Asperger's & Autism Forum

Hello,

I used to rarely initiate a convocation through SMS /IMs , although I am better at this and am trying to push myself a bit more*

However, I've noticed that it can take *days* for me to reply to one of my friends' texts, I don't really know why it takes this long, and I am realising that this kills the conversation, and leaves a placid lack of interest from my part. They are obviously interested in me, and I want to be a bit more pro-active in how I express myself through these channels.

Maybe a reason could be the stress and lack of convenience when instantly replying, and so I put it off even though I know I shouldn't.

Does anyone else have these issues?

Hello. I'm new here. I've read the forums many times during bad bouts with my partner, but today I finally decided I need to stop fooling myself and accept that this is real and that I need real help and perspective. My story and questions are intricate, so I think I'm going to post in a few different sections regarding different parts of my story. This post is not brief....but, this is where I am having the most difficulty.

My partner of 8 years (this Tuesday, actually) and I fell in love hard and it started with passion and a sweet vulnerability; but we always had misunderstandings and moments where he would shut me out for days. While we were dating I had a higher title/salary than him, and I like being generous with those I love, so I used to always contribute more (or pay for all) of our outings or trips. But, always thought, one day I may need help, or be making less and that he would return that generosity.

It wasn't until I was newly pregnant and we were moving in to a...

Everyone I know has decided to run with the herd and I can't say I blame them. Of course, I wish they understood or even wanted to understand but of course they don't.

I have learned a lot from these experiences.

I run every day. I eat healthy. I try to remind people that I am still partially insane from pharmaceutical drugs and to please understand, that will change with time.

I feel like our society is being degraded. People are becoming more shallow. More herd-like and mindless.

Is anyone ever going to understand me?
I know some people do, but in real life will anyone understand or care to?
From you-all's experience, does anyone understand you?

I wish I had access to this mythical place where women want to know what makes this aspie guy tick. People just laugh at me and I get it, they suck, too. Their lives suck bad enough they want to pick on an autistic person.

My Graduation is on Monday, I will not be going because the flights are too expensive, and the ferry is expensive.

So, I am finished University now. I have applied for a few jobs so far, with one Assessment Day, and an Online Interview for my dream job today, so I am making efforts to do things.

However, meanwhile i'm stuck in my house doing absolutely nothing every single day. I don't have a car to drive, my Sister works every single day up to 9pm (out of boredom).

She is my only source of going anywhere. My father will not take me anywhere and my mother will not either, beyond 9pm.

So, as I said I am completely housebound for weeks on end. I have ordered a car, but it will not be coming until September when we leave for Portugal. This means that I will not really have a car until October.

Basically, I am relying on the generosity of my sister, or indeed her willingness to take me places. However, that willingness is not always there.

Today for example, my parents and...

Are any facial expressions natural for you that are considered normal (if not what ones are normal for you)? Becausw for me lots are but not all (I only kno of like 3 different faces I make that are normal the rest I'm not sure of)

I made a NT (neuro typical) friend recently and I'd like to actually keep them (unlike all my other NT friends). So how do I do that? They also dont know about my mental health all the way (at least not the autism and possible DID and possible ADHD) but should I tell them? main thing is how do I keep a NT friend. This one seems very accepting so I probably could tell them about my mental health but people seem to think I'm to direct and I'm not sure how to do that and I'm not sure what else I do that people dont like.

How do you deal with double messages, l feel l don't understand them, and why can't there be truth here?

Hi Everyone.

Haven't been on here in a while. Hope all are well!

I was hoping you could enlighten me on something. Are there specific triggers that make you anger quickly? Are there triggers that are common amongst people on the spectrum?

I ask because my bf has a short fuse which I suspect is somewhat related to his aspie traits. He's becoming more open about himself, but he has a hard time answering open-ended questions. Plus, I think at 52 years old, he's just starting to learn about himself, so doesn't always know how to answer my questions.

Hunger seems to be a big one (I think this is true of NT's too). One other he told me is getting lost. We were in Mexico with a rental car and couldn't find our way back to the agency. He became so irritable, cursing and getting agitated. He later told me he gets extremely stressed when he gets lost. Could that be due to feeling overwhelmed when someone unexpected happens?

Another trigger seems to be traffic in general (if he's...

The DSM replaced such terms such as "aspergers syndrome" and "high functioning autism" with better terms such as Autism levels 1-3 yet I still see people using terms like "aspie" regardless. Why hasn't Autism level 1 been used as much by the general public? "Aspie is totally dated anyways.

I'm asking because
1. People on the (I dont like this term) high functioning end usually have a higher IQ and people on the lower functioning levels have low IQs.
2. I just took an IQ test and am curious what other people's results are.

So tell me what your iq is (or just like what it means like normal or genius or something) and where you are or think you are on the spectrum