Asperger's & Autism Forum

Anyone else confused why people call non living thing things she? Like a boat. Why sometimes people call the ground the floor? As the floor is indoors and the ground is outdoors

It's various definitions describe:

A feeling of pleasure and/or sadness when you think about things that happened in the past.
A sentimentality for the past, typically for a period or place with happy personal associations.
Recalling the past in a rosy, positive light, even though the true past is more complicated. It’s a sentimental or wishful emotion that makes us reminisce, or recall past times.

Do you think the past is better than the present? I am sometimes reminded of the past with a scent, say of apples or smell of long grass in the sun. A time when there were few responsibilities and a different sort of freedom.

I've noticed that some like to collect items such as trains, dolls, seashells, toys and games to mention a few. Are these collections related to nostalgia about childhood? Is this hearkening back to the past a way to remember it or celebrate it or both?

Because really when you consider life in general, it's about loss. Loss of childhood, home, place,...

The Dark Side of Asperger’s

This article claims that autistic marry people with strong emotional characteristics and they can not handle those sort of people.

What are your experiences? Does it induce panic, depression or confusion?

I must admit that I hugely admire people who are emotional not just in light and jolly way because those people seem unjust missing the point but those who are emotionally directive and even prone to meltdowns or shakedowns and not in terms of poor emotional understanding. They make me feel alive.

Not exactly sure what to do... my partner of 2 1/2 years (it is has been up and down the whole time) and I have different schedules normally (he sleeps late, wants to wake up whenever he wants)

He often falls asleep on the couch in the living room, which upsets me.

He wants a separate bedroom to sleep in and escape to for alone time, which he wants a lot of. He said he would come visit me.

I told him that i would not accept that as solution, while we do have a 2nd bedroom it is meant as a guest bed.

I suggested we could have 2 beds in our room, but what he wanted was out of the question. It got heated.

I think their is some rigidity that we both have.

He is currently taking a walk To calm down.

i did tell him that if that is what he wanted we should just stop being with each other. Maybe that was too harsh, but it is upsetting to me.

So awhile back, l worked in a liquor store in a very high end tourist spot. Singer Pink was there my nite working.

But with high end tourists, we have the tourist industry workers, and sadly the homeless population.

This one homeless guy use to be a teacher. Nice guy, very respectful, just couldn't stop drinking. The local neighbors would give him money for odd jobs around their house. So he was on a binge maybe going on several weeks.But his buddy picked up bottles for him and l only worked p/t so l didn't know full extent of how much he drank. We tried to help out the nicer ones at our store. We would give them food from the deli when it was cold. We also helped out a veteran who called me a bad name but later he apologized.

One day the former teacher opened the door and was out of it. He is about 50-65 years old. He barely made it to counter but he wasn't drunk just weak. I said hi, and l kindly asked if l could call 911 for him because it look like that to me. But because...

So, I have a flea infestation but managed to “escape” to another apartment for a few days until the pest control company fixes the problem. Once I realized I had a flea issue, I panicked and couldn’t sleep for 2 days. Even after escaping, I am still frightened lest a few of those fleas hitchhike on my body or clothes and infest the apartment I’m currently staying at (that’s not crazy, though. I read that a female lays up to 50 eggs after 1 meal!) They can get overwhelmingly too many in days!

So, I think I might have entomophobia because I have a history of such exaggerated responses to insects and even germs. I have researched a lot about fleas, and many websites wrote about how effective vinegar can be at repelling fleas (and, apparently, insects, in general).
Has any of you tried it? Because, if it actually is effective, I will be spraying myself everyday.

P.S: I am asking about using it for humans, not pets.

So I had to talk to a psychiatrist this morning about my depression. This has been a huge step for me. This is the first time in my life that I've ever gotten help from professionals with my anxiety and depression. I am very grateful, and happy to be getting this help.

However, I have noticed a very unfortunate pattern with all of the health care professionals that I've spoken to. They don't want to talk about me being autistic, and it takes many tries before I am heard.

I spoke with this doctor for an hour. He, like many of the other doctors I spoke to, asked me what has caused the depression and anxiety in the past. I bring up the obvious family trauma that I went through which gets me extremely emotional every time without fail. But I always also say to them, I also have other mental health concerns that have gone unchecked all my life that have continued to impact me. Autism being the big one.

This doctor I spoke to literally said to me, "Well. I must say, you don't look...

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Background:
Today(May 11th 2020) I was talking to my therapist and I was feeling low and eventually said that was I even autistic at this point since my trauma might lead to aspie-like behaviors.
And she suddenly/loudly said: "yes! do you really have aspergers?"
I didn't know how to react to this question because my diagnosis was made when I was 15/16. It was 8 years ago. I couldn't guarantee that I didn't *fake it* or not when I was 15/16. I wasn't sure if I had the ability to fake it. I was so upset and I asked her a following question: "what make you think that I don't have Asperger's?" she replied with "even if you have it, you're really atypical you know? Because people with asperger's don't need friends and you certainly want to make friends and have their accompany."
She then said: "if in DSM5 you need 6/9 to pass the criteria, then you probably only got 4/9 or 5/9. Well, a person can't have all the illness(I have dx depression/PTSD)."
I didn't further the...

I’ve struggled with the idea of empathy. It’s seems like I either feel too much or I don’t feel anything.

https://humanparts.medium.com/empathy-is-overrated-6cf4090c601e

So our relationship has progressed, though l have no idea where but that being said, l was scratching my head at all the equally inappropriate card choices.
You are the best Mom ever, umm no. I actually mentioned,( more like unloaded), the #special relationship # she had with my brother recently. It was received with no backlash. What a relief. But it felt good to finally express it and let it go. So we still aren't super close, but she has started to see maybe somethings about my ex. He did a excellent snow job on her, as he did on me.

What type of Mother Day cards would you like to see? Ex: mother's day reminds me you need a therapist. What cards are missing? Feel free to post positive messages!