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I'm 26 and an aspie, I recently noticed at work sometimes I've been answering questions or getting peoples attention by nodding or pointing instead of speaking even when it probably would make more sense to speak verbally, I'm a big talker too so its not like I'm being shy or anxious.
I think it kinda is like when you have ear buds in and you just sort of give people short answers or body language queues so you can keep listening except this happens when I'm not even listening to music or anything, perhaps it's when I'm deep in thought or distracted but I never used to do this before i usually give verbal affirmations...
Idk if this is in any way autism related but thought I'd see if anyone else has this happen to them. I feel like I come off as rude when I do it but I don't realize I'm doing it until after the fact.
Just when things looked pretty bleak, I got an email offering me a job working as a ramp agent for Piedmont Airlines. Piedmont Airlines is a wholly-owned subsidiary of American Airlines so I get flight benefits on both!!! This Thursday (Sept. 6th) is my first day which is just an orientation day to fill out paperwork. Ramp agents service the aircraft from cleaning and loading bags to towing and pushing them back from the gate. It's not my dream job but I love planes so working around them could be very interesting. Plus I love flying and the free flights will be a huge plus!
This is something I have such a problem with. I always have but never knew why before my diagnosis. But my brother especially. He lives in Arizona and has even offered to pay for my ticket to fly out and visit him and his wife. I'm not even comfortable around them in my own setting.
But when I have to stay with someone (even one of my kids) it's soooo hard. They don't have the kinds of food on hand that I eat. They watch things on tv that I have no interest in. I don't feel free enough to even walk across the room to get something to drink. I even have a hard time making myself move enough to get up and go to the bathroom. My younger son has a tendency to stand at his counter when I stop by and talk so I don't feel free to sit and my back hurts so bad by the time I leave. Any other person's home I feel like I'm in prison having to go by their schedule and their whatever. And I never know how to leave.
I have spent a week with my daughters after they've had a baby...
I wanted to share with you guys how the first date with John went! I've been talking about it a lot recently. Especially on this website. You guys have been extremely helpful. Thanks to you guys, it went great, and I learned A LOT.
You guys are life savers. Seriously. I am so happy I got on here, and educated myself.
Quickly about John, for those who don't know: John is a very successful man. Right now he is a Game Designer and is pretty high up in his field. People know who he is and he has appeared on a couplel youtube videos. He has a few kids, and used to be married. Most people would consider him to be very "cold" and "distant". He comes off very shy, and gets scared easily. Because he is always in very professional environment it comes off like he giving people the cold shoulder.
His special interests are Starcraft, and card games.
We've been seeing each other for 1-2 years, but never officially dated. I had a feeling he liked me, but I was too scared to take...
We've all had those completely ridiculous or "far-out" things we've believed at some point in our life.. right? -- Especially those that cannot understand sarcasm, or other tricky uses of speech. (Oh.. I hate when someone doesn't literally mean what they say)..
So, what is the most ridiculous thing you have ever believed in your life?
I was probably about eight or nine years old and my sister used peanut butter as a substitute for cream cheese on a bagel.. Of course she called myself and my twin brother up to her room (I'm not exactly sure why)... In which case her and a friend of hers told us that their bagels were "speaking" to them... and, of course I believed for quite a while there that bagels with peanut butter magically come to life and spoke.
And I didn't declare my AS and other problems either! Also, I can't help that nearly all my retail experience is in Charity shops, it's literally been the only work I've ever been able to get.
Am I unemployable? I feel I've wasted the last 20 odd years doing voluntary to get a 3 page CV of experience because I can't even get a poxy part time position selling Cookies.
To be brief, as I'm aware that this is an incredibly common thread in this forum, the guy who I now suspect has Aspergers has decided to break things off because he couldn't take it anymore.
The first time I met him I was completely enamoured by him and I still feel exactly the same way two years on- the same intensity, the same love. The first time we were together was beyond anything I've ever felt. Sorry perhaps its too much information but I have never felt this strongly about anyone before. Just for context I am often described as very aloof and quite shy with men so this isn't a typical reaction for me.
He also went out of his way to see me. It felt reciprocated. Long story short, his messages became a bit less frequent, as did the conversation so I thought he was becoming less interested. Yet each time I saw him it would be incredible again. Such a confusing ride. Ill spare you all the details, but he finally decided it wasn't worth it and just ended it. I guess I was...
Does anyone else here act and feel a lot younger than their age? I've been this way my whole life.
I'm 35, but often am mistaken for about 22. I still feel like a teenager. While a lot of my peers are off on their own and starting families, or have started families years ago, I have no interest in that lifestyle. Don't get me wrong, I'm totally happy for them and love seeing posts about their kids, but it's just not the life that I want.
I'm still a big kid, myself I llive at home, and aside from working my 3 jobs, have minimal responsibilities. I have the time to come and go as I please, and hang out with friends and family. I love not being tied down by anything.
When I was younger, I was treated as if the way I acted was "wrong." I was often shamed by my dad for acting younger than my age, and was told to act older than I felt. I was simply acting in a manner that came naturally to me. This hurt, and I just wanted to be accepted for who I was. It lasted through my 20s....
When I first decided to see a psychiatrist, deep inside, I had this ideal notion that the therapist would diagnose me as having aspergers as soon as I started to chat, but I decided due to fear of ridicule, that I would go for the "safe" option of being formally diagnosed with social phobia and that happened.
I was persuaded to try medicine for anxiety and anger issues, but have stopped both, due to the side effects that I am unable to deal with.
So, my question is: how can I approach the subject of wanting to be diagnosed with aspergers after having seen this therapist a few times now and it all concentrating on social phobia?
The trouble is, here in France, they have a very narrow minded view on things. They lump aspergers with autism and why I have been laughed at a couple of times.
Just to add, this therapy is free of charge and therefore I have very little option and in fact, it is a miracle I got to see this therapist.
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