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a bit down, kind of

paloftoon

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Work is going good again overall, but hard to keep balance in my life.
Some postve prospects have come up in dating.

One guy, firepit guy I'll call him, I met once, but doesn't seem into it and is always too tired. He is very naive about racial tendencies in our world, but he's kind and I like him a lot. He's financially very stable too.

Another guy, ScoreKeeper I'll call him, it was tough scheduling with him. He's a bit fit, a bit more than me, and has many different interests with me. I had a conflict with him and he made a weird joke and I responded to heavily, but we still spoke anyway and finally met kinda last minute last Friday early evening, like 530 PM ET.

A third guy, MedGuy I'll call him, we had similar interests and we were attracted to each other physically and wanted to meet immediately. It was natural. I then ended up changing the time so I could have time with the other date, then by instinct, I gave an Uber ride in-between the two dates making me late after having asked to push the time with Med Guy. Before I could get to Med Guy, he got mad at me, didn't want to see me anymore and blocked me :(
So sad. I had no malicious intent at all.
I even offered to do video chat to show him I was a real person, offered to meet him late and pay for his meal. He had bought me tomato soup before meeting me because he knew I had a slight cough.

Yesterday, I discovered I ended up with poison ivy from a work related activity landscaping on Friday. I'll get through all of this, but I'm sad that I know I definitely messed up a great match. The person I ended up meeting last Fri is good too, but very different. Isn't necessarily bad, just very, very different. Our interests don't match up a lot. He likes sports. I- don't, lol.
 
Missing connections on MedGuy is evidence that you need to slow down on the dating. That's how I would rationalize the situation.

Women are sadly very conscious of being stretched in a hundred directions and overloaded with multi-tasking, so take a page from my playbook. Less is more sometimes.
 
Missing connections on MedGuy is evidence that you need to slow down on the dating. That's how I would rationalize the situation.

Women are sadly very conscious of being stretched in a hundred directions and overloaded with multi-tasking, so take a page from my playbook. Less is more sometimes.

Well, it's a man rather than a woman, but similar probably applies in this case.
 
No, I meant I am a woman, so my bona fides in the multitasking-to death-department are established. I'm aware that you and your dates are men. Are we good?
 
Gosh 2 dates on the same evening? I'd be doing well to get 2 dates into the same decade. Yeah so I m not your best help on this one perhaps. Possibly the moral of this one is, one night, one date...
 
Gosh 2 dates on the same evening? I'd be doing well to get 2 dates into the same decade. Yeah so I m not your best help on this one perhaps. Possibly the moral of this one is, one night, one date...

Yeah, or other morals other:
1. Consider my state of being (semi sick or not)
2. Don't give Uber rides in-between dates
3. Don't ask to change the time for a more responsible date over a date you talked with 3 dates and isn't able to confirm a time even when he knew he'd be free on a certain Saturday with no work restrictions affecting him

(sigh)
 

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