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Making friends with autism

I know everyone with autism is different and has different traits, I find mine make me a little 'bland' or 'plain' socially, I am not very exciting to talk to, I just speak about very normal things most of the time, if someone asks me how I am I usually just reply with "doing good!" - and this is the issue I have, I struggle to make friends because I think I'm a little too plain and can't really maintain a good social flow in order to keep anyone interested for very long, most people express interest for a day or two then realise how plain I am and get bored and eventually stop talking to me, and instead turn to others nearby who are socially more 'fun' or outgoing, obviously this hurts to see all the time because from my point of view I am trying my best but I am just so nervous/shy/scared and can't summon big social energy, it just isn't who I am.

I'm writing this because I wonder if anyone else can relate, there are so many days I feel lonely because I'm not good enough to talk to, and I just need a bit of.. comfort from anyone else who may feel similar, so I know I'm not alone with this - everyone around me clicks so easily, but I struggle to form deep connections even though I badly want to.

If anyone has any tips on how to make friends with this type of socialising or perhaps knows of ways or places I can make friends on an easier level, would be much appreciated and any advice is welcomed, overall I'm a super friendly person but it just doesn't feel enough these days, I'm at a point where I badly just want someone to relate to with this so I can breath a little easier knowing that others may feel the same.

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That's a bummer and must be frustrating. You will find your people! There's gotta be people who feel the same or need someone who can balance them out or just listen. What makes you feel plain? What kinds of things interest you? I bet other folks have similar interests but maybe are also quiet about it.It does sound challenging though. Friendships can be hard.
 
Hi, I’m an introvert and actually love becoming friends with people like you. For some reason unknown to me, I tend to attract people with loud, bubbly personalities when all I really want is a calm person I can have an interesting conversation with somewhere quiet, like a cafe.

If I were you, I’d try to meeting introverts, they might appreciate your personality.
 

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