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Owliet
Why would you think that? What is the point in continuously focusing on the negatives, of what could have been, what may have been? I get it that it’s hard, on the worst days of my emotions, I do the same.
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Owliet
But what this negative cycle does, only just makes you feel worse about yourself. YOu feel less hope. YOu feel like everyone is against you. When that is not true. Again, I get it because on my really bad days I do this also. I think you need more support than what you are receiving from your psych.
maycontainthunder
maycontainthunder
When someone finds a new human companion I am always happy for them. When you find your companion, Markness, I will be happy for you. I like seeing people happy.
Rodafina
Rodafina
@Markness, I don’t understand what you mean.
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Owliet
Agree with @maycontainthunder . I really want you to be happy and even more happy for you if you have a girlfriend. The year has just started, and you’ve already been in contact with people at a con too. Don’t give up. But also try to break the negative cycle of thought — and I know that it is hard to do that breaking.
Misery
Misery
Where in the world are you getting this? Good grief, everything I've seen from everyone here is JUST support. The only one who said anything negative like that about you, is in fact you yourself.
Misery
Misery
If someone is harassing you behind the scenes, you need to bring that up with the mods. If not... yeah, I've no idea what you're even talking about. There's only support here.
Gerald Wilgus
Gerald Wilgus
There are many here who are hoping that you finally get off your ass and put yourself out to improve yourself to the point where you have positive things to bring into a relationship.
tree
tree
Markness
Markness
@Owliet I thought I replied but it turns out I forgot that I hadn’t yet.

The bad thoughts tend to be very loud in my head and they imitate my inner voice.
Misery
Misery
If the bad thoughts are loud, why not drown them out by being even louder with the good? Shout the bloody things down and tell them to go away!
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Owliet
I do understand and please dont mistake this for not because I do. I get this looping of negative thoughts a lot and it got to the end of last year that I realized just have unhappy I was making myself. Whilst the situation was difficult, annoying and i had every right to be angry,the only person it was hurting was me.
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Owliet
I got the advice that I needed to tell myself to stop looping, I had a safe word to prevent that from happening. So every time I looped negatively, my safe word was said and I was like ???? Whilst I have some “whispers” now, they are not as powerful as they were from most of the year up until January 1st. I have other worries to deal with than add more to myself.
330
330
Don’t let your thoughts control you . This is a major problem for us . Sometimes you have to be in control of your thoughts as hard as this is . You need to find something to break the loop as suggested by @Owliet
Preferably something positive .
Misery
Misery
@Yeah, I do the safe word thing myself too. Though it's more of a phrase for me: "Get out of my head, dark thoughts, you are not welcome here".
Misery
Misery
@Markness Also, something to keep in mind: Constantly making these posts about how sad everything is, is REALLY not helping. You are enforcing the loop. That's what that does. That's the ONLY thing that does.
Misery
Misery
What I would absolutely love to see from you is that when you make a status post, you tell us something good from your day. Whether it's something good you experienced, something nice you saw, or whatever. Post THAT instead of THIS. And then keep doing that. If you only search for the bad, that's all you're going to find. So try looking for the good instead.
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