StableSable
New Member
Hello all!
I found this site last night, and lurked around a bit, so I know how welcoming and kind you all are. That's why I decided to join the fun!
I am a 33yo stay-at-home mom with no friends. I first learned about aspergers at some point in my late 20's and immediately thought, "That's me!" I called my mom to share, and she immediately identified with it, too. She has no friends, either.
I guess I thought all of the misery of not fitting in was over, now that I'm an adult. I didn't realize that being a parent at preschool drop-off and pick-up would make me feel like it was high school all over again!
I was actually excited about preschool. I thought that I would make friends with the other moms, and we would have play-dates for the kids. My son's last day was today. Despite my best efforts of smiling and trying sooooo hard to make chit chat, there have been no play-dates. The other moms started grouping themselves, as people do, and became good friends. I found myself left out, again.
I live in the south, where sweet talk is an art form, so I can make it through most social interactions seemingly normal. Plus, I like to think of myself as a very nice person. Anyway, after all of the frequently used lines have been said, things turn awkward quickly if I haven't noticed a common interest.
I deal, even though I do wish that I had a friend to talk to and hang with on occasion. I'm really on here because I'm trying to decide what to do for my son. He is five and will start kindergarten this August. I hoped he would take after his father, who is friends with everyone he meets, but he didn't. I think he has Aspergers, and I'm trying to decide if seeking a diagnosis would benefit him in any way. I just don't want him to be as completely miserable as I was from middle school through high school.
It's one thing to know that you're different. It's another to slap a label on yourself for other people to see. I don't want to put a permanent label on my son if it could ever hurt him.
So, "hi" to all of you, and thank you for all of your posts on this site! It is helpful to read!
I found this site last night, and lurked around a bit, so I know how welcoming and kind you all are. That's why I decided to join the fun!
I am a 33yo stay-at-home mom with no friends. I first learned about aspergers at some point in my late 20's and immediately thought, "That's me!" I called my mom to share, and she immediately identified with it, too. She has no friends, either.
I guess I thought all of the misery of not fitting in was over, now that I'm an adult. I didn't realize that being a parent at preschool drop-off and pick-up would make me feel like it was high school all over again!
I was actually excited about preschool. I thought that I would make friends with the other moms, and we would have play-dates for the kids. My son's last day was today. Despite my best efforts of smiling and trying sooooo hard to make chit chat, there have been no play-dates. The other moms started grouping themselves, as people do, and became good friends. I found myself left out, again.
I live in the south, where sweet talk is an art form, so I can make it through most social interactions seemingly normal. Plus, I like to think of myself as a very nice person. Anyway, after all of the frequently used lines have been said, things turn awkward quickly if I haven't noticed a common interest.
I deal, even though I do wish that I had a friend to talk to and hang with on occasion. I'm really on here because I'm trying to decide what to do for my son. He is five and will start kindergarten this August. I hoped he would take after his father, who is friends with everyone he meets, but he didn't. I think he has Aspergers, and I'm trying to decide if seeking a diagnosis would benefit him in any way. I just don't want him to be as completely miserable as I was from middle school through high school.
It's one thing to know that you're different. It's another to slap a label on yourself for other people to see. I don't want to put a permanent label on my son if it could ever hurt him.
So, "hi" to all of you, and thank you for all of your posts on this site! It is helpful to read!