Asperger's & Autism Forum

looking back, I’ve probably had the best baseline mood when running. I’m weird. I’ve done 19 ultra marathons since 2012. Excessive running made me feel stable mentally. Next is motorcycles/mountain bikes and maybe skiing than backpacking.

My therapist says anything that gets me outside makes me feel better.

Short Term- I enjoy a lot of music.

I was never into gaming, but LOVED “Tony Hawk Proskater” and “Guitar Hero” for play station

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I have had several Flu jabs over the years, and I still get 2 or 3 colds a year which may or may not be Flu related.

How about you guys? OK I know some of you might be loath to have the job due to fear of the Needle, bur ir could in theory save your life if it works,

This is very stupid and/or offensive question I am sure, and this is a follow-up to a post I made yesterday (I appreciate all the feedback, by the way), but as I reflect on my lost friendship (online) with a guy on the spectrum (I am an NT), I am wondering if this 2 year situation we had that involved friendship, sexual activities (online only) and the mentioning of love were just a way for him to cure his boredom. He has been on a 2 year break from college for surgery, a death of a family member and his own personal struggles. This is about the time we met. I always wondered why he did not date women in his hometown and only talked to me, an older woman.

Anyway...

Every time I said I was meeting with another male friend online, he would say he wanted to visit me instead and live with me, take care of me, etc. I told him the age difference was too vast and he said he did not care. So, I actually believed him and fell head over heels. One of the reasons I like people on the...

Okay, so, after a rather... bloody stupid clash I earlier involving a bunch of insults thrown my way, well... one of those comments was one I'd heard before, and one that frustrates me to no end. And I got to thinking about it. Particularly as it was almost definitely part of the core reason for the insults coming my way.

That phrase tends to go along the lines of "If you dont have a REAL job, you arent contributing to SOCIETY" or "If you're not contributing by WORKING, you're just a lazy bum!". I doubt I have to go too much further to explain what I mean.

Now, it is true: I do not have a job. I have not worked a job in... uhh... 8 or 9 years maybe? Not only am I technically disabled and frankly TERRIBLE at most jobs, but I also have no need for one. I won't elaborate on that last bit, as the last two times I did so, it "triggered" people (is that the word everyone uses now?) but suffice it to say, from a practical standpoint, a job would be entirely wasted on me.

Now,...

Hi everyone
New to this site.
I need some advice.
Been in a 4 year relationship with my undiagnosed autistic boyfriend.
I am so frustrated and at the end of my tether.
I adore my boyfriend very much.
Our relationship consists of me doing everything, him not understanding most of our conversations and him appearing to only think about himself.
That along side the fact he just does not know how to discipline his children, is stressed and highly anxious all the time too.
He split from the mother of his children as she couldnt cope with his behaviours any longer.
We are supposed to be moving in together in 2 months and I just dont think i can do it any longer.
I just need someone to talk to who understands this

DX- level 1 Autism, GAD, SAD and Depression.

I feel GAD/depression impacts me the most. SAD not as much. Autism, I think I’m ok with that. I feel it helps me be good at my job.

I've had people say to me , your only like that because you didn't grow up with
Friends . You're only like that because you kept to yourself .

It's really annoying to me because ,I'm only like I am, because I am like I am.

What do you do when people think its a quick fix or because of an event .

My Grandma is very old and not doing all that great. I went to see her yesterday, and she said that she wants to die. I know that she is old and may not have much longer left to live, but I wish she wouldn't wish away the rest of her life. I just don't really know how I should react. Or what I should say to her when she says she wants to die. Anybody have any ideas??? Any advice will be taken gratefully as I am kind of stuck.

As I've probably stated before, I did not go to college or university. I quit in the 11th grade because i simply couldnt take it anymore, and did corespondence and got my Diploma about a month after the next year would have started. Daddy asked me if I wanted to go to college, and probably would have paid my way, but at the time, it was not just no, but Hell No! I couldn't fathom the thought of ...all those people!! And torment!!! at the time. Then marriage, kids and life happened.

My question is, I see a lot of folks doing these deep studies in a variety of topics, did it come naturally as one with ASD, or did you learn how to study deeply in education, IOW, did you learn the method of studying from school?

My special interest has always been the bible, creationism, archaeology, geology, things like that but I've not been as "deep" in it as some. (The Giants and nephilim always piqued my interest, even from a child).

I think I also have ADD, which kind of throws in a mix of...

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Taking my CV and cover letter this afternoon, the applications close next week, I checked on the Meadowhall website this morning.

Anyway, should I put as part of the cover letter that under "reasonable adjustments" would I be able to wear "smart casual" attire rather than the shirt/tie uniform due to disability and not being able to do a shirt/tie?

OK yeah I'll spare you my long rant about the enforcement, or rather lack thereof, of the equality laws, but can they say no to my request?

I need a quick response to this please as I'm off out shortly.