Asperger's & Autism Forum

Awhile ago I finally told my longterm boyfriend that I am really sure I have aspergers. His response "No you don't, why would you think that" and I was upset at the time and only said that it's because I experience every symptom.

It was difficult for me to even bring it up that first time, and I've been expecting him to say something about it since then but he hasn't. I don't even know what to say to him to bring it up again.

I'm afraid he isn't taking it seriously. He's more skeptical about this kind of stuff, and has made fun of other people on the spectrum. I think that maybe the reason would be he can't believe that I do, because then his idea of Aspergers wasn't at all what he had thought it was.

I haven't told anyone else, but I feel like I should because I want people to understand my behavior sometimes is out of my control. I also say things sometimes without meaning to and I'm afraid people take it the wrong way, then never talk to me again. Eventually I just close up...

Lonely

As a spectrum gifted or not person, would we come up with "Rate how attractive l am compared to others" or are we more likely to come up with "Rate how weird and obessive l am compared to others", what's your take? Of course l only ask this in a scientific speculation mode, but l want to hear from you.

I was diagnosed with autism but one thing still irritates me about the doctor that gave me my diagnosis. He was asking about obsessions and actually told me mine were not unusual enough to fit the category of autism obsessions. It's not the subject, but the obsession that makes it an obsession. Right? Seriously if you go by the subject - ok, bugs are acceptable according to him. Why? Are autists the only people that have an interest in bugs? Or dinosaurs? Or rocks?

Actually I had a strong interest in rocks when I was young - BUT, other than the backyard and driveway and a two-book encyclopedia set, I didn't have much access to anything else. So therefore it doesn't count.
I mentioned to him that when I was a teenager I was obsessed with my music. His response was that all teenagers have an interest in music. No - they all enjoyed the music, but I had to know every bit of information accessable on the album cover - who played what instrument, who wrote the lyrics, who...

A couple of weeks ago I had uploaded a new video explaining how difficult it can be masking our autism since I explained in this video that masking our autism does cause stress on our well being.
I love embracing my autism since it is all part of who I am, it's easier to let loose like a dog of it's own leash.

Do you mask or embrace your autism?

This is a delicate subject. l think l have been going about it all wrong. Basically my entire life, l haven't dated much. Just really not interested. I am a comfortable loner, with a very small circle of whoever.

Much older, don't really want to date at this age, don't understand why people can't be accepting of this choice. I will say anything to get a guy to leave me alone, l mean anything. l prefer to work and stay in on days l am not doing my errands. Why can't society accept who l am?

People have a thousand bad things to say about me because l like solitude. I don't have a strong desire to throw myself at a man. If l like someone, l end up really enjoying their company. There are so many lonely older females, why can't men respect my right to be a alone older female. How should l let men know l am not into dating? It's because l don't have energy or desire at this age. l can't change me. l actually have been this way my ENTIRE life.

I wonder if someone can help me out here and help identify these traits as possibly being seen in female high functioning autism as I have seen many of these in combination among 3 separate women who are definitely not neurotypical and I personally believe are on the autistic spectrum.
Lack of natural empathy and cannot understand anyone else’s perspective. If the experience has not impacted them directly, then it cannot be comprehended. Even when that experience has impacted them as well as that situation, the belief is that it was ‘different’ for them, even when fundamentally it was not. This is mainly on abstract level of putting themselves of someone else say facing an unfair social situation, but on a visceral level e.g. seeing someone physically hurt they are perfectly capable of responding compassionately.
Major leaps from limited data to sometimes quite wild conclusions.
Massive confirmation bias. Once a prejudice or assumption is adopted it is virtually impossible to...

With regards to this link (below) there are some service users at the aspergers centre I attend who use accents which they didn't receive from being from a place and growing up there, i.e. using an USA accent when they have never lived or visited the US. Anyone else noticed this?

G70 Foreign Accent Syndrome (FAS) in Association with Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD). A New Syndrome?

I’ve looked through past threads and read online articles, but I’m still not completely clear on executive dysfunction.

What are some examples of how it affects your behavior and life?

This is what I've been saying. They like picking on people. I wish I knew what this is about.