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I got thinking this from another thread, and wondered if it's common.
I don't mind playing sport (I don't love it though), but I can't see any point in watching it and I never have.
I used to watch motor racing, but I think that was because of the bikes and the cars and the noise they make, and I've got into foot ball matches but only if I care about the outcome, EG national team in the world cup finals, or the few times I've bet on sports.
When I have watched it I notice that my mimicking skills don't work, and the things I say to other spectators obvious stand out as quite weird.
I tried talking to my ex so as to get some insight into his thoughts, but to no avail.
I told him I would like to understand how he could go from all that seemingly deep affection to treating me like dirt and making me feel like a stranger; I tried inquiring about what made him uncomfortable; I tried asking him about his needs. Calmly, in writing. The reply I got? "You don't need to understand anything".
How am I supposed to deal with this? Every attempt I make to communicate is pointless.
The Dr who refered me to the Autism centre contact me. They were appalled and so very affirming to me and said that was totally unfair. She got the report and said it was wrong.
She is refering me to a collegue who will help to find a more accurate Dx. She said I am not harmful and never hurt anyone. I was in tears. I have been isolated since that screening.
I will update you all . I am exhausted. One day TBI, next autism, next just plain nuts, next not nuts, next neuro troubles, next...........these things cause a person a tremendous amount of distress, more than the accident did.
I am very glad I found you guys. Even if I am not autie (which I still may be a tad), I am certainly not NT, so you understand me more than other people do. THANK YOU FOR being here.
^i found this post while searching for autism blogs and it was quite thought provoking for me although i didnt agree with it.
the writer thinks its a bad idea to self diagnose with anything including autism and is quite ranty and certain about it, aparently shes a pyschology student from what i can make out- typically many of them think theyre qualified shrinks when they become a student of the profession.
do you think self diagnosis of autism is wrong and causes trouble for people who diagnosed? i dont agree with her.
people who are autistic but undiagnosed are usually good researchers and have the logical mind to detatch themselves from the traits and difficulties in order to self diagnose,so i take people who self diagnose with autism in the same way i take people diagnosed,ive only come across one person in the 15 odd years of being in the online autism and disability community; who had self diagnosed and ended up diagnosed with something else that i cant...
I hate advertising, it's full of lies, stupidity, annoyances, manipulations and dumb jokes that drive me crazy.
I'm going to rewrite some of the worst offenses here:] Feel free to make up your own. Or you can simply point out the illogical stupidity of them, or all.
'Don't leave home without it' : Can't think of a rebuttal to this one?
'What's in your wallet?' : Money
Mm Mm Good : Not really, it's salty and awful.
Does she or doesn't she?: Dye her hair or have sex?
It's the real thing: Real brown sugar water.
A diamond is forever: So is herpes.
So basically I have HFA. I'm very good at hiding it. Like insanely good. No one would ever guess. But I've noticed that I really enjoy conflict, especially winning arguments. Now I say arguments but what I really mean is how other people tend to get into a verbal "roasting match" with each other. I've heard that most aspies tend to be less aggressive but for me it couldn't be more further from the truth. I'm not physically aggressive although I can if I want to be. I just tend to be good at finding people's mental weak points and exploiting them in an argument just to watch them crumple and retreat into themselves and it feels wonderful. However I only really do this when someone has rubbed me up the wrong way I don't go out of my way just to find the easiest target. In fact the stronger the better. Thoughts?
Hey.....I need some advice
It's been a month since he decided to break up with me and I am a mess. My mental state has been degrading daily.
He is friendly to me and we talk, but never about us. One day last week we accidentally met on the cycling lane, but he basically ran away and afterwards sent me a message apologizing for not knowing what to say.
I would so much like to tell him I'd want to try again, this time with better coping strategies and improved communication about ourselves and our needs, but I am terrified of another rejection. This is ****ing me up. And no, letting go is not an option. I still want him and I don't think he wanted to leave me. He spoke of exhaustion and depression, not about not loving me.
I am stuck and feel like crying all the time.
I'll try to make a resume of what happened, and I d like to hear some thoughts. Thank you.
So, hard aspects of my relationship: we live in distant countries, we dont talk in our native languages. So, what I will say happened on texting.
Background, we know each other in person. I know he is an Aspie, and at firts, that scared me. BUT, we found a way to get along and it was working. He is very special for me. And I feel I am special for him too.
The problem was... After some events that got me upset, I talked to him that I was feeling insecure, and in second place, that I could not build a relation alone, if he was still willing for that... Perhaps that wasn't the better approach, but, is done.
He didn't understood in that way. He attacked me saying nothing was enough. That his Aspie condition would never let him have a relation (that I never mentioned, and was never a problem for me).
I felt the misunderstood, and asked for sorry.... many times...but just got worse...
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