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A few seconds ago, my niece and I got to fighting. She was in my room and I didn't like it. My mother/her grandmother recently set up a bed in HER own room. I asked her over and over why she chose mine instead of hers. "Because I can."
One mean joke and yelling later, I threaten to beat her. The niece insists she could beat me in a fight. Keep in mind: She's eight years old. No, she's not physically superior to me. It's because it's been drilled in my head NOT to hit other people. ESPECIALLY not little kids.
Imagine if my mom and my brother weren't around. Imagine if I didn't have a strict moral code. I would beat the everloving snot out of her without a second thought. I'm FAR from weak. Lazy, yes. But not weak. I punched TWO girls is second grade. I broke a window WITH my hand without a single cut.
I'm NT but my dad had AS and I'm an advocate for ASD colleagues at work.
Right now, I'm working on a project to develop the behaviour of managers so they can encourage and support their teams to show their talents and be very productive. We want people to enjoy coming to work and be very innovative.
I'm lucky because my employer is very supportive of people with ASD and I have an opportunity to work with our Autism Lead Manager to develop some ideas to help people with AS / ASC / ADHD to feel comfortable, focused, happy and productive.
I know appraisals or face to face meetings with a manager can be really stressful! Also, team meetings and noisy workplaces can bring on overload.
Please can you help me by suggesting some things that motivate you or help you to enjoy your job?
Do you like systems best?
Do you like pictures and visuals?
Do you like thank yous?
Do you value one to one meetings with your manager or do you find these stressful?
Thank you for your help and expert...
I think the title says it all.
Realistically speaking, why are you in the relationship you're in?
a. Out of love. (Please explain)
b. Out of obligation. (Maybe for your kids or you've been together for a long time and it's just not fair to them to leave?)
c. For fear of being alone. (You don't think you can manage on your own or you've been depending on them for too long or you just fear you won't find anyone else?)
Do you like to collect anything? I've always been obsessed with collecting things. When I was little little I had a collection of rocks and feathers I found out in the yard.
When I was a little older I went crazy collecting Pokémon cards, I still have them all (1996-2007) tens of thousands, I had to stop, there were just too many, we're getting more expensive and I wasn't having anyone to play with anymore.
I also avidly collected comic books, Archie's Sonic the Hedgehog and all their spin offs (Knuckles, Tails, Sonic X, etc), Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles. Also I had a lot of random series plus several Batman and many things that just looked interesting. I try not to ever miss Free Comic book day (it's coming up!!). Recently I started collecting the My Little Pony books though I miss a lot since there are no nerd stores convenient too me. Though when I go I always get my kid a few of the 1$ bin Spidermans or something.
I also have a pretty big collection of Pokémon...
Lately i have been considering just going mute.
I think in doing this would solve so many problems, no more dealing with the social niceties, or any social aspects. I do try to be social, especially since my job requires it, but i can never do it right. Meaning i always get complants (within the job), which to me are about pointless things, like not greeting someone made them feel unwelcome even though they are being hypocrites as they didnt greet me either, difference is i really dont care if people greet me or not. I tend to not initiate conversations (which gets me the complaints of 'you never say anything if we dont say something first'), i wait so i can respond in the same manner. For example, someone says hi to me, i say hi back, they say good morning, i say morning back. I even get complaints when i take initiate and say hi to people first, as they then respond in a very judgemental tone because i didnt say it 'properly'.
So my point is no matter what i do, what...
I am venting about this because I've noticed that out of all the Aspies I've seen or met, most of them have a lot of trouble expressing their feelings and come off as lacking sympathy or empathy (even though I know that's not necessarily the case). I realize alexithymia is common on the spectrum but it's frustrating because whenever I have a conversation with a few Aspies I know, these people tend to give one word responses like "Okay" or "I'm sorry" whenever I pour out my feelings to them and it's so annoying to me because I'm going through so much stuff and I want to have a good conversation. The reason why I came here is because I want to meet people like me, especially around my age, that can relate to the turbulent storms that I am going through in my life, with Aspergers, depression, low self esteem, a mind thats thinking about so many things that make you want to explode. Even now I have to balance my education with my spare time and coming here and I've realized this is...
I feel that my job is very ideally suited to someone on the spectrum (I'll explain why and what it is further in), but I know that sometimes people on the spectrum can find it hard to be employed nor do they possess the business skills to be self employed and run their own business (the alternative to being employed). So for those who do work, what is your job role and what does it involve and are there any things that your neurology benefits from you or disadvantages you in your job?
So I'm a field merchandiser (mainly for two agencies but also some other adhoc work for other agencies self employed). Almost all of my work is in retail outlets and is call file based in involves me visiting stores that I'm booked in for the week (either weekly, fortnightly, monthly or one off). Most of my work revolves around magazines and greetings cards. As a magazine merchandiser I have to go into Aldi stores, take all old titles off and replace them with the newer titles whilst ensuring the old...
ok, so with everything thats happened, my bf has now said the 'relationship' is not working for him any more, but wants us to stay as close friends...
i know he's struggled with my family's acceptance and his own rigidity... but i honestly believeve he's throwing away a relationship that could be really great... because hes stressed (due to his sis inlaw at his house)... hes tired because she wants to talk and discuss her split with his brother..... and his brother (now single) takes up a lot of his spare time..... his work is now exploding (super busy)
can you guys please help me make any kind of sense of this....??
I would really appreciate some guidance....
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