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I'm new here and looking for a little advice. I started dating a man four months ago. He very quickly told me he was unemotional, yet I didn't really see that. In the beginning he would call me then say he's calling me too much. He very quickly said things like what if I fall in love with you and I could fall in love with you. He's very affectionate with cuddles but doesn't really kiss. He is very literal and has some odd habits. He buys things in excess. He currently has 14toothbrushes. He said he likes them and he might not be able to get them so stocks up. He does this with other things.
One night we were watching tv and he just got up and went to bed. He didn't say anything. I carried on watching tv and around twenty minutes later he said aren't you coming to bed?
He doesn't seem to have a filter and says inappropriate things which are embarrassing but he doesn't seem phased by it.
My confusion at the minute is, he calls me everyday a few times and texts a lot....
I want to raise the question of ‘passing’, knowing that it has been dealt with in various ways,
but nevertheless, I want to raise it for a specific reason. Today people with hidden disabilities are said to pass when they present in a way that conceals any signs of their disability. Passing is often demanded by society, and sometimes becomes second nature as we learn various little tricks so as to be accepted.
I am from the ‘lost generation’ of Aspies who never knew that Asperger's existed, or what it encompassed. Thus, if one actually had this ‘disability’ (I believe this is a misnomer) then there was no recognition thereof. So, even though I realised that I was dramatically different in many ways, and could not change, I simply had to fit in and make sure that I made my life as ‘normal’ as possible. The demand was also to find a career and make a success of it.
It is difficult to decide on what ‘normal’ is in a world that is decidedly messed up, with very few people who...
This is something I have always feared but have never admitted to anyone (ever) the fear that the Asperger's diagnosis could subject me to control by the "system". I used to fear being thrown into an institution or group home and having my every right taken away from me subjecting me to me controlled by a caregiver and the Mental Health system. This may be a stupid fear but i have read stories of this happening to people or their children on the spectrum.
This has been lurking in the back of my mind since I was 16 and my file was "reopened" back in '06 once again slapping me with the asd diagnosis (before it was undecided during childhood and I was left alone). Between the ages of 16-18 I had the system hovering over me with a lot of workers assigned, mandated appointments and they even sent a woman to follow me around at school for "support". It was a nightmare.
We are looking for people with Autism to complete about 15-20 minutes worth of questionnaires for our research into self identity in people with Autism. We were just wondering if anyone who uses this forum would be interested in completing these questionnaires?
Here is the link to the study: https://bathreg.onlinesurveys.ac.uk/identity-in-autism-an-exploration-of-content-and-impact
Here's the official info:
Identity in Autism – an exploration of content and impact.
You are invited to take part in a research project. The project aims to find out what people with Autism think about their identity as a person with Autism.
Who is conducting this research?
The project is being conducted by psychology researchers at the University of Bath. It is supervised by two qualified clinical psychologists.
Who can take part?
People aged 16 or older with Autism. We are defining the word Autism to...
Hey everyone so after trying and trying I finally have a couple of job prospects lined up. The first is a roadside assistance dispatcher. I'm really good over the phone, and they were very nice during my interview. I shadowed another dispatcher and listened as she took calls, and it didn't seem too difficult. I'm really good over the phone and a strong communicator, sometimes I have some trouble with auditory processing, but this job wouldn't involve face to face contact with the general public, only over the phone, so that helps decrease my anxiety somewhat. The job itself is physically easy, sitting in a cubicle all day. Vocational Rehab helped me get the interview there, through a contact they had, so I also feel like if I ran into any issues with needing more time to learn the job, they might have my back. It will be full time and pay around 10 dollars per hour. I'm supposed to start in two weeks. So that's option 1.
Option 2 is a fulfillment associate at Amazon. There's two...
Has anyone considered the reality of being a wounded healer? Life and people wound us incessantly. If we conceal our wounds out of fear and hurt, even shame, then our inner darkness can neither be illuminated or become a light for others. We end up clinging to our bad feelings and beat ourselves with our lack of acceptance and hurt when what we should do is let go. When we dare to live as those who acknowledge the reality of hurt and brokenness and the reasons for it, vulnerable in the endless search for 'healing' and share this with others, then we become wounded healers. The wounded healer implies that grace and healing are communicated through the vulnerability of those who have been fractured and heartbroken by life. The fact is that in true love's service (yes, true love), only wounded healers can serve and benefit. Being tight, aggressive, angry, withdrawn only keeps one in a small world of self.
Let me give you a picture of one man who is a magnificently chiselled athlete,...
As everybody pretty much knows, I am obsessed with trains. When I attended the huge Autism Expo in Indianapolis early this month, a gentleman that I know from the local G scale model train shop had set up a loop of track and was running a train and advertising for the shop. That gave me 2 ideas. First off the shop needed to have trains there for sale, there were others with toys ideal for autistic children there. And that I wanted to build on my idea for a train decorated up specificaly for autism. At the that shop I found an old Kalamazoo brand set that fit the bill perfectly. The old time style locomotive is quite colorful as can be seen below. Along with the locomotive and green tender car, I got 2 passenger cars that I will redecorate for the Autism Express, there were also 3 gondola style cars with seats in them for figures to sit on. Kind of like you might see on a train at an amusement park. Most importantly was the train was affordable, large scale trains can be...
I am continuing to have issues in work.
I am an accountant with great maths skills and good technical knowledge however my interpersonal skills are weaker, and this has caused my problems.
I feel I have been overlooked in the past, and when I try to stand up for myself I tend to struggle, it is a very political environment and there are many socially manipulative people and I feel i have been used. So while my technical skills are great, I unfortunately occasionally get sarcy and snappy when stressed, which as you can imagine does not help my reputation.
Over the past few years I have not been considered for some roles, with people coming in taking over parts of my role.
Recently a new boss started and they know now about me having Aspergers, the problem is she has absolutely no idea how to handle me and I feel I might be discriminated against. Alternatively perhaps I am being paranoid, and work is only trying to help me, an issue I have is that I feel I cannot trust my...
As the subject line reads, I was just fired from my second job today. It's days like this that I am grateful for the education I got from the punk, heavy metal, and indie scene. The scene helps you to deal with people who think you just don't fit in. You learn to give people who don't like you because you're different the double middle finger. My boss said I just wasn't fitting in. I laughed and said, "Bye!"
The second job didn't pay worth a damn anyhow. Another weekly charter opened up on Saturday mornings from 6:45am to 11:45am and my boss at the bus company said I could have it if I want. I just take seniors to the train station in a van. Brilliant!
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