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Asperger's & Autism Forum
I always try and be honest as possible, but in truth I am diagnosed with mostly high functioning Autism and other stuff. I often just try and run under the radar with Asperger's, just because to tell someone I have Autism (and all the add ons) just makes me feel lesser of a human maybe? It makes me feel stupid, or weak, and I'm not.
Asperger's just sounds less harsh, less formal, less labeled. Yet, I sort of feel like a liar and that bothers me? When I am forced into discussing this in person (which makes me very uncomfortable) Do you think its okay to just say Asperger's... I have a reason for asking.
I have said Asperger's, and people just usually roll with it, and all is basically cool, but you say Autism and people often get cold, or awkward, or ask some really stupid questions that I don't want to deal with. Some have even made some reasonably ugly remarks and it sucks.
You can be honest with your answers... I asked for the honesty, so say what you think.
Whenever I try to get to know someone I always except someone to speak to me first. Sometimes when I speak first I don't know what to say or afraid I might say something wrong or werid. With people having attitudes and being self absorbed these days people can just be mean when i only want to introduce myself. Is there any advice on how to be more confident towards anyone you want to meet?
There's a song I remember that goes something like "where's your head at...".
I suspect that people on the spectrum are rarely present in the now and don't always fully engage.
My head is always in the future, I'm so involved in what will happen that I barely notice what is happening. Sometimes I will make a sandwich, look down and it's gone. I've eaten it and have no memory of having done so (which is always a shame because I love eating).
Or I'll look down at my hand and actually be surprised at what I am holding. I won't have any memory of having picked it up.
So my head is either 5 years in the future or in my own fantasy worlds. Is this an aspie thing? Where (or when) is your head normally at?
I notice that there seems to not really be any formal social skills training for neurotypicals. It's just assumed I guess that neurotypicals naturally are good with social interactions, but there are lots of NTs I've seen that are pretty inept socially. I think it would be beneficial for all neurotypes to have to take social skills classes in school, rather than just assume that neurotypicals are great at social skills, because that's clearly not an accurate assumption.
My mom thinks all therapists are the same and also thinks I have more than Asperger's. I've tried them in the past and it made things worse. I need someone with knowledge about Asperger's who won't just dismiss everything as Borderline Personality disorder.
I don't know why I'm so damn obsessed with this seemingly minor topic, but's it's managed to become a real insecurity of mine.
I just can't figure out why I lack the "vocabulary" of quips and one-liners that most everyone else seems to possess. I wonder: What in particular causes me to have this issue? I'm not even remotely focused on appearing witty, I just want to be able to function normally in conversations/banter with co-workers and other forced acquaintances.
People will often make these friendly quips at me, and I'll either be silent or just make a stupid throwaway comment like "I know, right?" or "you're right about that". I just can't think of anything else to say and I must seem so terribly boring after a while. When other people are in this situation, they always have something to say in reply that passes as a "funny" or "witty" comment. To me, it almost appears as if the conversations are scripted.
I would like to improve in this area because A) It would make many...
The aspie ex has been in touch wanting to meet up. I said an evening at the end of the week would work, he contacted me Thursday afternoon asking to meet that evening - I already had plans and replied that I could do Friday evening instead would that work for him?
No reply - and this was quite a common thing in our relationship, simply zilch on the communication front (by text usually) when I ask a question. It makes it difficult to plan anything and I'm not willing to put my if on hold pending anothers' decision making.
Has anyone any experience? I'm an aspie and I tend to be somewhat forgetful in replying if I'm overwhelmed with busyness, but if a question's been asked I nearly always will reply reasonably promptly - it seems polite to do so.
Maybe this is some kind of commitment issues or something? Or a symptom of the communication challenges that come with AS - although to be honest it seemed pretty straightforward to me - I couldn't do last minute on Thursday, asked if we...
The phobias I’m referring to are not the usual like a fear of spiders, a fear of heights, a fear of water, etc. The type I’m referring to are those odd things that almost border on OCPD.
Based on what I have observed it seems that those on the spectrum tend to have more personal phobias about one thing or another than others, so I thought it might be interesting to see what phobias we share and perhaps discuss it.
Like many, I have a fear of spiders. However, that’s not what this is about. My “odd phobia” is dented cans. If I find a dented can in the pantry, it goes in the trash. Even as a child I had a thing about dented cans.
Another one is the way I walk to the mailbox. In fact, I’ve had neighbors make a comment about it; those people really need to get a life. I have a certain path that I take around my car each way.
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