Hi, I have a 34 year old adult son that lives with me and he was diagnosed with Asperger’s almost 4 years ago. He keeps telling me that when I yell at the dog it causes him pain but I don’t believe him. He sent me some links and YouTube videos on how autistic people are sensitive to sound but I feel he just looked up symptoms of Asperger’s and is faking it and trying to manipulate me somehow. I don’t want to stop yelling because he himself talks very loudly. He blames it on the Asperger’s telling me that it is very common for those on the spectrum lose control of the volume of their voices. He claims autistic people don’t have the ability to tell when they talk loudly and that he can’t help talking so loud. He sent me some links about it being a symptom of autism, but again I think he’s faking it and just using his autism as an excuse. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can get him to stop trying to manipulate me?
Everyone has sensitivities to sound, at some point, whether it be decibel levels and/or frequencies. I have Asperger's and I am quite the opposite,...I speak softly, like my television and car radio on lower volume, when I work in the neonatal unit at work,...whispers (babies,...you wake 'em, you take 'em, say the nurses.). Most neonatologists and pediatricians also speak in very hushed, soft tones,...I am just used to it. I drive an electric car, in part, because of all the noise from a gas-powered car.
If someone started yelling in my environment,...I would be out of there in a heartbeat. My sensitivities are with certain frequencies,...I just hear these loud crunching sounds like a broken subwoofer speaker,...some people speak at these frequencies. I also hear ultrasonic frequencies,...above 20,000Hz,...that is straight-up painful,...but no one else can hear it.
On one hand, some families just end up speaking loudly and yelling at each other,...normal communication for them. On the other hand, some speak loudly because of hearing issues,...again, frequency and decibel sensitivities. Some autistics speak either too loudly or too softly for people around them,...I struggle with this myself, especially when I get anxious or excited. The only way to really get answers is to go to an audiologist and actually test the hearing,...which I did. He may be interpreting his symptoms as autistic,...and it may be,...but it may also be something different.