Asperger's & Autism Forum

I've seen so many videos of people getting to meet their real parents or long lost whatever. A man who met his 17 year old daughter for the first time - not knowing she existed before. That's all well and good but I don't understand the emotion behind it all. They go running to each other in tears and hug like they don't ever want to let go. And now these DNA reports that say you can connect and become closer to people that share some of same DNA.

It makes me feel kind of callous for not 'getting it'. I'm sorry, but if you're someone I've never met I can't think of a reason I would feel close to you. Okay - if someone saved one of my children or grandchild, then yeah, I'd be eternally grateful. But, other than that, you're still a stranger and I'm going to feel like you're a stranger.

This was definitely a constant disagreement between me and my narcissist ex. You could imagine - he thinks he should be center of everyone's attention and I don't understand why he would...

I am about to take the bus for the first shopping. trip I have planned. A person taught me to use Apple Maps. It has the information I need. I took a screenshot to make sure it didn't disappear. I am very frightened.

Temple is known for being very autistic and as a child was full-blown autistic. She also gets frustrated at other people failing to get pictures she can clearly see and hates the way normal people think.
Could there nevertheless be traits of the spectrum that she doesn't have?

I do this all the time which makes me depressed. I did it when I was younger and did not know I had Asperger's ASD comparing myself to my cousins.

I look on how people without Asperger's ASD seem to have better lives then me. They can go out and socialize easily, which I am forcing myself too do buy going to Church, Church events and Life Group.

However seeing people without the disorder strike up conversations and the big thing maintaining them while if someone talks to me the conversations end quickly. Even though I personally talked to my friend Justin about this he says it is no easy for him but it seems so easy.

Phone contacts in your phone
Facebook friends in your list?

Do you try and keep numbers even? Odd? Rounded in 10's? Do you think less is more? What's the highest or lowest you've had?

I have 7 phone contacts. 2 are services, 2 are work colleagues, 2 are family and the other is my partner.

I've left and rejoined FB several times and purged and re-added people even more than that. Lowest it got to was 15. Highest it got to was high 200's. Right now it's sat at 32. I'd prefer it to be 30, or 33. But it's sat at 32 and that number annoys me. 321 would be nicer. But over 300 friends is ridiculous. I wouldn't even consider the ones in my list true friends, but when I start thinking like that I pull a Stalin and purge everyone again

Ed

Does anyone play games in their head? Say I'm in the kitchen, and the kettle is on, I start inventing tasks and objectives I must perform before the kettle clicks. Same goes for the microwave.

Or I start counting down in my head from 10 whilst I'm doing something and start to feel a rush of childish excitement as it draws closer to 1. Sometimes I do this to pretend it could affect things in my life - run up the stairs in under 3 seconds or you'll blow up. Or walking on paved pathway squares in the movement of a Knight piece in chess.

It's quirky, but I've done it for over 20 years and it still never gets old.

Ed

Have to get opinions on this, I've had people say this to my face on a quite a few occasions.
twice when leaving jobs, even had a uncle say it to me over my fathers death bed.
Also numerous times when meeting new people usually with Drink involved.
I usually just respond with "OK" which tends to knock them back a bit as I assume they are looking for an aguement.
I'd love to say it doesnt bother me but it really does and ties into my not trying to make friends or interact with people.
I will say I think anyone who does this is being honest but also incredably rude.

Does this/has this happened to you and if so how do you deal with it or do you understand why?
Thanks for reading.

Mine is simple: I just wanted to talk to other people on the spectrum!

do you wear pajamas at night

I did not know you could do this. It was very difficult having to go to the grocery so often because food would go bad. I worried about it a lot. What if I could not go in two days when things would need to be replaced? (rhetorical)

Today I was reading the package holding some bread and it said I could freeze it. I put it in a Ziploc bag, though unfortunately not a freezer specific bag, but if this works out, I can buy what I eat in larger amounts and always know I have enough. I did not know this.

There are lots of things that adult aspies can not know but seem obvious to other people. People have been very unkind when I have asked questions about things they though it was silly to not know. They have even accused me of lying about not knowing. So a long time ago I stopped asking.

But aspies can help each other, we can answer each other's questions. Today I learned about freezing food.