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Featured Are you eccentric?

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by Mia, Jul 15, 2020.

  1. Mia

    Mia Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Eccentricity is variously defined as:

    Deviating from the recognized or customary characteristics of groups or individuals.

    A person who has an unusual, peculiar, or odd personality, set of beliefs, or behavior pattern.

    Eccentricity is unusual behavior on the part of an individual. This behavior would typically be perceived as unusual or unnecessary, without being demonstrably maladaptive. Eccentricity is contrasted with normal (conformative) behavior, the nearly universal means by which individuals in society solve given problems and pursue certain priorities in everyday life. People who consistently display benignly eccentric behavior are labeled as "eccentrics." (Note: at the end of this definition was a reference to people with autism.):eek:

    So here we have the root of perceptions about individuals who do not act like everyone else. I've know many people who displayed eccentric behaviour, and none that I know of were autistic. Elderly Great-Aunts who saved and made wreaths from their own hair, and had stuffed squirrels in their living rooms. A neighbour who used to walk across the street in a bathrobe and rubber boots in a snowstorm to buy a newspaper. A current neighbour who sits outside early in the morning in a nightgown and slippers eating cheerios with their fingers.

    All I can think for the moment, is that people who do not conform to group social strictures would be considered eccentric. People who seem to do things they enjoy and want to do. Out of the ordinary behaviour seems to scare people. What do you think?
     
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  2. Pieplup

    Pieplup The Penguin

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    I think by definition autistic people are eccentric. But I personally prefer the term quirky.
     
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  3. Ezra

    Ezra Relax, it's just chaos.

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    I like idiosyncratic.

    Kinda sounds pretentious.
     
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    menander Well-Known Member

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    Yes. I have not been mistaken for normal for years.
     
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  5. Pieplup

    Pieplup The Penguin

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    I think when you say you prefer a term instead of another one it always sounds pretentious.

    I don't think anyone mistakes me as nomal. Tho part of it is me doing things normal people wouldn't do. That people see as immature in public.
     
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    Raggamuffin Well-Known Member

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    Am I eccentric?

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    Nope - everything is normal over here.

    In all seriousness though, yes I am. However, I have to be comfortable around someone, before I make them uncomfortable. Then the facade of the quiet, shy and polite person gives way to the hyperactive, weird and inaproppriate.

    The thing is, I can't be myself around typical/normal people. When I find someone with something different or strange about them - I'm usually drawn towards them.

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  7. Juliettaa

    Juliettaa Black Sheep. Society of One. V.I.P Member

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    I don't think I'm eccentric, but everyone else does :D

    I find my behaviour perfectly normal, it's other people who are the problem. My husband is kind about it, he has always maintained that I'm quirky and that's part of what he found attractive 30 plus years ago.

    Others are not so kind - being called a weirdo and psycho because I don't conform to fashion/regular style of clothing. My response is usually along the lines of 'better to be different than bland' - soon shuts them up.

    Going to the newsagents in a dressing gown and wellies - perfectly normal in my world. Having stuffed animals around - again perfectly normal. Eating breakfast cereal in the front garden - that's fine too :D
     
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    Tom Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I agree, it's an eccentric zombie that will eat cherrios with their fingers.

    ;)
     
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    Tom Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    In general I find people's reaction to eccentricity more problematic then the eccentricity itself which is often quite benign. But it is difficult to change as I think it is tied to very basic (and for the most part anacronistic) homo sapiens instinct.
     
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  10. Progster

    Progster Gone sideways to the sun V.I.P Member

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    I guess so. My sister once gave me a birthday card which said inside, "for the best sister." She crossed "best" out and wrote "strangest." I've always liked to do my own thing.
     
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  11. QueenOfFrance87

    QueenOfFrance87 Let them eat tuna! V.I.P Member

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    I may be a little eccentric, but I am a talented person when it comes to art and music. I've been doing a lot of art lately, which I hope will make me money someday.

    I think the only eccentric thing about me is that I have an imaginary BF, but I tend to keep that a secret from most people, except for my mom and therapist. Honestly, he makes me happy, and I wouldn't trade it for the world.

    My brother sometimes find my quirks annoying, though, and called me out on it in the past, but we get along well otherwise.
     
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    I think there's certainly some overlap between the terms eccentric, idiosyncratic, quirky, and autistic. Mainly because of whatever happens in our brains to make us somewhat oblivious to social cues and conditioning. I've always thought I look a bit unusual too. My heads big. Not like, as big as the sun or anything. But big. So are my feet, although I m not tall. My friend calls me a Hobbit.
     
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    Running Girl Well-Known Member

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    20140410_094306.jpg Not eccentric in the least .
     
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    HeroOfHyrule Chicken Chaser

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    I've been described as "eccentric" before and sometimes I don't entirely understand why.
     
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    I've been described as :

    wild, anti conformist, original, snobbish, "in my world", "you have a personality", unconventional and maybe others. I don't think eccentric was ever used, but it could have. I can't manage to have an other world than mine through, there's just no other one in me. But yes, it's quiet "strong".
    Unless I don't manage to talk and so get invisible, I think people remember me easily when I feel comfortable and start relating to them. Not everyone likes me through, it makes some people feel uncomfortable.
     
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    No convention or expected ‘norms’ here, nighties 50’s ball gown dress to a local band in a pub.. tick
    Dancing on a empty dance floor.. tick
    Saying what I think and feel ... tick
    So yep out of the ‘norm’ yes that’s me
     
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    I have been called eccentric butI prefer whimsical.
     
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  18. Aspychata

    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    I want to be whimsical too, but l am walking in a land of trolls.
     
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    I am eccentric and beyond. Lately, this song pretty much sums up how I feel. (Be aware it's loud).
     
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    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    She looks ready to tribal belly dance.
     
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