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I'm throwing this out there in order to get some feedback about how to get my point across on something that is really detrimental to my relationship.
My ASD boyfriend and I have been at odds on many occasions since the US Presidential election. Not surprisingly, he tends to be very rigid in the way he sees the world. We just see things differently, but he is unable to GET that he isn't RIGHT. His beliefs are just different.
Sometimes his apparent lack of empathy toward others is truly shocking. He sees himself as compassionate, which he is toward people with whom he has a personal relationship. We are very different in this. I am a bleeding heart. I feel strongly about social justice, human rights, etc.
Since the election I've been obsessed with keeping up on the news. I belong to an activist group. I've volunteered my time for these efforts.
My bf hates the government, believes citizens can't change anything, says I'm wasting my time, says it's bad for my mental...
She just can't handle it. If I point out something another aspie author has written about their struggles, and say, "Hey I relate to this, I thought I was the only one!" she takes it to mean that I'm miserable about everything in our lives, which of course I'm not. The bottom line is I can't bring up anything about this anymore, no new discoveries, no reflections. I have no friends I talk to. I'm just totally alone in all of this.
I was just diagnosed this past summer and I'm 39.
I spend much time involuntarily held in my autistic inner world. For me, it is a powerful, dominant, default state, which I struggle to remain clear of long enough to use a sharp knife, crisis a street, go potty by myself. Many times during when I am trying to do something (like write a forum post--Ha!), my inner world will snatch me away. Eventually, I fight to come clear... to see my toast is by then burnt, or the person I was in conversation with is glaring, annoyed.
Imagine if you forget what you are doing... as you are doing it.
Paying attention long enough to use a sharp knife is risky, and being in the real world is
Ike a. Us le I try to flex.. but it doesn't last long before inner world snatches me away again.
Anyway, I spend my entire life constantly "coming to"--- like waking up after surgery, or like when you went to the bathroom during the commercial break and do. der what you missed of your TV show.
I get panicky as several times during a bus ride, or in a car...
world autism awareness day is on sunday the 2nd of april.
im wondering what id could do to help make some awareness,i might speak to the company who supports me to see about doing a talk about autism for the staff.
you could do anything for WAAD,things like special blog write ups on the day and on autism are common every year,some people raise money for autism charities on the day and so forth.
come on,lets get some ideas together,maybe we as a community could do something together? one idea thats just popped in my head,we all say abit about how autism affects us,and someone who is pretty skilled with video software could merge them all so we have one long video of how autism affects our awesome community? just a thought,i dont know if it is a crap idea.
Anyone else have this problem? That you want to do the same activity or thing over and over again. The mere thought of doing something different stresses you out. To the point that you usually don't try something new?
I've been having this problem forever. Especially with video games. Or t.v. shows.
I always play Sims 2 on my computer or Sims 4.
But today I decided to try something different, Sims 3. I feel stressed out playing it because it's something new. But at the same time, am forcing myself to try something new. Since I never try anything new. In terms of games in this case.
1) Afraid of the future and the passing of time as it could bring bad things to my life
2) Afraid of losing my parents (as I’d be devastated and struggle to cope without them)
Afraid of depression/anxiety as it can almost mentally incapacitate me for a while and I’m holding back tears
3) Afraid of growing old or seeing those I know or care about grow old.
4) Afraid of rejection/failure as it makes me feel inadequate and hits my self-esteem
5) Afraid of being alone or uncared for (women aren’t supposed to love me and I struggle making new friends)
6) Afraid of obsessive or self-destructive thoughts that cause chaos in my mind
7) Afraid of forgetting things and losing my memory (as I live for the things that were once great in my life)
8) Afraid of attractive women (as I know how my unwanted hypersexual side will perceive them and create problems for me)
Everyone something that really important things to say and I get upset and frustrated but I don't know how to say it or even how to think it a way.
It's not like you're upset for no reason you're clearly upset for real reason it's just that you can't communicate those thoughts in the ideas and talking dialogue gets messed up in your head.
This is usually when I have shut downs and cry sometimes when I can't get anything through to other people.
And trying to write though it doesn't help either.
And this is somewhat want to say I'm partially verbal because it's very difficult to communicate my wants and needs the people sometimes extremely with feelings.
If I try to wright anything through even on here most to sometimes I'll get writers block. I won't be able to formulate the sentences or paragraphs to type. This is another reason why I don't write on here that often .
I just finished reading this and maybe my interpretation is way off base, but it seems like a bitter angry person wrote this trash after a break up of some sort. Some of the issues raised are good food for thought. However, I find it pure Aspie bashing. Saying we torture and abuse the people in our lives! I'm waving the bull spit flag on this.
Is OTRS real?
Is this link biased?
Am I justified in feeling insulted as an Aspie?
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