Asperger's & Autism Forum

I am at my wit;s end, please at least listen and hopefully understand.
I am a disabled woman who is virtually housebound, I can only get out with the help of my aspie partner. When I am at home I am limited in what I can do physically because of my disablements so I am only able to do stuff like watching tv and reading a book. This gets very very boring. Before I was ill I owned and run a very successful business with a lot of clients and staff - I have a good brain and am used to being hardworking and not at all lazy. I hate this.
Now this is where the real problem comes in.
My aspie guy works full time, he is out at work all day. During his working day he meets a lot of people, he has long friendly chats with them, he is often on the phone to clients etc. He has loads and loads of contact with people and is often in the outside world.
Yet when he comes home to me in the evening - and I have been alone with little to do all day - for many eight hours or more - he asks me what...

Are you aspies good or bad a memorizing?
How has asperger's helped you with memorization? How has asperger's made memorization harder?
Personally, memorization is not something that I am good at. I think I suck at remembering texts or music. I really only memorize something if I understand it. Many people can memorize even if they have no understanding at all. I can't!

I have always suffered this, but for some years, it got better, but it has rared its ugly head and causes such terribly anxiety.

It is natural to have health issues, due to imperfection, but nevertheless, my brain goes into overdrive.

Woke this morning with one eye being blurred and my first thought: cancer? Or, am I going blind? And can feel the surge of heart panicking anxiety seeping through me.

I believe I've heard that autistic people tend to have trouble with idioms and with slang, so I'm wondering about your experiences.

I'm generally good with idioms, but then I'm pretty good at languages in general. So I have no trouble recognizing that certain set phrases mean something totally different from what the phrase suggests.

Slang can be a little trickier, but I think that may just because there's less exposure; most idiomatic expressions have been around for decades or longer, while slang tends to fall out of use before I get a chance to really understand it.

I do recall in elementary school a visiting youth group handed out shirts and said they were "tight". I was a little confused by this, but figured out they meant "cool, hip". I was also very confused by their little dance party when they said someone was "in the house" and talked about "raising the roof", both of which I only understood from context.

DSM-5 says that we have difficulties understanding what is not explicitly stated.
Doesn't non-autistic people also need things explicitly stated?
To me "explicitly stated" sounds like "non-political way of speaking".
I talked with a professional (who works with autistic people like me) about this. We came to the conclusion that non-austic might miss a lot and get confused & frustrated when they don't explicitly state something. Sure, they might be more flexible so they don't always need things to be explicitly stated even if that would be much better.
What do you think?

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Hi
Stress is my trigger for meltdowns.
There are certain long term stressors in my life that I cannot get rid of, not in the foreseeable future anyway. They are very serious.
It's even too triggering to mention them, sorry no insult to you lovely people on here.
I am housebound, I am worried about my personal safety as these meltdowns have been violent, I am getting assessed for autism, Ive had them all my life but they have only become much more violent this last few years because of the stressors I cannot get rid of.
I am 54, as a kid they were merely red marks on my arm from wrist biting, and flailing around, now they are much worse and more destructive.
Some problems need the co-operation of others, some problems I have Brought on my self and opened myself up to repercussions from others.
I just need to keep myself safe during this long period of time where I sort myself out.
Any ideas?
Thanks

About 3 days ago, the database at Intensity crashed and Ari doesn't seem to be fixing it.

Also the site has dropped off of Google search, you can only get to it by typing in the address directly from what I'm seeing.

It looks like the site name may come up for sale soon.

Would anyone be interested in a new version of Intensitysquared??

And on a separate note, not knowing I was on the spectrum and not knowing the possibility of my kid(s) being on the spectrum, I would never have picked out their autistic characteristics because it was more the norm in this family. My kids and I have always been known for being so quiet, not smiling, being picky eaters, (aside from one son) being mostly loners or shy or not having many friends. I have one son that was my most difficult because I had no idea how to handle him - he's the only one who shows no sign of being on the spectrum. The others probably are. They were easier for me, I guess because I understood them better. I would never see them as different because we were/are much alike. We thought alike. My oldest son was in fights at school all the time. He wasn't a bully - he was always kind and helpful, but other kids made fun of him and he didn't take that. Never did it cross my mind - well, autism still wasn't really a thing when he was in school either....

When my daughter was still in school I was completely surprised when a friend of hers told me that all their classmates were afraid of her. While my daughter was visitng this week I asked her why (she is nothing but kind). She said it was her facial expressions, she thought. Like if she was getting a drink of water and someone called her name she would turn around and probably give a mean expression (unintentionally).

I got to thinking about the girl who wanted to beat me up because she didn't like the way I walked around with my hand in my pockets. I remember the reason I started walking with my hands in my pockets - because my older sister was trying to teach me that I needed to swing my arms when I walk and when I'd try, I'd swing them too far. I just couldn't get it so I just put my hands in my pockets hoping it'd be less obvious.

Anyway, I was just wondering how the rest of you - if you were aware or told of specific characteristics that people didn't like about you...