I know everyone with autism is different and has different traits, I find mine make me a little 'bland' or 'plain' socially, I am not very exciting to talk to, I just speak about very normal things most of the time, if someone asks me how I am I usually just reply with "doing good!" - and this is the issue I have, I struggle to make friends because I think I'm a little too plain and can't really maintain a good social flow in order to keep anyone interested for very long, most people express interest for a day or two then realise how plain I am and get bored and eventually stop talking to me, and instead turn to others nearby who are socially more 'fun' or outgoing, obviously this hurts to see all the time because from my point of view I am trying my best but I am just so nervous/shy/scared and can't summon big social energy, it just isn't who I am.
I'm writing this because I wonder if anyone else can relate, there are so many days I feel lonely because I'm not good enough to talk to, and I just need a bit of.. comfort from anyone else who may feel similar, so I know I'm not alone with this - everyone around me clicks so easily, but I struggle to form deep connections even though I badly want to.
If anyone has any tips on how to make friends with this type of socialising or perhaps knows of ways or places I can make friends on an easier level, would be much appreciated and any advice is welcomed, overall I'm a super friendly person but it just doesn't feel enough these days, I'm at a point where I badly just want someone to relate to with this so I can breath a little easier knowing that others may feel the same.
I'm writing this because I wonder if anyone else can relate, there are so many days I feel lonely because I'm not good enough to talk to, and I just need a bit of.. comfort from anyone else who may feel similar, so I know I'm not alone with this - everyone around me clicks so easily, but I struggle to form deep connections even though I badly want to.
If anyone has any tips on how to make friends with this type of socialising or perhaps knows of ways or places I can make friends on an easier level, would be much appreciated and any advice is welcomed, overall I'm a super friendly person but it just doesn't feel enough these days, I'm at a point where I badly just want someone to relate to with this so I can breath a little easier knowing that others may feel the same.