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So l was told in strong terms to meet someone at a property after l told then -no- l don't like that area- too much traffic. (Major bridge and a big hospital on the same road). This person was the real estate agent then divulged she was also a pastor.
Then this person switched into- l am a pastor and blah blah blah. Like that gives her a right to command me what to do.
Then she went into song and dance about blah blah. But after she was pushy- l turned her off mentally.
Do you just turn off mentally after someone totally is telling you what to do after you expressed in clear terms why you no longer wish to do something.
I wonder if this is an Asperger ASD trait.
I chat with this girl on WhatsApp from the Church. She did not get back to me in a few days and I kept messaging her about my issues. I was afraid she ghosted me.
She got back to me politely today and said I am glad I am getting help with an non Aspergers faith struggle I am going through.
She did say politely that she can't get back to me right and not to keep posting comments. I apologize and made it my best effort not to do it again.
The thing is I also did stupid things like this. If someone does not get back to me after a while I get inpatient and start to pester them. So is this an Asperger trait as I don't want to lose her as a friend not thinking.
I've become quite irritated and vocal in my middle years at people who tell the same dang stories over and over again. It's like they enjoy telling the story so much that they're repeating it over and over again. I have started to be more vocal and ask them, "Do you realize you tell me this story every time I see you?", or "Do you realize that you've already told me this like 5 times?". Sometimes I get a giggle, sometimes they then add on something that really isn't relevant just to make it seem like it's not EXACTLY the same story. This guy I'm dating now, his whole conversation sounds like a copy/paste of the last time we spent four hours together.
What does this mean? How can they not remember that 3 days ago they told me this exact same story? My mother in law would say she's only making conversation.
It drives me insane. Like I want to gouge my eyes out. Or my ears.
Have you ever been told that you repeat yourself A LOT?
Oh, and it seems to be the especially chatty...
I’ve always had a really hard time in socializing with people, except for one or two close friends. I’m bad at making eye contact, I can’t focus in groups or loud places, like restaurants, and I don’t know how to keep a conversation if it’s about a subject I don’t know anything about. All the typical signs of Asperger’s. I feel that people avoid me because they think I’m rude or judgemental, but that’s not my intention. I also have social anxiety from past experiences. I’ve had multiple people criticize me for being ‘too quiet’, or others saying that I talk to much. I don’t hold it against them, but they tend to avoid me at all costs.
Lately I’ve been trying to work up the courage to be open about it, but I’m worried that because I don’t have an official diagnosis, they won’t take it seriously. I took an online RAADS-R test, and scored a 195 on it. I wanted to look into getting diagnosed, but with the COVID-19 pandemic, that’s not something I’m gonna focus on right now. I also...
So during a horrible meltdown on the planet is truly the best time to tackle the most perplexing humiliating exasperating humbling emotion called l over-like you or not? A person who's opened me up to different viewpoints has simply stated love is a Hollywood storyline. There is truly no love. So l am left to grapple with the huge defuntional aspect that l apparently am incapable of love because it truly doesn't exist. So of course being on the spectrum- l need to understand this Hollywood con. Am l just experiencing various levels of like with some being more extreme in nature that might possible culminate in love or is it just a extreme comfort in familiarity?
Which side of the road are you on? Extreme like or love is a true emotion?
So has anybody been in a situation where it's okay for me to express my feelings for you, but the minute you express your feelings for me - l need to ban you to the dark side of the planet Zorb for an entirety.
Now let me state ; l may express feelings but nothing more comes of It. Like l am mellow and relaxed and have done marriage, house, child formula and not looking to relive some of the emptiness l feel as a result. What is the reasoning, why are they allowed to express and l am a degenerate if l express something? Are they just lovebombing me over and over?
Can you just hand me a language translation cheat sheet that says when l am saying this, l really don't mean it. Just totally ignore my moving lips. Double messages can be so confusing to me. Why are men so threatened by feelings? Are they just testing the waters to see if they still have it?
How do you deal with passive-aggressive people? One of my flatmates is really annoying in this regard. I spend most of the time in my room, but I also don't want to have to walk on eggshells every time I go to the kitchen or bathroom.
And she's definitely angry, she will even glare if she thinks I'm not looking. If I ask if there's something wrong, she always says that no, everything's fine but then she will turn to do something minor but annoying like misplacing my spices or putting plates in different places in the kitchen so that I have to look for them through cupboards, or 'forgetting' to buy things for the house when it's her turn to go to the shop. Then, sometimes she will proceed to say 'jokingly' some rather offensive remarks about my productivity or cooking skills(from a conversation we had seems that in her mind if you spend most of the time in your room, you do nothing but laze about all day long, and my cooking is not cooking at all - it's just food preparation and...
So I have read that the difference between "high-functioning autism" (I know it's not an official diagnostic label) and Asperger's is that high-functioning autism includes speech delay whereas Asperger's doesn't. However, while thinking about this, I thought of something: according to the DSM-IV, the "impairment in communication" criteria of which one mentioned must be met to be diagnosed with "Autistic Disorder" includes:
2. Qualitative impairments in communication as manifested by at least one of the following:
a. delay in, or total lack of, the development of spoken language (not accompanied by an attempt to compensate through alternative modes of communication such as gesture or mime).
b. in individuals with adequate speech, marked impairment in the ability to initiate or sustain a conversation with others.
c. stereotyped and repetitive use of language or idiosyncratic language.
d. lack of varied, spontaneous, make-believe play or social imitative play appropriate to...
Hello my lovelies. This thread has been an amazing way for me to better understand myself now that I know I'm on the spectrum. I just had an amazing revelation about myself today at work. Struggling with a little something called executive functioning. Executive function is a set of mental skills that include working memory, flexible thinking, and self-control... And I struggle with it. I think this is the largest issue that I've had as someone who has been on the spectrum and been undiagnosed for 23 years. It was like I struck gold when I was looking at a video that discussed ASD and ADHD and how they CAN coexist within someone. He began describing executive functioning, and I'm just like YES! THAT'S IT! It perfectly described the issue I've been having. I started to notice how bad it was for me when I started going to college, and making a little more friends. I would forget things regularly and it embarrassed me cause my friends would joke about it. I am very unorganized and...
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