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A paracosm is a highly detailed imaginary world often only experienced through the eyes of it's creators. I've been building my world since the 8th grade. I call it Abre, a mystical land with no explanation.
The technology and timeline is anachronistic. The story is based in fantasy and comedy so there is a king and queen, magic, castles ,and knights but there are also more modern things like zipcodes, nursing homes, jetpacks, aliens, and corporations.
I could go into greater detail if asked some questions but because it is an entire world I won't clutter the prompt with a bunch of lore.
Do any of you get annoyed or tired of talking about your special interest with NTs? I do. My special interest is running and over time it has become well known in the office I work at that I am pretty successful in this interest of mine. So now many people will bring it up and talk to me about it. While I do enjoy the recognition and the fact that people are trying to talk with me, it is difficult to talk to NT's about b/c my expectations, knowledge, ability, and goals are vastly different than others who also have a interest in the sport. And I dislike being congratulated when I actually had a terrible race. Also, I do think when people ask me about it, it annoys some others because they are tired of hearing about it. To a certain extent, I don't fault them for that. I only really enjoy talking about the interest with others if they also take it fairly seriously.
I've often said that asperger's is a condition of extremes. I seems that I am either hyper or hypo something and I'd say that's the case for most aspies I know as well.
One area where is seems that the stereotypcial aspie excels is in reading maps or taking in information in a tabular fashion. I am abysmal at both. And I just wondered if anyone else is the same.
Bus/Train time-tables make me anxious. They feel as if someone has thrown a load of data at me all at once. Strangely, I can probably help someone else make sense of a time-table, but when it comes to myself the anxiety makes everything jumbled. (I'm the same with budgeting. I can help you, but cannot do it myself.)
The other one is reading maps. I am just useless. If I had to do a journey on my own, I would have to pull over countless times to check how many more extra centremetres I had gone on the map and whether we were still on the right line. I'm not sure how much that is related to anxiety, but it feels like it...
(Not written by me)
Last year, I met a young man with autism who participated in a study at my lab. He did not meet the criteria for depression, and no one in my team would have guessed, based on our interactions with him, that he thought about ending his life. But as part of our research protocol, we asked him directly whether he had thoughts of suicide. Only then did we learn that he had taken action on plans to end his life on two previous occasions.
Later in the interview he told us that if he did not meet a certain highly unrealistic career goal within a specific amount of time, he planned to kill himself. He repeated this often, sometimes matter-of-factly and other times almost defensively, as if challenging us to dissuade him.
After spending a day with him in the lab, I would characterize this man as angry, frustrated and dejected. But none of this was apparent during his first few hours with us, and I doubt that it would have been obvious during a brief or routine screen...
I don't even mean stuff like where they are mistakenly assuming that both of us share a perspective or experience.....
I mean like when they literally say "we" for a statement that only applies to me.
Is it supposed to convey something like them being in support of me ?....or that we are a team in dealing with something?.....something along those lines?
I find it very confusing.
I've noticed in the last couple of years, maybe as I'm getting a little older?, that people often look at me strangely. Whenever I'm talking to someone or even if I'm not directly in a conversation, I can just be standing off to the side of folks, and I'll still get strange looks.
For the longest time, when I was a kid or in high school, it never occurred to me that this was odd. I just figured people looked at other people strangely, maybe out of habit. It was what it was. But then when I got to college and moved in with two roommates, strangers much younger than me, I started to feel out of place with the odd looks I kept getting from my roommates.
Especially one roommate in particular who, whenever she saw me, would give me this look where she kind of scrunched up her face in a tight-lipped smile. It bothered me whenever she did it but I couldn't put my finger on why. Months went by and I had no idea what that look meant. I knew she rarely ever talked to me and avoided me...
In the last few months I've been spending a fair amount of time with a lady (who happens to be bi-polar), going for walks or sometimes different events together, we're not "officially" dating yet although we might be functionally dating...
Anyway... There is a large classic car show tomorrow, I've always gone either on my own or with photography friends, and have always left very early in the morning, because I'm obsessive about this show, over 1000 classic cars will be there...
She has some interest in classic cars so I invited her, normally I leave town by about 7:30 AM at the latest just to get there early, when I mentioned when I wanted to leave she balked a little, she suggested 8 AM would be more suitable, and I still want to have a big breakfast before leaving, meaning we probably won't get there until maybe 9:30 AM... I've agreed, simply to spend more time with her, but I'm a little afraid of getting there too late and missing too much of the day and also having trouble...
First post-intro thread so apologies if the topic has been covered.
I go out about once a week to pick up the mail and drop off the trash (mixed that up once and it was messy) plus every 16 days for groceries. I don't want to risk interaction beyond that with physical external variables if I don't have to. To anyone with similar self-defined limitations I ask you this: How do you spend time? The smaller my world gets the harder it seems to fill a day. Hoping for a magic bullet here but I'll take what you'll share. Thanks.
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