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For the last few weeks i have been struggling with feelings of being burned out and on the precipice of a downward descent.
I keep telling myself, “One more day...” and i keep hoping i will endure. The stress and drama have been accumulating like a snow drift piled far above my head.
I tried to warn two people that have recently become involved in my life, about what is coming if I cannot prevent the storm. As to be expected, I think one or both misunderstood my words of caution for words of ending all communication. I do not have the energy to convince folks or argue my point.

Have you ever been aware enough to sense the impending doom of a future burn out?
Edited to add:
Burn out is what i call the emotional and physical exhaustion, caused by work and or socializing. It can last days/weeks/months and seems like a depression, or reclusive behavior pattern.

Dear All,

I am new to the forum and this is my second thread. To make it short (I have problem with that , I will try to not go into too much details. I am seeing a guy (since few weeks), with self-diagnosed ASD and I am trying to understand the reasons of some of his behaviour.

Just to make it clear, I know guys watch porn (not only guys to be fair) and some of them watch a lot. No issue with that. My question is - he is very open about watching it as well, and watching a lot.

What is different, he is doing it during random tasks, like e.g. cooking (not videos then, but just photos). My understanding of watching porn is that you do that when you are relaxed and put your full attention to it. It seems like pornography plays significant role in his daily routine and the reasoning for it is more complex that I would normally associate with it.

Am I overthinking it or is there a special connection between him having spectrum and being so much "connected" to the pornography....

Now, I understand that people DO care about individuals on the spectrum. However, in my experience, high functioning autism flies under the radar at times due to the similarities of neurotypical individuals, despite some differences.

Do you believe my statement or does it all depend how you act, along with the group of people who you interact with on a daily basis?

Procrastination......
You need to make a call to discuss sensitive matter- call and leave msg when you know they won't pick up.
Need to go to a meeting, tell them you will come to the next meeting but skip tonite , so sorry.
How many forum members practice this life skill and now have it to a fine- tuned and precision sharp? My first thought in matters, is determine the level of importance which then it flips into how long can l delay this event/issue/person/ problem etc.? What is your go-to life skill?

Dear Experts,
This is my first post on this forum and I hope someone will find some time to read it and give me some advice. I've read hundreds and hundreds of posts, watched uncountable videos about spectrum and still feel like I do not know anything...and I feel so lost and so frustrated and I do not know what to feel or think...I am sorry in advance for its length, I just want to give you full picture about my situation.
3 months ago I started dating an amazing man, not knowing back then that he is on autism spectrum. I knew him since 1 year prior that, but we were just meeting with common friends, as friends only. I haven’t expected he would be interested in me, so I was not making any first moves or anything like that. He did. One day he just asked me if I would like to go for jogging with him and asked for my number. We didn’t go jogging at the end (I am horrible jogger, so fortunately we didn’t) but we started texting a lot. He invited me to his home for a party with his...

#advicesneeded

I need your advices.

My husband is overwhelmed by social interractions, he never feels relaxed around others (only around me).
If he does not respect his schedule, he feels uncomfortable (Ex.: he eats at 7:00 pm; if he's late, he prefers to eat something on his way home rather than eat at 7:10 pm at home). He has a lot of routines, he has no friends, some hihgly-focused interests, he's oversensitive at being touched, he has some rigidity in thinking, and all this causes a lot stress.

He has no problem with understanding abstract concepts, jokes, sarcasm, etc.
He's very smart, funny, he has a good job, he is a very dedicate husband and dad, but o feel he is always stressed.

I am not interested into a diagnosis because is like putting a label i think, and that will stress him even more. In fact i see these things as personality treats, not as a "condition".

My only problem is the high level of stress that he experiences daily.

So, what are the solutions to...

Hi Everyone,

Wanted to share my latest blog post. I'm so excited about it.

Much of it is born from my personal experience. I have learned a ton from the amazing members on this forum! And I've also read my little heart out!

Hope you like it
Aspergers Relationships: A Guide for the Neurotypical | The Mental Health Blog

Okay guys, don't forget that it is Valentine's Day! If you don't have someone special in your life, offer to treat someone to a coffee or hot chocolate, buy some cookies or chocolates you can share with coworkers. Do something to make someone feel special!

Who knows, someone might take notice!

Yesterday I was waiting for a bus and when it arrived and the driver asked where I was going I had trouble speaking, I panicked and it got worse until I was only making strange sounds. She was very nice and helped me but I would like advice on what I could put on a card that helps people understand I am having trouble speaking.

I have the equipment and software to make permanent CR80 plastic cards. They look like gift cards you may have seen or a gym membership card. They are colorful and very durable. If needed I can put a photo on them.

What words could I use to explain to someone I would show the card to that I am having trouble speaking?

I would also appreciate any ideas for design, including pictographics that could help.

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Okay so now I have found others who do this too. I need fresh tactics.

Every day and night, I rummage through old conversations I have had, either recently or even years ago. I think about how I should have worded it, reconsidered how they might have heard my statement and taken offense, what if they thought I was being sarcastic or manipulative (something I never am, but NTs are so they may not understand our direct honesty) how I overshared and am now embarrassed, or how I said (or did) something outright strange and weird (to them) and am now humiliated.

Each of these thoughts can pop into my head at any given time, unprovoked, and then I have a strong desire and urge to bang my forehead on the wall multiple times (interestingly, before diagnosis I always wondered where this desire came from). Worry not, I do not bang my head, I restrain myself. But the internal pain is there, you know?

This has benefited me in some way, because I have learned much...