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Am I Grieving?

Discussion in 'Help and Support' started by Moonray, Jun 25, 2019.

  1. Moonray

    Moonray New Member

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    At the start of the year I had a month off from a charity I'd volunteered with for 3.5 years because they were doing a big office refurb and thought it'd be too chaotic.

    I'd had a bad end to the year and a very stressful start to 2019 so wasn't at my best anyway.

    Sadly over the years I'd had a few moans both in the office and on Facebook about some of their more unorganized moments due to low frustration and poor impulse control.

    However it ended up with me no longer being wanted there. Naturally I was very angry and upset, venting some more.

    But a friend told me I had to let it go as it was tearing me apart. I've since deleted my Facebook account, don't feel I have enough self control to use it (and I get annoyed at the general rubbish on there).

    This whole incident has left me very sad, I'd love to go back to the charity now the anger phase has gone. The closest I can equate it with is grief, having to acknowledge it is over and move on.
     
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  2. Nervous Rex

    Nervous Rex High-functioning autistic V.I.P Member

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    That sounds like grieving to me. It sounds like you were (are?) emotionally invested for a while after you physically left.
     
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  3. Moonray

    Moonray New Member

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    Yes it is the charity my family supported when my mother died and I have a friend who was helped by them. Plus I made friends with some of the people who work there, they would love me back but it is being blocked by senior management.

    Funnily several people have also told me my criticisms were correct but the management team dislikes being criticised.
     
  4. GadAbout

    GadAbout Active Member

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    One must never criticize one's organization on Facebook or other social media. This is a sure way to get released.

    It sounds like you are grieving not only your involvement with the organization ending, including contact with some of the people; but also the fact that you caused the change yourself, by your actions.

    Allow yourself to miss what you had but resolve to change what you can in yourself. I certainly would not rule out working for a similar organization in the future.
     
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  5. Moonray

    Moonray New Member

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    Yes I agree, that's why I've ditched my FB account as I can't trust myself on it.

    I now volunteer with another charity and I must admit I'm being very careful about what I say and also trying not to form any bonds there.
     
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