Asperger's & Autism Forum

First post-intro thread so apologies if the topic has been covered.

I go out about once a week to pick up the mail and drop off the trash (mixed that up once and it was messy) plus every 16 days for groceries. I don't want to risk interaction beyond that with physical external variables if I don't have to. To anyone with similar self-defined limitations I ask you this: How do you spend time? The smaller my world gets the harder it seems to fill a day. Hoping for a magic bullet here but I'll take what you'll share. Thanks.

I have a wooden salt and pepper grinder set.

Both have sea salt in them

I don't remember why I did that but they've been like that for years.

On a lighter note...

I am a pack rat, most definitely, which some might call disorder... But when I'm handling bills of money (yes... I'm a luddite who hasn't fully converted to the new electronic order), I like to make sure they are in the proper placement, with the heads up and to the right... I'll place bets most people don't even notice or think about that... I have always tried to do that, just simply did it...

And another sense of order, the proper names of cars, as an amateur historian of cars in many cases I know the exact name and find that many people use shortcuts of language, either on purpose or often without even knowing... I'm such a stickler to language that it sometimes drives me crazy when I see improper name usage, I might be the only one thinking about it, probably am...

One more, being Canadian, how we spell certain words... How we use "our" rather than "or", for example the word favour, I will always use the Canadian spelling! There is a...

Hi there Community.

I've just read some rather interesting 'resource' and, while I can see the point of all the people involved, I... well, can't help but feel hurt. It's not every day you're reminded that you're a heartless robot.

A warning: it's not a kind portrayal of AS.

Heartless Aspergers

Just wanted to hear your opinions. It's the first time I really met such a wall of resistance concerning the AS and it caught me completely off guard. Hurtful, even if true in many instances.

I can understand that our lack of understanding of social clues and recognising human emotions just by non-verbal language may cause frustration, in many cases even worse. Self-doubt, leading to low self-esteem, anxiety about another 'rude' thing that we simply didn't intend as rude, depression about not being good enough. I can see both sides.

Though to me it looks like the people there didn't even try to consider our perspective. Is sending mixed signals that we don't understand really that...

I found this recently. Describing life with an asperger's partner. If so, what hope is there for a happy partnership?

Autism: Difference or Disorder?

The Bottom Line
The bottom line, as we've all come to accept and know it is: that anyone married to someone who is functioning with Aspergers:
You will be a caregiver only.
You will be subjected to, on occasion, flaring tempers which may or may not be harmful for you.
You will be living with someone who has only themselves as a focus in their lives and not their partner.
You will be subjected to periods of paranoia, thus becoming the focal point for such negative behaviour.
You will live with someone who doesn't 'get it' insofar as sharing their lives with you emotionally or financially in any supportive way.
You may possibly end up in the care of doctors for physical ailments related to feelings of neglect.
You will end up in therapy trying to learn how to live with someone with Aspergers because you will have been fully...

Just trying to understand if a person with Aspergers would be considered smarter then a 5th grader?

I am trying to be funny. But at the same time I am as serious as a heart attack. Sorry if it is an insult but I am honestly trying to figure out my career and school options as is now with my intellect and later in 10 years.

You see I do not believe in IQ tests 100 percent and would trust a random person on the internet to guide me over a psychiatrist or person testing IQ.

Wisdom is what I am searching for, it seems to be much more important to me now a days. Where do I find it?

Can you help?

Explain intellect and how relevant it is in today's society?

What about emotional IQ? Etc

I am a little wired differently so people know. I would like a mentor,guider and a person that understands mental illness. Even if they are Ill themselves.

I feel that deep down I may have something to contribute to society but I need some productive opinions?

The title says it all really.

What one thing do you wish NTs knew about Asperger's?

i see a trend. Women NTs come on here to ask about Aut/aspie men.

Rarely do NT men come to ask about aut/aspie women.

Are women just forced to hide it? Do NT men have a greater dislike for A women than NT women have for A men?

I know i have not had even a HINT of a date for 2 decades. Maybe 1. Quite a record, there. I would have to pay a guy to take me out. I just might and then ask him what makes me so deplorable

Or anti-hero if so inclined.

For me personally:

*Smart but flawed
*Logical
*Loner/ Unable to form strong connections with others
*Having a vision or motive that no one seems to fully understand but you.
*Driven and ambitious/ Obsessive in pursuit of goals and interests
*Often ostracized by people who don't understand you
*Often viewed with suspicion or scrutiny from normal people.
*Capable of empathy but often accused not having it.

I don't know I always related more to villains growing up and I wondered if any other Aspies feel them same.

I suppose this is more of a vent and I apologize for the long read, but here it goes:

I work in veterinary medicine as a registered nurse and have been at five different hospitals in the last year due to "personality issues" (actually just ASD) and have been struggling to keep a job since I decided I want to simultaneously work with farm animals as well as in a hospital setting for cats/dogs. I love my work, I love to stay busy, and I love to be challenged mentally.

I've been at this current clinic since mid-February of this year and things were going great at first. It's the longest actually I've ever held a job. I'm excellent at what I do technically, but greatly struggle trying to figure out how each team member prefers to be interacted with when it comes to our patients, questions, appts, etc.

Over the last several months, I've noticed my team members beginning to treat me differently and coldly, in comparison with how they treated me when I first started. I was originally...