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Is it just me or does everyone spend more money than usual on their special interests? for example, a couple of years ago, I bought a guitar and a big box of art supplies for painting. I don't know how to play the guitar or have much experience with painting. It took the items about a week to get to me and by that time the obsession has decreased and didn't use any of the stuff to its full extent. Just recently, I've been obsessing about reading books and so I have been going to second hand stores and buying books a lot. Can any of you relate to this kind of behavior?
I don't condone obesity, as it's no question that it's unhealthy on every level. With that being said though, the way people treat people a little heavier on the scale has always aggravated me. From calling them awful names, to dehumanizing them, and failing to treat them with basic decency all because they're fat.
I've seen it with my own two eyes and I've seen tons of people say how different they're treated when they gain weight. And not because of them having a harder time finding dates or jobs, but just people not using basic manners with them or being flat out nasty.
There are so many factors that affect obesity, that it can't simply be summed as just laziness or gluttony. And yeah, while poor diet and lack of exercise tend to factor in, there are usually symptoms of bigger problems such as depression or sense of worthlessness. If somebody is depressed or feeling worthless, we shouldn't call them dehumanizing names or make fun of them for it, we should show compassion to...
My daughter that I'm 98% certain is on the spectrum has a 5 year old whom I'm 100% certain is on the spectrum. When I told her of my diagnosis, she was accepting of it and also somewhat accepting of it with her son. But her husband would not even allow her to talk about the possibility so she's been fairly quiet about it and appears to have just planned to try to deal with it herself with no outside help.
She called today, very upset and not knowing what to do about her son acting up in class and being put in time out for sudden loud outbursts in class and being disruptive and today the teacher could hardly even get his attention. He usually does fairly well but this week he hasn't. He's even upset not getting the 'good behavior paw prints' and tells his mom he doesn't want to talk about it ever. Sounds like his mom and dad may have yelled at him over it - which I told her he should not be scolded, but guided. And I told her this is why I think she needs to talk to either a...
I have memories of my childhood but I wish I knew who I was as a child. I wish I knew how others perceived me. When I learned a couple years ago that I was on the spectrum, it was a relief to know why dealing with the world had been so difficult, but I want so much to be able to see my childhood but it was so long ago. I've spent most my life masking that I feel like the opportunity to know who I was has been lost. When did I start masking? As far back as I can remember I started acting like my brother - he was funny and well liked.
Or I was told who to be:I was the youngest and had to go along with a life that was not me:
Friends and parties that I didn't want and I didn't choose.
How much was me?
The pictures behind me were me - maybe that's why I always liked photographs - so I could keep those precious times with me and put them on my wall and always keep the west close to me. That's the only thing I know for certain is my love for the west.
But now mostly surrounded...
I'm attracted to this girl I've known for about a month now. Right now, however, I can't help feel if she is still attracted to me or not. When we're together, she calls me over, talks to me, touches me, watches me and what not. She even eyes other girls I'm talking to (my friends gf for example). Signs I am interpreting as her being attracted to me.
Part of me wants to know if that attraction has been lost, or if it's still there. But I don't know if it's weak to ask for confirmation. I'm worried if I ask her, it'll chase her away. I'm also worried if I don't ask, that I may continue to misinterpret her "signals".
What can I do? What should I do?
A little over twelve years ago I moved to a small town that has a little less than 200 people in it. I have not had a friend since I moved out here and spend most of my free time in my room playing those video games. Some of the people I spoke to about this say it is not good for me to be alone all the time and that I need to be around more people. It seems that when I am around other people that my problems start. People will eventually say or do something that I do not like. Sometimes I accidentally do something that makes somebody angry and do not understand why. I also do not function as well around other people as I do by myself. When I am by myself none of these bad things happen and I seem to be happier. So now I am left wondering, why do some people think being alone is unhealthy?
The new Autistamatic video is now available. As some of you will know, it's the first part of a series discussing the popular misconception that all autistic people lack empathy. I said elsewhere it would go up "today" - well it's tomorrow here now, but it's still "today" to you guys in the US so I've technically kept to my intention
I hope you enjoy and as always, constructive comments here, or on YouTube, are always welcome.
This is a long story (excuse the very long post) but over this summer I went on vacation and spent around 10 days in a resort in a different country.
I met this girl (who was from Canada and worked as a psychologist) initially as she had come to me and asked me for directions to the 'beach' I gave her rough directions as I was unsure of where the beach was, she then proceeded to walk towards the direction however then turned around and walked back the other way, possibly back to her room.
In my mind I was thinking ''why is she going to the beach by herself in the middle of the night'' ''Does she prefer to be by herself?''. Also I was thinking ''why didn't she ask one of the resort staff members to drive her to the beach or give her directions instead?''
I noticed something different about her, the way she walked (gaint) was different to everybody else and she stood out in the crowd, she also had quite a youthful appearance about her.
Anyway I saw her walk back the other...
When ever I’m asked a question about something, I find myself responding in far more depth than the person asking is capable of understanding. To me, the obvious is obvious. I’ve found to others, often what I consider obvious is some kind of mystical answer. Is the average NT really this shallow?
My good friend (the same discussed in another thread) recently secured a position driving a bus. It caused me to wonder if that’s a safe thing considering his mental state at times. It also caused me to think of my time as an over-the-road driver.
Like many on the spectrum, I took to driving right away and even advanced to the point of driving commercial vehicles. I was okay going through training, but when reality set in and I had to actually jockey a truck, the ASD became a serious problem. On more than one occasion I found myself having what I call a mini meltdown because of the traffic, crowded docks, etc. The sensory overload of a city while trying to jockey an 80,000-pound 70 to 80-foot long vehicle through traffic can be very overwhelming, as you have to watch what you’re doing, watch what the others are doing, and keep from killing anyone in the process. There were even a few times when I just froze up for several minutes and couldn’t move, which could be a serious...
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