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Hi all, I would love some advice. I apologize if I say anything incorrect, I'm a little out of my realm here (and still hurting a bit). I had been dating an aspie for about 7 months (I'm NT). Some of our relationship could be rocky because he would pull away or our communication could be difficult and he was often worried about us not being able to connect because he had bad past experiences with his ex gf who was NT but I really appreciated him and wanted to work on us getting through anything he was worried about. Because we had issues, i felt like there was nothing we couldn't get through. He would sit and talk for hours to get over anything I was concerned about and same with me. I really felt like a team with him (there were things I did find hurtful he did say we could get over in time - some of the distance he needed, his bluntness, etc). But he was the best man I ever met (for me) and my best friend.
about 4.5 weeks ago, we got into a rather big fight for us. I think it...
(Not written by me)
Ajay Childs had only recently started using the school bus 'because he doesn't deal with crowds' when he came home with a broken thumb, whiplash and swelling to his face
An autistic boy was punched 10 times in the head and strangled with his own tie for having special needs, his distraught mum has claimed.
Year 10 pupil Ajay Childs, who has only recently starting using the school bus because he does not cope well with crowds, was allegedly attacked by two bullies on his way home from school on Monday.
The 15-year-old was listening to music on his headphones when the vile students launched a brutal attack in front of horrified children.
Ajay's mum Kelly said she believes her son was targeted for having special needs, and is demanding that more is done to protect vulnerable young people.
"Ajay has a broken thumb, concussion, whiplash, swelling to his face and cuts and bruises under his eye," Kelly, 36, told the Mirror Online.
"He's also still completely...
At work. Trying to concentrate. All I can hear is the cackling, shrieky, noisy gaggle of people and that's over my headphones playing some serious technical death metal.
I feel like shouting, "Shut the **** up! Did nobody teach you about indoor voices?!?!"
...but it's probably just me, my autobotism and my hyperaucusis / misophonia.
Can anyone relate?
Hello! Let me start off by saying that this isn't a troll post, or anything to start up a fight or offend people. And if I posted this in the wrong forums, apologies in advance. But recently I've been having trouble with a friend who has Aspergers, and I'm looking for tips in order to solve this particular problem I've been having with him.
First of all, I see this guy as a close friend, almost like a little brother. I've been friends with him for years, and I truly care about his well being. I try to do all I can to support him when he's down in the dumps. (Since his family is less than supportive to him emotionally) And not only that, he and I have a TON of nerdy things in common that I love chit chatting with him about.
Now, I don't want to make him look bad, nor do I want him to come off as a terrible person. But... He has absolutely no filter at all in our discussions whatsoever. Him not being 'politically correct is saying it lightly. Out of the blue, he would start...
I wonder is Aspie's are prone to stubbornness?
I'm very easy going simply because I'm not that bothered one way or the other about most things.
However, with things that are important to me, I am utterly immovable. I'm like the terminator, and I'll never stop, never give up until I get where I want to be or get destroyed by a bigger, better terminator.
I wondered to a friend whether she thought I was stubborn (I wasn't sure at the time). Her response was that I'm the most stubborn person she's ever met, and that is really saying something.
I took that as a yes.
Also as a compliment
I'm a 10.
(note - public poll)
Hi, not sure if that was the best title in terms of relevance but eh, it'll do.
Basically, I'm 17 now, nearly 18. I tried to go to college at 16 like everyone else (UK), but I couldn't due to anxiety and ended up dropping out, I've tried to go since, and also tried other pathways such as apprenticeships etc, I really do want to go to college and eventually onto university.
I thought I had found the perfect solution when I came across a college specifically for autistic "high functioning" people, which gave the option of A levels, but it wasn't all it seemed. I've since done more research and I've found a direct pattern between courses available and type of educational institution, in pretty much every case I've found, those schools/colleges that do offer A levels, offer it externally at a mainstream college and for those students who cannot attend said mainstream college, they do entry level courses such as independent living skills etcetc.
At risk of sounding vain, I've always...
I have never understood why eye contact feels such a task to do
Hated school when the teachers told me to look at them and not the floor or walls etc etc i can only explain it as someones gaze is freezing me to the spot im standing on.. Being pinned to a wall or the gaze is just knocking me backwards so i tend to look away most times
I've come to the conclusion my mum is on the spectrum as I've gone through the process of having my daughter diagnosed and recognising so many traits in myself. I stopped speaking to my mum two years ago and even now I'm sure she's Aspie I don't want contact. I just feel so angry for how she treated me growing up - she has no boundaries, will bluntly tell me in front of my kids I'm 'getting so fat you look pregnant' (currently weigh 68kg and have had five kids - so a little baggy skin around my tummy, but certainly not even slightly overweight!). She would phone guys I was dating (even in my 30's!) to meet for coffee so she could 'help' us, even admitted she was 'in love' with one guy I dated for two years and tried to sleep with him. Would phone my boss to say he needed to understand I was 'going through some stuff at home' so he could go easy on me. If she spent time with my kids and I, she would phone me later to say my daughter was 'too clingy' and I shouldn't favour her by...
If you have echolalia, like I do you have the potential of becoming a polyglot ike myself, we are like human parrots, we memorize and repeat what others say including other languages, like in my case I live and a rather diverse international area in the United States, and learned Mandarin and speak like a native and have been picking up Hindi, Korean, Tagalog,Japanese,Thai, Vietnamese, as well as Spanish, French, Farsi and a few bits and pieces of other languages out of curiousity, repetetiveness and memory retention, omg im such a freak but I cant help it. If you have echolalia you have a potential of being a polyglot like myself, the languages I speak, I sound like a native but that is just because of my memory retention of the tones spoken of the languages spoken.
question is: how do you experience mindblindness? - if you do experience it.
> mindblindness: if one is not familiar with this term; it means that you have a problem with mentalizing. quote wiki: In psychology, mentalization is the ability to understand the mental state, of oneself or others, that underlies overt behaviour. Mentalization can be seen as a form of imaginative mental activity that lets us perceive and interpret human behaviour in terms of intentional mental states (e.g., needs, desires, feelings, beliefs, goals, purposes, and reasons)
it helps to understand nonverbal signals, to relate to people, be social, to figure out what others feel and think, to take somebody else's perspective...
as for me: the greatest part of my life i have been a 100% mindblind - it's changing a little bit now, i'm practicing. before that: i only see people 'from the outside'. i can hardly imagine another mind than my own; therefore i can't really imagine what other minds are like - except...
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