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There was a thread a few weeks ago about stimming that I haven't been able to stop thinking about. I wondered what makes a stim an autistic stim versus a normal, everyday one? Articles I've read about it all point out that almost everyone stims, not just autistic people. Toe tapping, twirling hair, biting nails, bouncing leg, etc.--these are common ones. But I've noticed that many autistic people, myself included, tend to view everything we do and everything about us as being the result of autism. But of course this isn't the case. We are autistic, but we are also people--we're people who happen to be autistic. So, then, in addition to autistic stimming (and keep in mind that not all autistic people stim), we must also stim in ways that are not the result of autism. But how do we distinguish?
Here's what I've found: autistic stimming differs from normal stimming in type, quantity, and obviousness of the behavior (I pulled this from verywellhealth.com). If your stimming...
I think that my situation is a bit known here, so I will skip it. Anyway I spent most of my life, since age 4 or 5 up to age 28 studying hard, to the detriment of both my dating and social life. If you can call it that, because usually I have had no dating nor social life.
In high school I was studying most of the time, often until 1 or 2 in the morning, having to wake up early at 05.30 to go to school, then repeat each day. University was similar, except that I could wake up later. But still, I studied in my "free time" which was not really free time, and I basically did not hang out much with friends nor go on dates. Absolutely no time at all to date or go out with friends.
My social and dating skills in my late 20s were so poor that probably a teenager had better skills that I did. I felt that with three different STEM degrees, I had accomplished something. Yet my desire to have regular friends plus a girlfriend have year after year been stymied by my stunted social skills,...
I had an MRI of brain because of increased headaches, pressure and other symptoms - visual, weakness and balance, and other stuff. Any time I got for a test like this, I always get a dvd copy for myself. So yesterday, my doctor's office called wanting to schedule an appointment with a neurosurgeon for a pineal gland cyst, which, after looking it up, would not cause all the symptoms I'm having. Speaking with the nurse I asked her to send me a copy of the written results, so she did. Looking at that, and the other findings, there is fluid where I thought I had seen fluid, which is causing the pressure - location exactly where I feel the pressure. Also, another finding is ectopia where the brain stem and brain connect which will cause all the symptoms I expressed and goes along with all my neck issues. I really need to consider finding a new doctor, but I like her.
Anyhow, I found an image comparing a normal brain to 2 different types autistic brains:
My MRI pictures look...
Firstly, I would like to preface this and say that I get stressed out in crowded places. Especially when I am rushed. So keep that in mind.
Today was not a good day for me, at all. A lot of things went wrong consecutively.
As I mentioned I have got a new car a few weeks ago. I have hit it twice. But I do have a particular problem with getting my car manoeuvred around the bollards (our car parks have thin, narrow lanes with concrete bollards around them). 6/7 times out of 10 I will drive on the kerb or hit the bollard. My car is simply too big for me to see where I am going.This causes me a lot of stress.
So this comes on to awkward drivers, people who drive slow, people who speed up when I overtake, people who take too long to move off etc.
I do fine driving but I am having particular problems in dealing with awkward drivers. I nearly always come across people driving slow.
I don’t know how to deal with awkward drivers. This evening I could not get out of a parking...
Here's a type of scenario that has happened often enough to be a pattern. Let's say in online communication - it can happen face to face as well but is somewhat easier to manage.
Someone proposes a theory or a solution to a problem.
I see a possible flaw in the theory or solution and say something pointing to this. Because a) that's what I see, b) I'm interested in the accuracy and truth of the thing and c) if you want something that works it's obviously useful to know about problems with the current proposed version.
The original poster at this point goes wildly off-track and pretty soon suggests I have some nefarious reason for wanting block their proposal or... something. The response makes "no sense", just, what the? Where the blazes did that come from? It's based on literally no evidence. Online all the actual words are there to see, but invariably that's not good enough.
Obviously there's some psychological / cognitive thing going on with this, which is why I put...
I'm having some troubles in college, not from an academic perspective, but from a social perspective. I feel like noone likes me even though I haven't done anything. The way some of these students look at me makes me think they feel uncomfortable around me. I'm 31 years old with a bunch of early 20 year olds, but still I don't think that would be the reason they would look at me funny.
My husband (who has early-stage Alzheimer's) and I are active at our local senior center. We attend exercise class three days a week as well as other events.
I try to smile warmly at others in our exercise class and say good morning, even though I don't know most people's names. My husband, who is more sociable than me, often gets into discussions with other participants before or after the class. We all ride the same elevator and often have lunch or coffee in the lunchroom.
Being congenial and helpful with elderly people is an exercise in accepting the humanity of those who have lost some of their brain cells or connections due to aging. I think it is fair to view it as an alternative neurotype, just like autism, ADHD, and TBI (traumatic brain injury).
When you accept and connect with others who are neurodiverse, you also grow in acceptance of yourself.
Do any of you work with the elderly, or interact with them often? How does it make you feel?
Since being diagnosed a few months ago (at 29), I have learned to recognize my limits when it comes to socializing. Recognizing these things is one thing, but now I'm wondering what to do with this new awareness. In some ways it has introduced new challenges.
Most people I know are used to me masking and don't seem to accept my diagnosis or show interest in learning about the nuances and all that stuff that makes it hard to see that there are differences between us.
If I say something like "I don't feel like talking right now" this will seem out of character, and they'll probably suspect that something is wrong. Their natural reaction is probably to wonder if I'm upset about something or not feeling well, or to think that I don't like spending time with them, etc.
Is there any good way to communicate this and have them understand that there is no hidden message and that I just need a break? If they do understand it, what happens then? How long can I expect someone to tolerate a...
I have heard over and over how touch is key in the dating world, and that no touch means no attraction. However, as a 30 year old male, I never felt comfortable with casual touch.
When I was 14 in high school, a girl kept trying to talk to me. Eventually, one day, when I was eating lunch alone on a bench, she went up next to me, took my right hand and laced fingers with me. As a reflex I immediately withdrew, as if I put my hand on a hot oven. On other occasions she tried to put my arms around my shoulders and touch my hands. In addition to withdrawing, I was left confused as to what she was doing.
Throughout high school, when girls tried to hug me, I withdrew immediately, as if someone were trying to pickpocket me. They usually ended up thinking that I was very odd. In last year of high school (equivalent of last year of sixth form in the UK), I went to prom with this girl, and I could not slow dance with her at all. Those slow, romantic dances made me extremely uncomfortable to...
I, like many here, need some quiet time sometimes. I tried many different kinds of earplugs but they are far from perfect. Sounds around me are not completely blocked, and the plugs themselves are irritating and cause itching. I can't use them for more than an hour a day because of that.
What do you suggest? Are noise-cancelling headphones good? I read that they only blocked noises, but not voices of people. I need something that blocks noises and voices. I don't wanna hear anything.
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