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(sings)"I just don't know what to doo with myself"

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Hey all.
So I have been recently diagnosed as an apsie.
I have an awful lot to say, but I'll keep this relevant to the topic.
Who else can tell me that they picked a degree that seemed like a logical topic for them to do because they couldn't (with the amount of lacking self-esteem and major depression they suffered from) do what they might actually really enjoy in life. I picked something that seemed like a good idea. I am very close to finishing it. It has taken me three years longer than it should have (4 years) because i am down and i dont specifically care and I don't want to work full time so being a student is a better option. It is the thought of looming employment (most likely will have to be full time) as well as job interviews, acting like an adult, etc, that scare the hell out of me. I can't do those things! I can barely do normal things at all- I can't drive, not that I care, and I live in a garage (it does look awesome tho). I am 26 and female and feel as cynical and depressed about the world as victor meldrew or an 80 year old man. On my university field placements, which were full time, I got crazy anxiety from the pressure of trying to fit in to an office (and this was before i knew something was specifically different- dare i say, wrong- with me). I got covered in eczema very severely as an auto-immune reaction to stress. ideally i wouldnt work, or i would get a great part time job and listen to jazz and sing and play violin a bit and read and that would be it for me. but I am struggling with the finding work thing. Im great on first impressions, and very good at resume writing, but my last job i just couldnt really fake it with the bosses- I HATE AUTHORITY- and it didnt work well, I mean, I'm all smiles but my life is not normal- i dont talk about babies and i dont have a partner (which is a shame for me) so what the hell man i mean these people are Nothing like me. they stopped calling me in for shifts. so, i am struggling to care about finishing uni, struggling to care about and also to find work, and stuggling to live off of very minimal social welfare payments (im in australia). sigh,., i dont know anyone like me. help me. xo

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You have no responses after ten days. Let me open my mouth, albeit with considerable trepidation. I am in the U.S.A.: different country, different culture, different laws.

Reading something like the articles on Yahoo! News which sound OK upfront but which are dissed severely by those who post comments is one source of ideas for employment. The object is to try to think outside the box. Try to develop ideas for seeking employment that fits your strengths and avoids your shortcomings.

Yahoo! sometimes presents employment/career ideas based on your personality. Some careers demand a very bright, outgoing persona. Anything that has any customer interaction requires the talents of a prime-time NT. There are jobs that need people who can work alone or almost alone. Accounting, for example. Accounting sounds like a deadly thing of doing vast amounts of arithmetic. All the arithmetic and other math is done now by machines. The job is to organize and be organized, at least on the job, and complete the actions needed on schedule. Often you will be mostly alone at it, but you will be a key to the flow of the money and will be respected if you do well (hated if you do poorly!). There are jobs that require little besides watching machines and the dials and gauges and numbers/reports printed out on monitors. You must know what to do if things go wrong. Not necessarily how to do major fixes, but knowing and performing the actions you are supposed to take. Very little interaction between employees, or there are only a very few people with whom to interact. Much easier than being in a big office with a big swirl of cliques and complex internal politics. Sometimes there are night shift jobs.

People are made for daytime. It is possible to be a true Night Person. It can be learned. Demand to be left alone to sleep in the daytime and sleep. Just like most of us would not allow ourselves to be bothered at 2 or 3 AM, go ballistic if the daytimers bother you at 2 or 3 PM. Nights usually pay better: night differentials or equivalent. At night the bosses are home asleep and your job is easier-- once you are comfortable and awake all night. Weekends pay very well, usually. Especially at night. Enjoy doing things on your middle-of-the-week days off when the regular crew is there to help when you go shopping or you have your choice of tables in a restaurant where the lines are long all weekend.

I have no idea, of course, what might work for you. I am trying to tell you to do some problem solving and to try to expand your thinking beyond the immediately obvious. Whatever your degree may be, completing higher education is as much about being dedicated to achievement and being able to manage yourself as anything else. Be proud of that. Many persons either cannot or will not. Most careers have only a passing relationship to the college major of the individual. Try to keep your mind and your options open.

And, you are not the only one who cannot stand Authority! as represented by Bosses! and others with a little bit of power and a big ego. Also, in usually interacting and getting along adequately with a very few other people at a time (as in other employees) but falling far short when trying to deal with larger groups.

Blessings.
 

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