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Awhile back I had an idea for a field trip with my local camera club, as the person who made the suggestion I also agreed to help lead it...
Good so far
I looked at dates in early May, considering classic car events I also want to attend... There is a big show next weekend, and a smaller automotive flea market this weekend... So suggested a field trip date for this weekend
But the weather has stepped in, it's a wee bit cool and showery (even a little snow) for a few days (welcome to Alberta!), so the field trip coordinator has decided to bump the field trip back to the date of the big car show by which time I'm pretty sure it will be warmer and drier (Ack!)
I do not want to miss any of the big car show, I would have gone there for the entire show, but have also committed to the field trip, and I will... I'm pretty sure I can make it to the car show by 12 noon after the field trip ends, but I would much rather spend the entire day at the car show
And I do know that it's...
Keeping in mind that I had no idea about autism, and no idea that I could possibly be autistic, One of my biggest fears in my everyday life was being caught. I couldn't figure out what I was afraid of being caught as, though. It's not that I was doing anything bad or making mistakes that I was afraid someone would discover, it was different than that. I could never put into words what I was afraid of and the closest I came was in talking to my sister. I was trying to explain this fear and told her it was like I was afraid of being found out, like I was hiding something even though I didn't really feel like I was hiding anything. But I was afraid of people finding out the person I was or that there was something wrong with me that I was afraid other's might see.
I knew I was different and I knew I never felt like I fit anywhere in this world. I knew I had no interest in what other's did. Everyone liked the same shows - I didn't. Everyone liked the same styles - I didn't....
This is lighthearted yet heartfelt. I notice a growing acceptance from neurotypical people that it's a two way street, that they need help to understand and communicate better with people on the autistic spectrum, and to appreciate our difference more constructively than has been done so far.
This thread is intended to offer ideas for them, to help them communicate better with people on the autistic spectrum and appreciate our qualities and strengths, and what we may have that they might want to aspire to, such as directness, high values, ability not to make constant eye contact etc.
My first suggestion for NTs is:
Give those eyes a rest guys, you are making contact with them way more than you need to, it's kind of spooky, and maybe has become an addiction? Start small, just try looking away sometimes, or over the person's shoulder, soon you'll find you can manage a whole conversation with barely a glance at the other person! It's so relaxing...
If anyone's interested - here's my take on a topic that comes up every now and again, and did so recently on this very forum.
Narrative: The World's Online Journal
Hello everybody, I would like to ask you for some advice. I'm 24 y.o. and I have been recently diagnosed with Aspergers. I think everybody around me kind of knows that there’s something different about me and now I finally have an explanation for all that weirdness. But I wonder to whom is appropriate to tell about my Aspergers and how to tell it? How did you announced that you have Aspergers to your family/friends/colleagues?
I have a date I'm really interested in but it seems I get the run around.
He had reasonable "excuses" for things that happened in the beginning.
Now, I'm kind of hurting. He was a person I was really interested in and I know I can level enough with him.
Unlike some people, I can take "no" for an answer and move on. I could try to be friends with the person only platonically if it doesn't work out romantically. I told him this at the beginning when he asked me about fun. He liked my way of thinking.
On the first date, he was 30 minutes late. After 15 minutes, I went to do an errand and asked me to text me when he got there. When he texted me about 28 minutes after our appt, I told him I'd be on my way there. When I got there, he was embarrassed and told me let's pretend that didn't happen and let's start over. I said okay.
The next date or two was moved last minute and/or then canceled. I would always send a reminder the morning of the date too. So even though I...
I think I have never been in a situation where there would have been other aspie(s) to hang out with. Sure I must have met but our kind of people tend to fly under radar. I wonder what it is like? Do we get ourkind better or is it twice as hard?
I would love to go in the local aspie meeting that is once in a month or so. To see how it feels. Now my only autistic "friend" is Sheldon Cooper. XD But I guess I am too chicken to go to the meeting.
Over the past few years, I have been seeing a lot of tropical and nautical themes in men's spring/summer clothing collections. Does anyone think this is currently the thing for men's spring/summer clothes? I do have a pink pelican print shirt (as seen in my avatar), however, it seems like I have been seeing a lot of it over the past few years.
I've been wondering if this is an Autistic thing (I'm also alexithymic so it could be that too).
I find that often times, my emotions seem to be 'switched off' or put into 'maintenance mode'. For months, I will feel content, normal, average, and even when very emotionally charged things are happening around me, life seems good overall. It seems like I don't feel the emotional consequences of these significant events / occurrences at the appropriate time.
This is particularly so when the emotions are complex or not 'obvious' (i.e. I feel happy, content, irritated, etc. on a daily basis; but more complex emotions like 'nostalgia' 'homesickness' or 'heartbreak' seem to evade me on a daily basis, and then come in massive bursts later on). It seems like often, something overtly upsetting will happen, which provokes an intense emotional response to, say, 'obvious stimuli A', and then once my emotions 'switch on' I'll feel all the delayed reactions to 'complex Stimuli' B, C, D, E, and...
I've been training a new hire recently. He has been getting bolder and bolder, openly denying what I'm trying to teach him. He is apparently unwilling to learn from a woman based on his attitude. He undermines me at every turn, throwing me under the bus for his mistakes and pretending he knows more than he does. He's an older guy and claims to be a veteran. I described the situation to my husband who is enlisted active duty and he says he is very skeptical.
I've been so anxious about this situation that I can't even sleep on my days off.
Bullying is nothing new for this community. Has anyone else dealt with this kind of behavior before?
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