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If you had to pick out one single piece of advice worth more than any other thing you’ve ever been told in your life, which one would it be?

For me it was from my grandfather, an amazingly clever man and always very calm and quiet to be around. None of us had heard of things like autism back then, I was just the weird kid that couldn’t fit in with others. I was only about 7 years old and he said:

“Don’t go dreaming in the realms of What If. You can get lost in there. You play with the cards you’ve been dealt.”

I took that to mean that I should stop trying to be like everyone else because it wasn’t going to work. In effect, he told me I should be me and make use of what I’ve got.
 

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Side note: my grandfather was called Fred and so were two of his brothers.

Alfred, Wilfred, Frederick and Lionel. Lionel always got called Jack.

Fred, Fred, Fred and Jack.
 

Richelle-H

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In all honesty, I do not remember anyone ever giving me a useful piece of advice. The one piece of advice (actually more of a suggestion) that I received by a work colleague, was ignored by me for its use seemed far too limited to be of use to anyone. I sometimes have trouble controlling my ego. :LOL:
 
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Yeshuasdaughter

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My dad: "It's better to have no friends, than to have the wrong kinds of friends. Sometimes life is better when you walk alone."
 

VictorR

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Pick your battles.

There's a lot of injustices in the world and a lot of things we can do to make the world a better place, but we can't do everything, and anyone who tries is going to get burned out sooner or later, in which case they won't be in shape to fight any battles.
 

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I have a new friend and she went through what I have suffered from all my life: agoraphobia and her dad calls us: deliciously different - we can't be all the same!
 

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1. "Be responsible for something or someone." Have some purpose in life.
2. The opposite,..."Don't be dependent upon something or someone." You often cannot depend upon others, so be prepared to do it yourself.
 

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If you had to pick out one single piece of advice worth more than any other thing you’ve ever been told in your life, which one would it be?

For me it was from my grandfather, an amazingly clever man and always very calm and quiet to be around. None of us had heard of things like autism back then, I was just the weird kid that couldn’t fit in with others. I was only about 7 years old and he said:

“Don’t go dreaming in the realms of What If. You can get lost in there. You play with the cards you’ve been dealt.”

I took that to mean that I should stop trying to be like everyone else because it wasn’t going to work. In effect, he told me I should be me and make use of what I’ve got.
I think it would be very hard to find any advice more important than that advice given by your grandfather.

The closest advice to that, I got from Fred Rogers in his Mr. Rogers children's show. Apparently, Fred Rogers purpose in life was all about that very message; that everyone is unique and is supposed to be unique, thus must live their unique life as you are. That no one is exactly like you, so no one can be better than you. Your best will always be when you focus and strive to be you.
 

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