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Once again there has been a tragic mass shooting at a school and speculation raised that the perpetrator might be on the spectrum. While the world looks at this unspeakable event and decries gun ownership, I can’t help but wonder about the moral aspect of it.
Was the shooter just plain evil without a sense of right from wrong? If so, and if he is on the spectrum, then does that mean those on the spectrum have a skewed understanding of right and wrong? This has nothing to do with one’s religious or secular views, but rather the simple basic instincts that people seem to be born with: “Killing other humans is wrong.”
This subject could go down many paths. For instance, many on the spectrum enjoy video games. Would that have something to do with the shooter’s mindset or lack of conscience if he is truly on the spectrum? Did his other mental health issues have something to do with it?
What do you think?
The first time I met with my new psychiatrist, she responded positively to my questions about ASD diagnosis and support. She said she would look into finding resources for me. When I asked about ASD evaluation and support during our second appointment, she dismissed me. She said there was no way I could be on the spectrum because if I were, I would have been diagnosed as a child, there was no way I could have "gotten this far" if I were actually on the spectrum. I said that what I had been reading indicated otherwise, and she cited her degrees and profession and said, "I can't account for what you find on Google."
As always, I didn't know what to say. I don't know what she meant by "gotten this far" - my age? Or the fact that I managed to get a few degrees in school? She seems to think people with ASD are easily spotted and always diagnosed during childhood, and perhaps unable to have any success in life, like earn a degree? How can the stereotypical Aspie be working in...
Well, as things go, my diagnostic is ptsd and therapst believes that social phobia is just a part of the jigsaw puzzle. Did not bring up aspergers.
Two options opened to me. Therapy sessions or medicine? Now, really therapy should be the option, but I cannot deal with the influx of negative emotions that come with it. I had to excuse myself and try and pull myself together. Yes, I know I could have stayed. But being the only female with two guys; I just could not deal with it.
I had hoped to just concentrate on the social phobia, but the therapist does not speak English ( his right, of course) and so, hubby was doing all the talking ( much appreciation there) as today, I could barely understand the therapist! Unfortunately, as soon as my husband mentioned peodophila, the therapst seemed to have a light bulb moment appear - ahhh she has ptsd obviously and I do not dispute that, because my friend suggested as much and when I looked it up, I did see that I tick most of the...
I've noticed that I often feel like I'm on the periphery.
Not quite a part of it, wanting to be but somehow not quite.
I suspect it's down to never quite feeling a part of NT groups or communities, and you just get conditioned to feel that way.
If you don't feel a part, is it linked to the age you were diagnosed?
I've read awhile ago that looking young for your age is a trait of autism. I know this probably doesn't apply to all autistic people, but for a good amount of the auties/aspies I've met, (as well as for myself), there does seem to be at least a hint of truth to it.
I've also heard multiple theories for why this would be the case, but the one that interested me the most was that we have evolved to age slower than our NT peers because it helped us survive longer in the past. However, I've never found any scientific proof backing this claim up. So, has anyone else heard this claim, and if you have, do you know if there's any truth to it?
My son is Aspy. He seems really normal but he is on the spectrum. He gets weekly ABA therapy. He is 15 years old. His main therapist will give him a task (put all your materials away after he does his homework) and if it is not done correctly will ask him to do complete the task without telling him what is wrong. This frustrates my son. He will walk away from the task. This upsets the therapist who will give him a consequence. Well it escalated to him going to watch TV and her forcing the remote out of his hand. He want downstairs to the toy room and played with his Pokémon cards. She and a male therapist followed him down. While he was sitting on the floor the male therapist went through a second door behind him to pick him up. He grabbed him under the arms and squeezed to force him up. My son said it both hurt and tickled. He then was upset and decided to go to his room. Do you see the behavior where he is looking to calm himself and wants a social out? His mother is...
I'm new here. I have a 13-year-old son who was diagnosed with ASD when he was 5. His dad and I divorced in 2012, initiated by me, because of lack of communication and emotional intimacy. We had been together for 12 years, married for 8. He's a great guy. Reliable, honest, trustworthy, loyal...it was really hard to let him go, but I was so unhappy and he just refused to talk and I felt unloved and rejected. So for the last few years we've been raising our children and although divorced, have maintained a pretty good relationship. He's still close w/ my family, here for every holiday, and even spends nights here to be closer to the children. We've even taken family vacations together once a year. He's a great dad and provider.
Three years ago when my son went in for a re-evaluation, my ex realized from talking to the doctor, that he is probably on the spectrum too. Unfortunately, he didn't pursue diagnosing at the time. Last month we finally sat down before the new year to...
I've always sidestepped everywhere at home, in a kind of dance-like way. If I was in my room, and I needed to get to the kitchen, I would almost never walk there normally. I loved feeling the rhythm of my feet, and the feeling of being in the air. I might even do little twirls around corners. I rarely used to do it outside home though - especially after one occasion in school when I was 9 when my older sister told me that her classmates had commented that they saw me skipping through the school (and who presumably told her I was weird).
Lately though, I've found myself doing it more and more. Now that I've moved out of home and live in student halls, there's not as much opportunity to, but if I'm walking through a corridor or if I'm in the communal kitchen by myself, I'll often sidestep or leap around. While walking outside, however, I've started skipping again quite frequently, and it almost becomes a tic sometimes. I'll put in a little shuffle-step while walking, and then once...
I’ve had a variety of relationships:
-The teenage boyfriend
-The virtual man-friend.
They are incredibly smart, handsome, kind and exciting. But they all had an awful relationship with their mothers while growing up.
I feel like they are all the same guy, and that I have to stop the pattern.
But I don’t know how. The heart does not choose who to love.
But I have to try. At least, I have to stay away from guys that had bad mothers (I don’t want to offend anyone, but I’ve given up; the rest of the women can have them, I’ve already had my share).
When I got too close, they feared that I would hurt them (as their mothers did). So it was easier for them to either become cold and distanced, and/or move on to the next woman, with whom they were not close, hence, they felt they could control the relationship and not get hurt.
I will like to hear your comments and experiences on this, specially on how to break the pattern. I know I have to change.
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