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I am now in my 60’s and for my whole life I had never known anyone that was autistic.... that I know of.
I now know of four people that are autistic and they are all little children six years old and younger.
What is going on? None are directly related to me.
(PS... I know this is not a “scientific” observation...I am just concerned as two of these little children belong to my step-daughter. Interestingly enough one of her other children is perfectly normal AND seems to be VERY intelligent.)
I feel like my balance and gross motor skills have gotten worse. I use to dance well enough, now I find myself tipping over just from standing and walking frequently.
Also, after my school years and getting married, I just kind of withdrew and live in my own world a lot more, and feel like I lost a lot of the social skills I had. I remember being able to just go up and talk to people as a child, now just getting in the car and knowing I'll interact with people throws me into a panic attack.
I was doing a course way back in 2005 which also involved doing a work placement for a few weeks in July of that year. By chance, I met a girl when I was 19 in some charity shop. She made my life hell thereafter.
On the first day, we were giving tickets by a customer to see Live 8 (the show where Pink Floyd reunited in Edinburgh) and we never went, because of the weather. We went to see a film, and when I hooked up with her at the weekend, she had these younger pals with her who were wild and called me names. Just about every time I went to see her, they were there. It eventually put me off of going out there alone, so sometimes I had my sister go with me. We broke up that summer, after she lied. We didn't even announce we were breaking up either. It just happened.
She lied about her mates being grounded, because when I arrived, they were there again. Same thing commenced. Just a mouthful of cheek ensued.
After I lost my job in 2006, I became fixated on finding her, and I've...
I read a blog recently that is written by an autistic about NTs. It is a tad patronising to NTs, but FAR less so than any article written by NTs about aspies, which always contain phrases like 'symptoms' and 'diagnosis', like it's a disease that needs to be managed. However, the blog raises a lot of interesting points.
Acting NT: Neurotypical Syndrome Played Straight
But projecting forward, this also goes down an inadvisable path of "us and them" which is never good. Whether it's men v woman, isolating a culture or religion, or something as simple as programmers v project managers, the "us and them" mentality is never productive.
However, knowing and believing this is one thing, but putting it into practice is much harder. In my teens and 20s I always thought NTs would one day wake up, that they would eventually realise how irrational they were being, tell me I was right all along and come around to my way of thinking.
They never did.
Then I started to emulate them. However,...
As I have read, digestive issues are an avarage aspie's life and I am no exception.
Around two week's ago, I got a colicky sensation in my right shoulder, but antiflammatry drugs took that away, then last wednesday, I had just visited the toilet and then, had the most embarrassing accident and could not figure out why, since I did not experience a tummy ache. And, then, the next day - a thursday, I had a small lunch and then, the "music started". I developed this colicky ache all over my tummy and no tablets touched it ( so unusual as my body works with medication). I vomited a couple of times and thought it was just the dreadful ache all over my tummy area. I soon recognised that this ache was nothing I had experienced before. Hubby just said it will go and not panic, so I tried to be calm, but knew something was not right. He said that if I am just as bad the next day, he would take me to get looked at.
It was around 3 in the morning that with shame, I had to wake hubby up, as...
I have often wondered if there was a connection to smoking and ASD's, as both my parents smoked, as well as everyone on my mother's side of the family. The following article is one I found that I thought intriguing and perhaps worthy of opening a discussion:
Scientists from the University of Bristol have looked at all 14,500 participants in Children of the 90s and found that if a girl's maternal grandmother smoked during pregnancy, the girl is 67% more likely to display certain traits linked to autism, such as poor social communication skills and repetitive behaviours.
The team also found that if the maternal grandmother smoked, this increased by 53% the risk of her grandchildren having a diagnosed autism spectrum disorder (ASD).
These discoveries suggest that if a female is exposed to cigarette smoke while she is still in the womb, it could affect the developing eggs -- causing changes that may eventually affect the development of her own children. Further research is now...
Well, after the day I've had today it's a miracle that I can even type this without a waterfall of tears pouring from my eyes.
I thought I was having a genuine conversation with someone that I cared about today, but evidently I was wrong, and because of this incident I have distanced myself from said person.
Apparently not being able to read facial expressions or being able to truly contribute my feelings to a conversation without having to stop and think about it for a second means that I'm using my autism as an "excuse."
"You're old enough to know by now when someone is upset or something you said offended them. I'm tired of you constantly repeating the fact that you have autism immediately after something awkward happens. LEARN TO READ PEOPLE! YOU'LL NEVER GET ANYWHERE IN LIFE UNLESS YOU DO!"
I have an extremely hard time describing the way I feel about things (people especially) because in my head I'm always correcting myself like "Don't say it that way, it could come...
Does anyone have any wise words on this subject? Aspergers in relationships and friendships can look very similar to avoidant personality traits typically demonstrated by individuals who have been deprived of love and affection in early years and have therefore never learnt how to be intimate relationships and frequently behave in ways that sabotage these relationships or feel fearful of commitment, intimacy and struggle to experience love. Alexythymia is a common feature of both.
I have an ASD diagnosis - as and adult, but I have often wondered if some of my typically aloof and cool behaviours are actually as a result of childhood trauma (which I did suffer) rather than simply autistic traits. Could be a mix of both.
This is an interesting paper comparing and contrasting the two in children - showing just how difficult they can be to distinguish.
I really can't handle it when someone gets mad at me, gets disapointed in me, and especially when someone yells at me. Whenever this happens it feels like my entire body just wants to collapse in on itself, I feel like I little kid who just want to hide under his sheets and cry, I break so damn easly and I hate it. And yes, I'm a 22 year old man who feels like CRYING when I get yelled at by other. I feel like such a little b*tch for not being able to either stand up to this or at least accept it, my brain and body just shuts itself down and sometimes if it's really bad it can ruin my entire day if not week. I hate being yelled at! Can't people just explain things normally without yelling and putting me down for making mistakes!?
As some here know, I have started to study Krav Maga. Krav Maga is a defense form created for use by the Israeli Defense Force (IDF). I started to take lessons to help me lose weight, get out a little more, and maybe learn how to throw down like Jason Statham. I became curious about martial arts and those on the spectrum and came across the following article. I thought it might be interesting to open a dialogue on the subject of those on the spectrum involved in martial arts (karate, traditional boxing, Krav Maga, etc) and how it has affected each respective life:
Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) refers to those who have difficulties with social interactions and communications. Across people there can be a huge variability in presentation of so-called “symptoms," hence the use of “spectrum” in the overall term.
I’m not a big fan of labeling, so now that I’ve got this out of the way, for the rest of this post we’ll just talk about the “autism spectrum” and not “people with,"...
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