
 
My favorite physics Blog is not even wrong, by Peter Woit. I watch a lot of u-tube videos on science. Talking sports not my thing. I am looking forth to my step grand son and grand daughter coming over to lectures I Have on math and science some of the threads on here you can see pics. My stepgrandson's eyes lite up when he saw my library in a spare bed room I Told him once you learn to read. My sons are not on the spectrum. When it comes to their kids we complement each other.
 
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