jamie5136
Active Member
This is very stupid and/or offensive question I am sure, and this is a follow-up to a post I made yesterday (I appreciate all the feedback, by the way), but as I reflect on my lost friendship (online) with a guy on the spectrum (I am an NT), I am wondering if this 2 year situation we had that involved friendship, sexual activities (online only) and the mentioning of love were just a way for him to cure his boredom. He has been on a 2 year break from college for surgery, a death of a family member and his own personal struggles. This is about the time we met. I always wondered why he did not date women in his hometown and only talked to me, an older woman.
Anyway...
Every time I said I was meeting with another male friend online, he would say he wanted to visit me instead and live with me, take care of me, etc. I told him the age difference was too vast and he said he did not care. So, I actually believed him and fell head over heels. One of the reasons I like people on the spectrum is that they seem to be super honest and straightforward, and logical to a fault.
Is it possible that he was just being manipulative to keep me interested and into him only? Is it possible that he was lying?
I ended our friendship as I can't remain friends with someone who I had love for. He does not understand this. He thinks because he came to the realization from a Google search and talking to friends, that a relationship with someone my age was impossible, that everything should go back to being buddy, buddy.
Again, from the advise I got on here, I ended the friendship, but I do have to wonder if he was manipulating me, at least partially for his own sexual gain and for company. I never thought it was possible for those on the AS to be manipulative like this. Sorry again if I am not clear. I have a central nervous system issue due to medications.
Anyway...
Every time I said I was meeting with another male friend online, he would say he wanted to visit me instead and live with me, take care of me, etc. I told him the age difference was too vast and he said he did not care. So, I actually believed him and fell head over heels. One of the reasons I like people on the spectrum is that they seem to be super honest and straightforward, and logical to a fault.
Is it possible that he was just being manipulative to keep me interested and into him only? Is it possible that he was lying?
I ended our friendship as I can't remain friends with someone who I had love for. He does not understand this. He thinks because he came to the realization from a Google search and talking to friends, that a relationship with someone my age was impossible, that everything should go back to being buddy, buddy.
Again, from the advise I got on here, I ended the friendship, but I do have to wonder if he was manipulating me, at least partially for his own sexual gain and for company. I never thought it was possible for those on the AS to be manipulative like this. Sorry again if I am not clear. I have a central nervous system issue due to medications.