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Once I get to know someone well, I start to form a mental model of them. When I need to figure out how to react to something, how to approach a problem, etc., I will consult with my mental model as if I were talking to that person.
One mental model is of a good friend, another is of a counselor who helped me a lot, and other models are of leaders, coworkers, etc.
I imagine discussing the problem with them, and try to guess what they would say about it.
Like, "<X> would say this isn't your problem." or "<Y> would ignore what I said I wanted to do and ask what outcome I want to achieve." or "<Z> would not care about how I solve this problem, but would ask if the approach is maintainable for future project."
Often, their answers are better than my first knee-jerk thoughts about how to approach something.
Does anyone else do this?
ill probably get laughed at for this... but I joined a gym like a month or two ago and I never use the bathroom, because I am uncomfortable using public spaces..especially around people I don’t know.
I had my headset on because they play loud repetitive house music. I walked in the entrance of the bathroom I heard two people say something (even with my headset on) and didn’t think anything of it, then they said it a bit louder and I walked out , took my headset off and I heard them say “hey buddy, that’s the wrong restroom.” Then I noticed it had the symbol for women, but my brain I guess was distracted or the colors made it difficult for me to be aware of (colors blend for me) at planet fitness .
I am perpetually embarrassed .
Anyone else have a story like this?
(Warning: Very Long Post)
I have knwn this person almost 2 years now we had met through mutual online friends. As usual had a lot of things in common bonded through that. He was my support when a conflict had happened with close friends we all knew. He and I were first contacting through game then he had to go on a trip for 3 weeks he and I decided to share numbers so we could be able to contact each other. We were in constant contact as he was initiating a lot of it he would greet me in the mornings and we would talk at night he would share things with me and me to him. We would talk on the phone, text, he would share photos with me and such etc. It was nice I had told him that we had clicked so fast that we had a lot in common. We had a talk about if we did stop playing the game we would still be friends. He had opened up to me that he had told his mum about me. He had said that he wanted to go on this same trip with me next year. I had told him I would try and it would depend...
We are all going to Portugal for a two week holiday. My father is really tight with everything he does, in terms of spending.
For this holiday he got his way with everything, the duration, the location and the venue. We will also end up going to the food places that he wants to go to.
He has decided that he will not hire a car. He has never done this but has decided not to do it this year, despite promising to do it if I paid.
I begged him to do it, but no he will not. We had an almighty row and I have said that I am not going to go to Portugal if he does not hire a car. My mother started screaming at me, blaming me for the row and ranting about how annoying I was for doing this.
But I LITERALLY have anxiety over this. Portugal is a really rural place with not so great transport. I know that we will have to rely on the transport and so we will be restricted by it.
If we do not get a car we will not have as much freedom and we will have to take taxis everywhere. I have tried to...
I would like to know, what are your favorite Gatorade and Powerade flavors?
My favorite Gatorade is the limited edition Strawberry Kiwi flavor (not to be confused with Flow Kiwi Strawberry). This actually seems to be a revival of the same flavor introduced in 1996 and that was discontinued in the late 2000s.
My favorite Powerade flavor is Strawberry Lemonade.
I wonder, in the fashion world, does anyone think that men get turned off by color names that sound feminine? I have so many IZOD shirts in a shade of pink known as "Fairy Tale", an Arrow shirt in a shade of pink known as "Almond Blossom", and a Chaps shirt in a shade of pink known as "Blossom". One discovery that I made that I think seems like an extreme example is one of IZOD's new Fall 2019 pullover fleeces in a shade of pink known as "Ballerina".
I wonder, does anyone think some men get turned off by these color names? I think the Fairy Tale, Almond Blossom, and Blossom names are cute, but Ballerina is a bit extreme. Some of these color names come from Pantone, a widely used source by the fashion industry.
Perhaps it could vary by the brand's target audience. The preppy brands might be more flexible about choosing color names vs. other brands.
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Apparently, I am no longer on Discord. Wanna know why? My parents spied on my Discord account and noticed that I was in several servers where people where using r-rated language. I'm 16, not 6. I'm also only half a year away from being allowed in R-rated movies and purchasing M-rated games from Gamestop on my own. I don't understand why they stopped allowing me on Discord just for that silly reason. They're being overprotective.
They also don't allow me to watch YouTube on the computer for that same reason. I'm not a small child. I'm mature enough to handle explicit language. As long as there is no offensive slang said, I am completely fine with it. I'm not overly sensitive to it like they are. I also don't even use it, myself.
I wonder why language OTHER people use in servers I'm in would be an actual concern. It's not like everybody was using vulgarity every sentence they said. In fact, they overly exaggerated it....
There's been some nasty things said about Greta Thunberg. Whether you agree with her stance on climate change or not, the comments that are made to derail her because she is autistic, young, female etc. have been distasteful to say the least. This hit a peak this weekend when a short video of her. clearly uncomfortable and facially stimming on her arrival in America, was posted all over social media as evidence of how "disturbed" she is.
That was responded to today with an outpouring of support using the hashtag she herself quoted of #aspiepower.
This is Autistamatic's take on the importance of Greta's autism to the debate.
So l support the younger females at my job, because l feel l need to be a role model. I had a high school lesbian nearly break my fingers slamming the door on me. Yes, she knew l was there. l have helped out this individual every possible chance l could. And my chef would tell me l don't have too. Wow, what is the new generation? l give up. It's dog eat dog out there. l am so thankful as a senior citizen l didn't end up at ER.
When I was in school I was terrible at math so bad that when I heard about Aspergers I though I did not have it. My teachers thought I had an learning disability because of my poor math and average C grades.
Because of this I never completed College flunked out and only worked once. This was all over 20 years ago.
My question is can someone have Asperger's but be generally bad academic?
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