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If you have echolalia, like I do you have the potential of becoming a polyglot ike myself, we are like human parrots, we memorize and repeat what others say including other languages, like in my case I live and a rather diverse international area in the United States, and learned Mandarin and speak like a native and have been picking up Hindi, Korean, Tagalog,Japanese,Thai, Vietnamese, as well as Spanish, French, Farsi and a few bits and pieces of other languages out of curiousity, repetetiveness and memory retention, omg im such a freak but I cant help it. If you have echolalia you have a potential of being a polyglot like myself, the languages I speak, I sound like a native but that is just because of my memory retention of the tones spoken of the languages spoken.
question is: how do you experience mindblindness? - if you do experience it.
> mindblindness: if one is not familiar with this term; it means that you have a problem with mentalizing. quote wiki: In psychology, mentalization is the ability to understand the mental state, of oneself or others, that underlies overt behaviour. Mentalization can be seen as a form of imaginative mental activity that lets us perceive and interpret human behaviour in terms of intentional mental states (e.g., needs, desires, feelings, beliefs, goals, purposes, and reasons)
it helps to understand nonverbal signals, to relate to people, be social, to figure out what others feel and think, to take somebody else's perspective...
as for me: the greatest part of my life i have been a 100% mindblind - it's changing a little bit now, i'm practicing. before that: i only see people 'from the outside'. i can hardly imagine another mind than my own; therefore i can't really imagine what other minds are like - except...
All these years of being misunderstood, not to mention failed relationships, trying to figure out why I can't relate to most people has made my life quite difficult. After finding out through online assessments (no official diagnosis due to financial issues) that I was on the spectrum about a month or so ago, I feel it was bittersweet. I'm glad I have knowledge of it, but at the same time I'm wondering where to go from here. I don't have the emotional energy to date right now. I'd really like to hear from others.
i find it very hard to hate/dislike someone even if i logically believe i should, and in the past the few times i have felt dislike for someone it fades quickly. i was just wondering if any of you other aspies ever run into this. (also i count this as the reason that i can not understand why anyone would have bigotry for any other human)
Channel 4 here in the UK conducting a survey in conjunction with the Autism Research Centre with Professor Simon Baron-Cohen. The data will be used in a new programme called How Autistic Are You? You also have the choice of allowing Cambridge University to use your data anonymously too.
40 questions, 5 minutes. Have a go if you're interested.
How Autistic Are You? - All 4
I've started to examine how experiences affect me.
I've had problems with shutdown through sensory over load the last few weeks without giving myself enough recovery time, whichever dragged it out over nearly two weeks on and off.
The way I experience overload and shutdown is that I first feel a slight numbness. Its hard to say exactly where, but the feeling of numbness creeps into my existence at first at the peripheries. It's not yet starting to affect anything, and now is the time to...
I find I am extremely adverse to coffee shops and restaurants attempting to be 'trendy' and offering communal seating. These fill me with so much dread and anxiety that I refuse to eat there.
They have the warmth of a prison lunchroom (guessing) and the forced social awkwardness of a wedding where you are the plus one and don't know anyone.
They make no sense to me other than to squeeze in as many patrons as they can whilst saving on comfort and privacy. So from a trader's perspective, it might be appealing, but if people are uncomfortable and avoid your establishment, then it is counter productive.
However, my local ones are packed with people. Bursting at the seams full. I don't get it.
I also hate the "industrial look" with their hard, metal, uncomfortable chairs and fluro lighting...
Do they affect anyone else this strongly?
Just saw a post about NTs feeling traumatized in a relationship with an Aspie. The article describing the relationship trauma might have been written by my spouse, who is often convinced he "bought a lemon" when he fell in love with me. He also thinks I use my AS diagnosis as an excuse to get a free pass on responsibility for temper tantrums, social gaffes and so on.
My mother thought she bought lemons too when she found motherhood so hard, she put my sister and me in an orphanage- so this lemon thing just pisses me off.
My husband feels held back by a spouse who is not a true partner; I point out that a "normal" person could not keep up with him. I feel like it would take Superwoman to please him, much less an Aspie! But his idea that pretty much everything is my fault is insulting because, heaven knows, I try. It's like I'm the dairy maid who married the lord of the manor- from another planet!
Back to the toxic relationship thing, I don't think NTs acknowledge the pressure...
I am the mother of a son who is on the spectrum. While he was diagnosed several years ago, I have known that he processed things differently for a long time. I thought the diagnosis gave Me Something to work with; and I some ways it has, but it also creates a lot of questions.
When I look at lists of Asperger traits many of them fit but many do not. As a parent I want to be understanding and be supportive, but at the same time I also want to instill proper values. By values, I mean honesty, trustworthiness, consideration, kindness, etc.
My son who is 17 seems to lack impulse control. Not hyperactivity or in a Tourette's manner, but if he wants something he will take it regardless of the situation. I try to explain why the particular behavior is wrong, but he always has a justification for his poor behavior. The way he so easily rationalizes his dishonesty truly scares me because I am afraid that if he carries this behavior outside the house it will...
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