Asperger's & Autism Forum

Why do people try to make exceptions of themselves? Like you make the comment, "Everyone makes me feel intimidated." They will also say something like, "Except for me, right?"

My sister, when I told her I was not comfortable in anyone's home, reacted with "Except mine, right?" Not right. She acted insulted when I told her, that included hers. (I didn't point out that hers is one of the most uncomfortable places for me to visit). I included even my kid's homes, which, if anyone, they might would be the exception.

Told my preacher that I'm intimidated by everyone. He says, he hoped not him. Why wouldn't I be intimidated by him - he towers over me, he's someone in charge and I don't know him that well, of course I'm going to be intimidated by him. When I said everyone, why would it not include you?

I grew up in a family where relaxing is considered a luxury or waste of time and now this way of thinking has rooted firmly in me. Currently I'm out of school and applying for grad school, which should be a good time to enjoy life, but I'm constantly worried or preparing myself for the future. The worriment is not so bad that it becomes anxiety. I fill my every day with learning languages, reviewing college materials, keeping a diary, reading (useful) books, exercising, learning new softwares and a dozen other skills that might be useful in the future. Sure, I still watch funny videos and play games, but every second of it, I feel very guilty, like I'm wasting precious time.

People compliment me often, that I manage my time well and have great self-restraint. But the truth is I'm exhausted and guilty all the time. Guilty because I wasted time on amusement or leisure, exhausted because I didn't really relax while doing that. Rationally I know I can, deserve to, and should do what...

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I have been doing a lot of reading online and I truly believe there is a possibility I am on the spectrum. It's really fascinating how deeply I relate to others' experiences. But, I want to handle this with the utmost respect for others.
I think it could be really nice to have my experiences "validated" with a label. But, I have heard that it can be very, very tedious and expensive to get any type of official diagnosis. I'm currently in college and I am not capable of spending great amounts of money. And, I'm not really sure if I would even take any action after being diagnosed. I would feel less alone if I knew for sure, but that's about it I guess... But feeling less alone sounds pretty nice.
Is it worth it for me to seek a professional opinion in your own experience? What is your opinion of self-diagnosed individuals? Is this something I should speak to my loved ones about?
Throughout my life- I have always found myself identifying with things like anxiety disorders,...

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l was in a relationship with a guy who has aspergers l wandered does anyone know if they miss you after they break up with you. l know hes seeking sex from other woman because he told me, so l guess that means he doesnt miss me. l didnt want the split l wanted to work through our problems. l had trouble understanding why he would say odd things and do odd things which were hurtful to me. The sad thing is at the time l didnt say l was sad that he did that and l struggled to turn it around so we could still be good together and still love each other. Does anyone understand this, im not very good at explaining myself. Thankyou

My parents raised me to believe that I am supposed to always set myself on fire to keep everybody else around me warm. And they are showing heavy resistance now that I am slowly moving away from that line of thinking.

I know my mother takes a lot of pride in the fact that she created a parenting environment where she could sit by and watch while anybody could do whatever they wanted to me, and she would always jump in to make sure that I always knew that their wants were always far more important than my need to have any kind of personal boundary. She even tells me all of this to this very day. She claims that she is "very proud" of the fact that she always "played Devil's advocate" whenever somebody violated my boundaries because she thinks I am always too stupid to see the whole picture.

So, I endured a couple of stalkers during my adult years because my parents always guilted me into keeping these stalkers in my life, by angrily telling me that their happiness was my sole...

1. Exercise
2. Take a nap
3. Make a to-do list
4. Talk to a friend
5. Watch your fav show
6. Read your fav childhood book
7. Volunteer
8. Meditate
9. Go to Church
10. Make a gratitude list
11. Listen to your fav album
12.Go for a walk
13.Stretch or do yoga
14.Talk to therapist
15.Watch a comedy special
16.Cut back on coffee
17.Drink a glass of water
18.Log off social media
19.Avoid the news
20.Take shower or bath
21.Get a massage
22.Write a journal entry
23.Get acupuncture.
24.List 3 things you did well today
25.Take CBD oil

What did you do today that made you feel 100% improved? Animal and baby pic's encouraged.

I've always had a big "sense of justice" or whatever you can call it. There are so many things about this world that totally bother me and I want to change them! So I do many activities and I spread awareness. I have many blogs about it and so on. It's my special interest I think.

I enjoy reading books that help me to understand this world more, I enjoy thinking about it and also I enjoy writing about it (blog posts, books), but I totally don't enjoy discussing it with people. Actually I hate it.

But people want to discuss it all the time. Everywhere.

Example: A friend of mine shows up and out of nowhere he starts talking about some of his opinions (usually it's them who start, not me) which I totally disagree with. He expects me that I would agree, but it's not happening. I say "Sorry, but I disagree." and an argument starts. Sometimes I even try to avoid the conversation, to stop it, because it's annoying. Also it does a weird things to my body.

I say "Look, I know you have...

so I went to my psychiatrist yesterday and she totally invalidated my Aspergers. She said that PTSD OCD and trauma overlap and it isn’t Aspergers that I have even though I know it is. She said it isn’t even in the diagnostic book anymore and most ppl that have Aspergers just have overlapped conditions not Aspergers. I highly disagree. I kept telling her my symptoms and trying to communicate what was wrong. She gave me ADHD meds and excused me. It was like she didn’t even hear me. I feel frustrated and invalidated. Has this happened to anyone else?

Hi, I rarelly post stuff this time or for the past months but if you have read some of my previous thread (it might be in this section) you probably remember I posted about a friend of mine who was inlove of a guy who is kind of a jerk, and that's not only my opinion it was hers at the time.

Anyway, just to sumarize, she often told me she went to sleep crying, one time they had a fight about a money she lend him, and to make things worse the guy has a daughter from another relationship (since their money fight was around novermber I guess the guy needed money for the child support from that month.)

Anyway, yesterday she texted me and showed me a commercial pregnancy test she did, and it looks like she may be pregnant. We have been talking and apparently she's going to go to the doctor and ask for a profesional test.

Meanwhile, today she showed me some texts/screens of a conversation between she and the guy, and apparently the guy became an assh...le when she told him she was...

"Outgrown" is in quotes because it's more likely due to learning to cope or mask than "growing up".

Up to my 20s, I had to compulsively read everything. If there was text in my view, I could not focus on anything else until I had read it. While my siblings looked at the games on the cereal boxes, I would read the nutritional data and ingredients on the side - not because it was interesting to me, but because I had to read it. Sent to play at someone else's house, I couldn't bring myself to engage with the other kid(s) until I had read everything in their room (I still remember the comics I didn't get to finish reading when I got kicked out once).

I don't remember when it went away. I'm guessing I just got better at filtering - learning to recognize what text I could ignore. In any new place, my eyes still gravitate towards any visible text. I can delay reading it if I know I'm supposed to have higher priorities, like actually talking to people, though I will start looking...