1. Welcome to Autism Forums, a friendly forum to discuss Aspergers Syndrome, Autism, High Functioning Autism and related conditions.

    Your voice is missing! You will need to register to get access to the following site features:
    • Reply to discussions and create your own threads.
    • Our modern chat room. No add-ons or extensions required, just login and start chatting!
    • Private Member only forums for more serious discussions that you may wish to not have guests or search engines access to.
    • Your very own blog. Write about anything you like on your own individual blog.

    We hope to see you as a part of our community soon! Please also check us out @ https://www.twitter.com/aspiescentral

Noba Loney's Recent Activity

  1. Noba Loney replied to the thread People assuming ulterior motives for "no reason"..

    Yeah. What makes me think it can be 'cognitive' is that It looks so wild sometimes, e.g. postng something and moments later completely...

    Dec 5, 2019 at 12:52 PM
  2. Noba Loney replied to the thread How do you deal with people who are awkward/not accomodating.

    I don't drive but walk around town quite a bit. The sidewalk / pavements are often quite narrow and I find a lot of people walk about...

    Dec 5, 2019 at 12:42 PM
  3. Noba Loney replied to the thread How do you deal with people who are awkward/not accomodating.

    If they aren't being helpful / accommodating then it can help to remind yourself that - It's not your fault that they are failing to...

    Dec 5, 2019 at 12:09 PM
  4. Noba Loney replied to the thread People assuming ulterior motives for "no reason"..

    OK, yes. I don't know if you're hinting but perhaps I'm not entirely blameless in wanting to 'win'. I mean, I do try and watch for that....

    Dec 5, 2019 at 11:54 AM
  5. Noba Loney rated BraidedPony's post Agree in the thread People assuming ulterior motives for "no reason"..

    Same thing used to happen to me all the time. People, especially NTs, will put their own motivations onto me. I will be given an...

    Dec 5, 2019 at 11:33 AM
  6. Noba Loney replied to the thread People assuming ulterior motives for "no reason"..

    That's true though, even if meant half in jest. It avoids all that trouble (by preemptively letting someone 'win' in case a competitive...

    Dec 5, 2019 at 11:20 AM
  7. Noba Loney replied to the thread People assuming ulterior motives for "no reason"..

    That's brilliant T! *Privately mulls over reasons why Ts suggestion could be problematic*

    Dec 5, 2019 at 11:09 AM
  8. Noba Loney replied to the thread People assuming ulterior motives for "no reason"..

    I mean, yes. You are right. But if I think about it, there are times where being as supportive and non-confrontational as I can imagine...

    Dec 5, 2019 at 10:47 AM
  9. Noba Loney replied to the thread People assuming ulterior motives for "no reason"..

    This kind of history is very likely part of why I'm a bit sensitive to being so wildly misinterpreted. I think I can say that in the...

    Dec 5, 2019 at 10:43 AM
  10. Noba Loney replied to the thread People assuming ulterior motives for "no reason"..

    Yes, "masking" is a kind of dishonesty, but a necessary one if people are expecting communication. I used to have this kind of frenemy...

    Dec 5, 2019 at 10:20 AM
  11. Noba Loney replied to the thread People assuming ulterior motives for "no reason"..

    Absolutely. I recognise this is an element. I also don't like appearing dumb and wrong. However, my commitment and compulsion towards...

    Dec 5, 2019 at 10:05 AM
  12. Noba Loney posted a new thread.

    People assuming ulterior motives for "no reason".

    Here's a type of scenario that has happened often enough to be a pattern. Let's say in online communication - it can happen face to face...

    Forum: General Autism Discussion

    Dec 5, 2019 at 3:32 AM
  13. Noba Loney replied to the thread Ambiguity, mixed metaphors and literal humour..

    Another common one - a sign on a door to a building that says "keep closed at all times." This is going to make entering or exiting...

    Nov 30, 2019 at 6:48 AM
  14. Noba Loney replied to the thread Ambiguity, mixed metaphors and literal humour..

    You know, I pretty much did exactly this as well. Are norms a kind of breakfast cereal I'm not familiar with? How can it be outdated?...

    Nov 30, 2019 at 2:35 AM
  15. Noba Loney replied to the thread Ambiguity, mixed metaphors and literal humour..

    It probably seems even stranger out of context. The list takes the form - "qualities an autistic person has." It's from a Tweet...

    Nov 30, 2019 at 2:26 AM