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I would like to know, what are your favorite clothing pieces from the past five years?
Here is my list:
Spring/Summer 2015 - IZOD Interlock Polo in Fairy Tale pink. Sadly, this one got bleach stains in the back and I had to donate it this year. Hopefully I can find one someday in wearable condition.
Fall/Winter 2015 - IZOD Sueded Fleece in Cradle Pink.
Spring/Summer 2016 - IZOD Windward Interlock Polo in Cradle Pink.
Fall/Winter 2016 - IZOD Advantage Fleece in Cradle Pink.
Spring/Summer 2017 - IZOD Saltwater Pelican Print Newport Oxford Button-down Shirt in Fairy Tale pink.
Fall/Winter 2017 - IZOD Advantage Fleece in Fairy Tale pink.
Spring/Summer 2018 - IZOD Windward Interlock Polo in Fairy Tale pink.
Fall/Winter 2018 - IZOD Advantage Fleece in Black.
Spring/Summer 2019 - IZOD Saltwater Chino Shorts in Fairy Tale pink.
Fall/Winter 2019 - I have yet to buy anything for FW2019 and I am not sure if I will since I think I have enough fall/winter clothes because it doesn't get very...
I watch Korean dramas and a strange thing is happening. Each time someone's situation changes and either they have no where to live or just been thrown out and looking around bewildered, I can feel a panic inside of me and yet, I know it is just acting, but it brings all my agoraphobia to the fore front and stops me enjoying watching.
I hate the idea of not knowing what the next move is, in my life and can hyperventilate if I feel threatened.
I haven't been here very long but this site and all of you have provided me with so much support and insight and I am so grateful to have found my way here.
I'm in serious trouble. Despite the tremendous amount of effort I have put into doing my job, I have finally messed up enough to earn myself a disciplinary. I am very good at what I do and my work itself is done very well. I constantly go out of my way to go above and beyond what is required of me. Unfortunately, I slip up when it comes to the other aspects, in this case it is capturing my time sheets which my company takes such things very seriously.
They have done everything by the book, I've received the necessary warnings. I've tried to explain that I'm doing my best (because I truly am) but sometimes I slip up.
I honestly care so much about my job and I have improved. They have even acknowledged my improvement. I slipped up once and they have seized the opportunity. I've told them about my my condition...
So I have really bad social anxiety and it's very difficult for me to communicate with people, especially in person.
Well I had met someone online last year with a similar hobby as me and today we finally met in person for the first time.
It was difficult for me to talk, but we are both shy it seems. It still went well I think, and I have a new friend now. To be honest, meeting someone you had met only online can already be pretty awkward as it is so I feel like that didn't help the situation.
I'm always afraid that my social anxiety and awkwardness will scare people away, as it has before. But fingers crossed I make it through until things become more comfortable!
What do you guys do to overcome social anxiety situations and try to make new friends?
I think my codependency ruined my relationship. Yes, we had struggles because of the different way we view the world, but in taking a step back, and looking back at my other relationships, I realize I did the same thing. I just think this time it was more pronounced because I focused so much on his needs because of the (suspected) ASD. I lost sight of myself, my own failings, my own responsibilities.
I was wondering if anybody else had this similar situation where they overfocused on their partners issues and overlooked their own. Or were you the person who was focused on? How did you resolve it?
I have never had an easy relationship with him. I am in a constant kerfuffle and I get/receive little in the way of sympathy from him.
Recently, his anger and frustrations at me has intensified. Everything I do seems to annoy him.
How does his anger manifest?
- He disagrees with most everything I say.
- He never tells me what people are discussing or have discussed. If I persist his response is 'you should've got off your arse and came in then'.
- He never has any sympathy for my social anxiety or social issues associated with my condition. Ever. Just yesterday he blamed me for my lack of friends and the rude behaviour of members in a social group that I attend. i.e. he always takes their side.
- Bottom line everything I do seems to anger him.
I do not know what this is all about or why I anger him so much. I don't usually speak to him that much. But when I do his response is usually anger.
He is this way to my mother at times, but never my sister. It's just an intense...
I’m not quite sure what type of personality I portray. I’ve been mountain biking 1-3 times a week with a local Mountain Bike Group. I’m getting pretty fast and hitting the drops and jumps etc, so I’m not holding anyone back. Last week a couple guys I thought perhaps I was becoming friends with stayed after to get some more riding in and I was ignored so I left. I’m planning a ride on a remote point to point trail on October 18th so I booked an Air bnb for two nights that sleeps 5. I messaged 4 guys that I usually am an equal riding skill and I thought friended with and NOT 1 could even bother to respond. Day 1 I got it, I thought maybe they needed to ask family check scedules etc. it’s been 4 days and no responses.
I’m at a loss. I just don’t understand anymore. I’m 42, the guys are 42 to 51 so there not kids. I suppose I’m just sad.
A couple days ago I got an updated letter from the SSA.
It says that if I retire at age 66 and one-half, which is just under five years away, my retirement benefit will be a paltry $1033 per month. I got my first job in 1976, and have only earned over $20,000 per year 17 times. My highest yearly wage ever was just over $26,000.
There is very little doubt in my mind that I would have been better off today had I been a high school dropout, but I have actually spent 11 years and four months ( not consecutively), in post high school education, including a bachelors degree and two certificates. These are bizarre facts that I will cover in detail in my book.
I can't help but wondering if this is unprecedented. Is there any other member of the 142 million people in the labor force who has this much education, has been eligible to work for almost 46 years, yet has earned so little?
I would think these strange facts alone would garner interest for my detailed writings.
This is a...
So this comes from a time when I was trying to figure out who I was. And who I wanted to be. I know now who I want to be. Something new clean of evil with a strong sense of honor, loyality, and love. What about all of you?
Like probably many on here, I have a problem starting a task that grew worse in the last few years. I learnt to finish them and maybe continue them after a disturbance about 50% of the time but starting a task is still difficult for me. It concerns anything, from making food to reading a book or looking for work. Instead of working on something, I can just sit undecided for a long time unless I have an external stimulus to force me to move and do something. Prioritising is also a problem for me but not as great of a one as it used to.
I find it frustrating and I'm trying to work on it. Do you have some advice on the topic?
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