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Aspergers & Autism

  1. I tried stimming: Spinning rings

    When the general public (which is my floppy term for people who know about the existence of autism but not too much about what it means) thinks about stimming in autism, most will probably come up with rocking, or hand flapping and the like, maybe also audible stims if they have ever been on a long flight with an autistic individual that happens to partially stim vocally. I believe most who have not gotten to know autistic people more closely will not think of more subtle ways of stimming or...
  2. Special Qualification Courses for ASD before Marriage is highly needed?

    Okay this may seem too radical to be posted here, but this is my blog so anyway. Aspie/autism is okay and such, but the problem appears in marriage. In a marriage, the ASD will live with the partner 24/7. So it's impossible to mask. And another thing is, the ASD subconsciously actually want a caregiver or a mom who will do everything for the ASD. Processing partner? You should hire somebody else. It's irrational to expect your marriage partner to be your mom 24/7, and also without any...
  3. Despair. Or should I? Let's destroy the 1st of the 3-Language Barriers!!

    I've been net-searching research fellow/postdoc/scientist jobs in my small developing country in my husband specialization to no avail. This country doesn't have that many research institutes, let alone any in his field. Seriously, there's no research job in this country for post-phd except for lecturers and maybe only some postdoc. Furthermore, maybe those jobs need to be applied or 'created' ad-hoc-ly; means we need to meet some insider and ask for jobs. Problem is, we are not good...
  4. Seems Okay

    He picked me up at work today, eventhough he was having headache and gone home earlier. We watched a movie about the series he loves on his phone. Even though he said he cant make a move about finding job or contacting other people, he seems happy to watch the movie. Then he goes to daily prayer at a nearby hall as always. He bought me a fresh apple juice at a stall he always frequent. He bought food for himself because i am already full. He told me that there will be an eating gathering...
  5. So this is Christmas?

    Not to be dramatic or anything but tomorrow is Christmas Eve (at least for the majority of people in the country I live in and traditionally my family). Christmas used to be a huge thing for me. Granted, I'm in my twenties so my childhood is not as far away as it is for other people. And for most kids whose families celebrate Christmas, it's a huge thing. I believed in the mythical being that brings the presents in our culture for a long time. Source: tenor.com Growing up I had always been...
  6. How to Make a Place of Belonging for an Aspie, If He's Not Interested?

    That's hard! Without the aspie's cooperation, or if he's not interested in anything that the society there has, what to do?? When I asked him, he said to me, "Make one." Who's the one who need to MAKE that place of belonging for him? Is it me? How is that possible without his cooperation? The restricted interest of an aspie is so restricted, that even similar or neighbouring field of interest doesn't count. Also, it depends on where you live/work. In his country, the research fields are...
  7. Childhood favorites are stim toys today

    During my 'research' into autism, I was recently checking out #stimtoys on Instagram because that is exactly the platform on which serious research on autism should start. I was scrolling through the tag when I came across the account of a shop that seemed to be specialized in types of objects labeled as 'stim toys.' What I found was an entirely new world for me. Except, it was not really. For example, the shop featured sand animals which I used to love for their unique texture and the...
  8. "Actually..." (A one word title for a too-many-words post about self-diagnosis)

    Too many words about why I self-diagnosed myself and why it took me so long to write about it.
  9. Aspie in Foreign Land and Two-Body Problem. Is there a meaning behind all these?

    Previously, since my Asperger husband sacrificed his research career to move to my developing country (where nobody here doing his particular field of research; but there are teams doing this in his developed country, he supposed to join the team, but he sacrificed it to move here.. so sad), he said he wanted to go back to work in his country. Previously. If he wants to, he should apply by this month. He was not happy with the state of that research field here, feels so empty and no...
  10. Walking on tiptoes. Just because.

    I recently watched a YouTube video by The Aspie World titled ASPERGERS symptoms in children: 5 ways YOU spot Autism, in which one trait of some people with Asperger Syndrome is said to be walking on their tiptoes, especially in their childhood and teenage years. That video unearthed a part of my childhood I had completely forgotten about. I would walk around on my tiptoes a lot when I was a kid (up to when I was around 12 years old), albeit only without shoes on. I can distinctly remember...
  11. I want him to be content. How do I do this?

    Instead of letting things jumbling up into a tighter knot in my mind, let's just jot what are weighing my mind down. The problem of our marriage is a combined set of several problem sets. My husband's: Asperger Foreigner International marriage Moving to a foreign land Moving to wife's country (opposite of the usual norm, where wife follows the husband) Multi-language land: 3 languages needed 1 language (English; we're non-English) for securing job/conversation, 1 other language for daily...
  12. 65 Years and Counting...

    Very early in my career, a decade or more before the turn of the century, I was given a test by my employer to determine, within any project, the level of importance I placed upon the people versus the task. After he gathered the results, I was told by the gentleman who administered the test that he had never seen anyone score so heavily on one side or the other as I did. In taking the test, I scored off the charts on the task side and barely gave any consideration at all to the people side....
  13. Swimming, but sinking

    Thinking back to my school years, one of my strongest memories is how utterly untalented I was in all things sport-related. But my sport-problems started even before I entered elementary school, especially with swimming. I was perfectly content with my floaties. Being in the water was amazing as long as I had my neon orange arm floats strapped on. I could enjoy the feeling of being weightless without having to worry about drowning. My mom did not share that opinion, so on our first trip to...
  14. So I think I might have ASD.

    Alright. Today’s Monday. I’m on the train to my workplace. It’s jam-packed, people are speaking on their phones, there’s an entire school class in it and I can’t get to my earphones cause the train is too packed to reach for them in my backpack. I’m freaking out. Last night I couldn’t sleep well because my thoughts kept waking me up. I had to change outfits twice before leaving the house this morning because something was always not right. I am a university student who works as a student...
  15. fragility

    People treat me different. It's in the tone of their voices the looks on their face. They look at me with pity.. and fill my head with lies because they are afraid I can't handle the truth. Heads up, autism doesn't mean stupid. It's a neurological phenomenon and mostly affects how I interact with others, controlling my emotions in a positive manner and over stimulation of any sort. people seem to think I can't understand what they are saying so they just talk about me when I am in ear...
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