Asperger's & Autism Forum

Hi everyone! I am an NT currently in a long term relationship with someone on the spectrum. He is high functioning, very smart, very creative and sweet. He is also an artist and into home remodelling and a very good chess player. We have been thru a lot in the past years. Oir source of arguments and fights is his ex for 5 years/best friend. They are still close and would occasionally meet up for coffee or drinks. I am trying to understand and dont hinder into their friendship but it is destroying me inside coz im am very jealous of her. I just dont understand why they could remain as friends and he thought it is not a big deal but i try to make him understand that him spending time with her just crushes my heart to its core. His bestfriend/ ex doesnt even like me as well sothe feeling ia mutual. I cant understand why he can have keep her as a friend but im not allowed to talk to my ex nor jave a male friend. I am just so frustrated and hurting..

I was thinking about it and I realised I don't have ambitions. Or do I and just fail to perceive them?
What are ambitions exactly?
I am a curious person and I like to learn about everything because I always think that one day I may need the info; I like to be independent and to stay like that I must learn enough of everything to be able to handle challenges when they come . Also because I think everything is connected so every information is useful even if I never use it. I also think that one day maybe someone asks me a question and it is always good if we know the answer to help out in some way.
But I don't have ambition to become someone important, chief of a department at work or whatever. On the contrary I like to keep a low profile.
The goals that I have and things I learn and do are mostly for myself. I don't share them with anyone really.
It is just for my personal pleasure and use.
Is this strange? To do things without thinking that no-one else will ever see them, no-one...

The only time I experienced this sensation, was when I did cold turkey with prozac.

I tried to discuss it with my psychiatrist, but he just brushed me away and said it was not possible, because I am not coming off them.

I am concerned, because of the side effects from long term usage, but they do calm my anger down to a huge degree.

Seriously, there's a big shortage of wisdom on this topic. I'm entirely too nerdy for my favorite humans. I have to change something. You probably posses vastly more social intelligence than I do so I hope we can learn from each other.

Tech support questions are allowed too, after all how else can I pay any of you back?

Don't take it very seriously, but this is not supposed to be a joke thread

It is supposed to be about our lifes.

When you find your self sick or in trouble who do you turn to?

As someone with ASD i struggle sometimes... It's difficult to know when to ask for help, sometimes i feel like i am putting a burden on others and other times I feel like i should be able to do certain things for myself and not be too reliant.

I am finding it harder and harder to find people to turn to... My mother is older and she used to help me a lot, my sibbling s have always thought i am more capable then i am.

I feel like we should all be able to turn to someone for help without being judged or known as the whiner/complainer.

Just wondering if any of you have employment problems. I have been so overwhelmed in the past that I have loaded my tools and walked right out the door on the spot. What can be done to stop this cycle? Help

I was officially diagnosed in 2016 with ASD level 1. Long before that, for just about my entire life actually, I have felt insecure about the way I looked. It's not that I am deformed or hideous in any way. In fact, it seems as if I am engaging in some sort of body dysmorphic disorder in which I am preoccupied with imagined or minor defects that others are entirely unaware of. This line of thinking however has seriously affected my level of confidence and contributes greatly to why I often find it difficult to look people in the eye during conversation. I'm just curious, are there other aspies who are insecure about their physical appearance?

Okay, so, I've got a few people in my life who are dealing with very sudden loss of loved ones right now. About a week ago, a friend of mine lost his mother to a stroke, which was a couple of weeks after he lost his sister to.... something, I'm not too clear on that. So, very bad situation. Can't even imagine how he's getting by.

And then today, I find out that out of nowhere, my uncle died. Heart attack or something, the details aren't very clear yet. Now, I didn't really know him at all. It takes some effort to even remember what he looked like. My mom's entire gigantic family is so spread out over the country that I have a variety of cousins I've never even met. I'd see him at the very rare major family gathering, but of course I'm as social as a brick, so... yeah. I don't get to know people well.

But my mom and also my grandma are likely not doing so well right now, after finding out about this. Needless to say, they did know him very well, so... yeah. A very bad...

I have read that 'aspies' are more focused on the present moment and much less focused on the past or present. I don't think I am that way at all and am more likely to be dwelling on past mistakes or planning for the future so as to prevent mistakes or feel safe. I am not at all good at being in the present unless I am being assaulted by sensory stimuli. Do you think you are more past, present or future focused?