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Asperger's & Autism Forum
Many Autistic people live the vast majority of their life in a zoned-out state where they are minimally accessible to other humans including their close relatives. Despite the obvious inconveniences & stress this causes their family members, think of the concentration it takes: enough to challenge even the most evolved meditating Zen master. Many still react to outside stimuli & are very sensitive to changes in textiles, temperature & touch etc. They also can express extreme displeasure if a room is rearranged or if objects they've lined up get moved.
One of my Aspie skills is the ability to completely zone out. Sometimes I get a few spacey days (like yesterday & today) where I'm sort of on auto-pilot doing what I have to do but not being truly present. Zoning out is even more extreme: it is the ability to completely shut out the world & go into a trance- like state. Does anyone else out there do this? Please tell me about your experiences with this skill.
I do and until recently I thought everybody did. If I am adding two numbers in my head I see the numbers. If I am thinking about a concept like justice I see an image of a stern looking king from ancient Greece, godlike with a beard and sitting on a throne. That may seem highly imaginative but actually I am just recalling an image of justice I once saw in a church. (Remember aspies are not imaginative and creative.)
Anyway the idea of thinking in words sounds boring and weird to me. Now I...
I would like to ask other members what it is like to be in a romantic relationship with another aspie since I have never had luck in establishing romance with men without ASDs and will not consider them again for romance. Recently several of my work colleagues have suggested that I try establishing romance with another aspie. I did take their advice but I knew that coming across a man another aspie is rare. :|
I have limited employment, job experience, but lately for the past 6 or 7 months i've started to become more assertive, aggressive in my Job Search, my most recent Job was at Target but unfortuneately it was only a Seasonal Job, so my Employment there was temporary. I got released on December 17th of last year, so 2 months ago, since then, i've been looking for a new job and I've had 2 Interviews so far this year, my most recent one was today at OSH, yes right now i'm only focused on getting an Entry-Level Job, Retail, Customer-Service, etc. I had an Interview at Home Depot last month but I did not get it. Anyway, it's making me feel somewhat better, because before I started working at Target, before I got hired there, not only was I unable to get hired anywhere I was unable to get an Interview in the first place, so the fact that i'm getting Job Interviews is making me feel a little better because it shows that employers are giving me at least Half of a Chance, yes I will also admit...
I tried to explain this feeling to my very normal boyfriend last night. He didn't get it.
Do you tend to feel like you are outside of the human species? As if you do not quite understand how they communicate, how they chitter-chatter and laugh constantly and have no hesitancy about going out and doing menial things?
It's kind of a feeling like everyone is in a bubble and you're on the outside of it, looking in at them, observing, not quite able to fit into humanity.
I've felt like this for as long as I can remember.
It's rather isolating.
Is this an Aspergers/Autistic type of thing? Does anyone know what I'm talking about?
I have told people before that I have Aspergers but I haven't really explained what it is. Yesterday I was talking to a few women and was wondering should I tell them that I have Aspergers. What if they ask what it is. Will I go "by the book" or try to describe my personal experience... And that would take hours probably I do believe most of people would want to know what it is exactly and how Aspergers makes you different from others but it seems hard to describe it in a few words without being dull, vague and impersonal.
How do you do it if you have to?
Looking at the topics posted on this site is pretty bloody depressing if you have aspergers as i do...." You just have to except who you are and be happy with the few friends you got " " I can't expect to be invited to every single big social event " " That stuff is not for us " and so forth and forth...I have been checking trough several aspergers forum and NEVER EVER have i seen a single aspergers success story...
Lets be honest...Most of us would give up any intellectuell advantages for social skills so we could get friends instead of getting good grades....Ever since we started school we have been wanting to get friends and fighting too get it...Allthough the vast majority of aspies have givven up the fight long ago and excepted defeat....They have accepted the fact that they will never be populair or have hordes of friends by their side wherever they go. I found this to be a very depressing way of reasoning. Because allthough it is bloody hard, getting a fully normal...
"That really makes you think!"
Just aggravates me beyond all others because it reminds me how much people are afraid to use their minds and they treat getting their thought provoked as a chance occurrence that reminds them how often they forget to think things through. i hate cognitive laziness and i am surrounded by it every day, by the disregard for any type of rational behavior. i navigate the roadways to my work wondering how everyone can so easily disregard safety.. what is so...
This is a companion thread to the "current obsessions" one, only this time we can talk about what we used to be obsessed with rather than what we're currently obsessed with. I like talking about my past obsessions almost as much as I like talking about my current ones, because I enjoy the feeling of nostalgia it gives me.
When I was very small (like age 3 or 4), I loved dinosaurs. I remember having dinosaur books and plastic dinosaur toys. I also really enjoyed The Land Before Time movies.
During elementary school, I started obsessing over an animated film called Balto, about a half-wolf, half-dog hybrid who retrieves medicine in a snowstorm to save sick children. After seeing the movie, my goal in life was to be a "musher" - in other words, a sled dog racer. I wanted to live in Alaska, assemble a team of huskies/malamutes and run the Iditarod Dog Sled Race. Since Balto was half-wolf, I obsessed over wolves too. My bedroom was covered in pictures of wolves and I knew everything...
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