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Happiness is in our hands, or?

By Dias · Feb 27, 2019 · ·
  1. Spiritual teachers say that happiness is in our hands;
    I think blaming others or the devil for our misery are just excuses to make ourselves feel better.
    In the past and until very recently I would see fault in others, I would very easily see their mistakes and a million different ways of how they were hurting me.
    But something changed: I don't like to play the victim role anymore and I don't like to let others take control of my life, so I take full responsibility for whatever happens with me.
    Whatever happens good or bad are just lessons to learn and nothing to take personnaly; changes in life are opportunities; routine in life is good to go inside and meditate in a space of calmness.
    I chose to see positive instead of negative and if we welcome life with this attitude than life will be more kind to us.
    I am stopping to try to change what can not be changed, at least by my hands, and accepting what comes has coming from God. This is more easy for me to do since I started going deep about what Karma means.
    I can only say that it works and it is true that we create our own happiness.
    Happiness is not an absence of difficulties but a change in how we look at them.

    I heard this story, I don't remember exactly how it goes but it is something like this:

    There was a spiritual teacher and one time his students asked him what was the secret to live a happy life free from problems.
    The teacher said that he didn't know but that there was a person so and so in the next village that knew the answer.
    The students went looking for him.
    This old man had become orfan at the age of 5, he was alone and had to work hard to survive, still he managed to survive and eventually he got married and have children. During an epidemic all his family died. He was alone again. He endured famine, sickness, everything and reached an old age.
    He was always smiling despite all his misfortune.
    The students asked around and found his house. When the old man opened the door the students told him that their master had told them to ask him what was the secret for a happy life and what was the answer/solution to life problems.
    The old man replied: you must be mistaken, I don't know the answer to this question because I never had a problem in my life.
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  1. Peter Morrison
    It took me a long time to grasp the concepts around "being at peace", "less is more", "I have my health", and all the other shortened verses representative of bigger ideas. The way I understand the anecdote is to see that the old man had nothing to complain about because he accepted everything the way it is. It's a Buddhist philosophy that suggests being in tune with self as part of the whole. From a modern Western perspective, creature comforts, instant gratification, and all the negative emotions like jealousy, anger, and hatred are poison in the quest for happiness. Our unhappiness comes from wishing things were different from what they are. We compare too much, we have negative thoughts, and we stray from the reality that is us. We try to be, do, and have everything that the world offers, and we are always disappointed and we always create conflict. I think it is all true, but I have never managed to reduce my world to the simplicity of this philosophy. Perhaps, it is because I have not embraced it 100% like the monks who reject all possessions and rely on the universe to provide. I'm sure that experience is quite a cleansing. I am too corrupted to let it all go, but there is a good lesson in the Buddhist way - stop agonizing over trivial matters and give what you have to contribute to your and others' well-being. I can only be kind, and there are times when I don't sweat the small stuff. We are but a small part of a greater whole.
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