Asperger's & Autism Forum

I've been having a pretty bad time lately. At the university, privately, etc. However, with the help of a psychiatrist and a good attitude, I managed not to fall into depression again. It was really hard. However, I made one mistake when I felt sad. Namely, I got drunk at a party, on the same day I heard what was wrong with my project in college, around the same time I started slowly annoying my friends and still didn't know what to do with my ex. There was a lot of it. When I got drunk, I flirted with my friend (btw she has a boyfriend) in front of my ex-boyfriend, and I was also talking weird random things. I've never been so drunk to not remember. But from what I learned so far, when someone told me that my behavior disturbed them, I stopped immediately. I don't try whitewash what I did, but they act like I have to do penance for what I did. They didn't even invite me to the party they were organizing now. From what I learned from few of my friends, one of them (sober)...

Hello everyone.
Maybe someone remember me. I struggled with social communication all my life and i was diagnosted when i was 18 years old. I was a student in medical university and i am sorry for my mistakes english is not my first language. I dropped out of the university 2 years ago and started finding job. But i failed this mission. So i entered another university because my parents were crazy about my helpless and lazy person in their house. It was easy to entered but hard to study and again communication. I also didnt like the classes. I didnt want it and... I escaped to the fish factory that located in the far far away island. In october 2020 i returned to my home and it was terrible. In the factory i made a few friends and they like my strange nature. I was so excited about it and i started to live with them in their house. Then i tried drugs first time in my life... now im 22 and im drug addict. when I sniff amphetamine I feel like I'm becoming a normal person. when i smoke...

I have heard that aspies are good at rote learning.
Wiki says "Rote learning is a memorization technique based on repetition. The idea is that one will be able to quickly recall the meaning of the material the more one repeats it.".

What is problematic here is that I suck at rote learning and disslike repetition for the sake of repetition. Repetition seems more like a thing for "normal" people.
I took piano lessons and sucked at it because it was based on rote learning rather than about understanding the music. And I suck at remebering dates eg the Battle of Lützen. Asperger's does not help me with rote learning. It just makes me disslike it!
Another thing e are supposed to be good at it is: visual thinking. Also a stereotype I think. I suck at it!

My questions: Is this just one of the stereotypes? Do you also want to understand rather than just be forced to learn without understanding? Isn't the stereotypes actually that aspies want to understand and ask too many questions?...

I think it's my gaze quality plus a vague air, it's been a big problem in my life, imagine job interviews when they presume you're a druggie.

I've done this test:
Can you tell how people are feeling from their expressions? Quiz
And it said that I'm facial expression genius because I scored 8/10. This goes against all other tests that all put me on spectrum.
What' s your score here?

I had to take an exam,i studied well and was ready for it. A day before the exam,
I received an email about the exam being postponed and being rescheduled for the next week. When i read the email i got upset,cause the plan of the day was to revise the study material before the exam. I tried to work on my feelings,but i got upset and disorganized. It was 11 am and i had the whole day to study something else. I ended up doing nothing what my studies is concerned. I wanted to leave behind this exam and begin preparing an essay,which takes time,this was my next step.

I am working on not getting upset when something unexpected is changing my program. But the half times i can't control my feelings of being disorganized,this of course costs me valuable time and then i am falling behind schedule.
Any advice, welcomed!

One of the things with allistics is their idea of "making up" or "making things good again" or whatever you want to call it.

And I don't know if this is an autistic thing or just a me thing, but I have alway found that redundant. You told each other how you felt about things when you were yelling about it (the yelling was also redundant, would have been easier to hear without the loudness and deliberate record scratch). So why rehash it? Why does it take a reenactment with a more peaceful interpretation for NTs to feel like things are okay between you? Why not just move on?

While we're at it, I don't really get the point of apologies either. They don't change anything, they're just another allistic ritual.

How do you feel about these things? Do you have a preferred way to solve conflicts? Does it work?

I always wait a long time before getting a haircut. Usually, but not always it was very painful. The feeling of my hair being pulled. I guess I'm just too sensitive.
The stylist was nervous around me. I did talk some so it wasn't like I didn't talk at all. She was definitely an extrovert. I somehow just don't blend in or get other females being friendly with me.
I could tell she wants to get me overwith as I am making her nervous.
Under the dryer now...
Anyone with similar?

Okay, that does seem like a strange thing to say.

I have a theory that when an NT uses cannabis, especially for the first time, and likes it, what they're feeling is that this is how they prefer to be. They are actually inducing a temporary experience of autism.

In my observations of people on cannabis, including myself, I have come to realise that in an intentional altered state, so I don't mean going out to a club or drinking with mates and having a good time, I'm mean someone using cannabis to feel better, more balanced, at peace, experience creativity. To be what we call ‘high’ is realer than not being.

Some say autism is a disability, and obviously there are levels of autism that seem incongruous with living in the regular world easily. They are in their own reality, which could equate to taking a big dose of edible cannabis and literally not being able to function in the world, which feels very different to normal life. They don’t have to get used to the strangeness, which...