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A decision to make

Discussion in 'Love, Relationships and Dating' started by Suiseiseki, Jul 16, 2018.

  1. Suiseiseki

    Suiseiseki I can't feel the back of my eyes

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    There's a girl I liked, and it didn't work out, we never ended up an item (I did tell her how I felt, so I am happy at least I did that). She's always been rather cold towards me, though sometimes acts like she misses me, only to go back to being cold to me.
    Sometimes she will ask to hang out and be chatty and other times ignore me.
    I don't feel I should keep being around her, it's like the worst parts of a relationship with her.
    I don't know how abouts to go like ending the "friendship" (I wouldn't go so far as to call her a friend).
    I still sometimes feel for her still, not sure why, it's not gonna happen and she wouldn't treat me very well anyways.
     
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    tree Blue/Green Staff Member V.I.P Member

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    If this is the same girl you've mentioned for months,
    it seems like she really fulfills your expectations about
    how you feel you deserve to be treated.
     
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  3. Federica

    Federica New Member

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    I would take a break from her. When you have really liked somebody, it is hard to be their friend. There is the risk that you delude yourself again staying around her.
    Get focused on new interest, new people, or begin something you really really wanted to try. Try to do something that makes you feel proud of yourself: learn something new, do a new experience, travel, begin something you like.
     
  4. Suiseiseki

    Suiseiseki I can't feel the back of my eyes

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    Yes it is the same one.
    I feel I should be treated a little bit better, I don't expect it but hope for it.

    I have let it drag out for far too long.
     
  5. Suiseiseki

    Suiseiseki I can't feel the back of my eyes

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    Most of that requires money which I don't have much of lol
     
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    LearnedCoward Active Member

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    Keep her at a distance, because she doesn't even seem to be reliable as a friend. If that doesn't work, you may need to end things with her completely.
     
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  7. Bella Pines

    Bella Pines Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I vote make a break too. We have enough problems without surrounding ourselves with people who play to the darker sides of our nature.

    There's plenty of opportunities out there that doesn't require money, I do volunteering in local schools and non-profits/charities. Distracts me from over thinking, surrounds me with positive people and generally lifts me from the depression that will always be lurking beneath the surface.
     
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  8. Suiseiseki

    Suiseiseki I can't feel the back of my eyes

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    I do volunteer but like every hobby I seem drawn to there are no women lol.

    I don't really care about the people I, like most everywhere in my life, a, very withdrawn from the group at large.
    I feel uncomfortable in this day and age trying to socialize like I used to. I am always alone with my thoughts.
    I don't feel the same feelings for the girl anymore, I have come to see her more for the person she really is.
    She would never care about me in any way and I can move on from all this.